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Is my relationship worth saving? Will the trust ever come back? How can things be good between us again? Whether broken trust is due to daily dishonesties, a monumental betrayal, or even a history of hurts from the past, it can put a relationship at risk. This is the first book to show you exactly what to do to restore trust in your relationship, regardless of how it was damaged.

In this complete guide, couples therapist Mira Kirshenbaum will also help you understand the stages by which trust strengthens when the rebuilding process is allowed to take place. And you will learn how the two of you can avoid the mistakes that prevent healing and discover how to feel secure with each other again.

©2012 Mira Kirshenbaum (P)2016 Tantor

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Amazing advice

This woman is incredibly insightful and a beautiful soul. She gave me practical advice and tools for deep introspection.

As for the reviews about her swearing....

Effing grow up. It was appropriate when used. She identified with my emotions through the use of those words. Your offense to language is NOT a reason to disregard this amazing work.

4 of 4 people found this review helpful

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Very eye opening!

This book really helped me understand there are different kinds of betrayal that eat away at trust. I always new I didn't feel safe in my relationship of 26 years, but I couldn't put my finger on it. This book opened my eyes and confirmed my feelings, helped me put a label to what I was feeling which also confirmed that no I am not crazy and no I am not being unreasonable. I read this book in 3 days! By the way I'm an MFT and I will definitely be using what I learned from this book with my clients. So so good!

2 of 2 people found this review helpful

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useful for many situations and from both sides

This book is for mistrust in all types of situations (secrecy, cheating, lies, hidden financial situations....all mistrust) . Also covers the perspectives of both parties .....the person who committed the mistrust and the person who lost trust. Helps make you feel normal and not alone and tells you how to rebuild or leave.

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It was very helpful and I loved the examples

Would you listen to I Love You but I Don’t Trust You again? Why?

The book explained a variety of different types of trust issues and represented both point of views (that of the person without trust and their partner). Great examples were given. I recommended it to my sister, she found it helpful. I also had my partner listen to parts of the audio so that he could better understand things from my POV. He found it eye opening.

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Restoring Trust is Hard

As a repeat offender of losing trust with the one I love, this book helped me understand the patterns of my behavior and the responses from partner. It takes work and isn't easy but the author gives tangible suggestions on steps you can take to start building again.

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I'm a better person since reading this.

Would you listen to I Love You but I Don’t Trust You again? Why?

I started readying this book because I felt betrayed. As the words continued, it was like a light bulb went off. If I want to be able to trust again, then I really need to change the way I looked and acted about the situation. I completely surprised my husband by this and he is skeptical still, but by changing the way I reacted to things (the opposite of what I would normally do) I found that I could be more open and understanding to what happened. I figured it would take a long time to get over, but it didn't and I am much happier because of it. I shared this book with my husband so hopefully it helps him as well. I highly recommend this book.

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Exactly what I needed. Thank you!

Very insightful. This is THE road map back to trust. This was exactly what I needed. Thank you!

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Defends the cheater/betrayer, blames the victim

Horrid book that repeatedly defends the actions of the cheater/betrayer, glossing over it as a "mistake" that should just be forgiven and forgotten, while downplaying the deep hurt and brokenheartedness of the one who was betrayed.

I found this author's approach to betrayal and shattered trust appalling as entirely insensitive. She even justifies reasons the person betrayed! Like the story of Rebecca, a busy lawyer working long hours, and her husband Daniel, a musician and composer who "felt lonely, missing Rebecca" when he was at home giving private guitar lessons... And then having sex with one of his female guitar students. Boohoo! But he was so LONELY....

Rubbish!! I seriously want to smack this author for her pathetic attitudes.

Returned the book today. No more.

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Eye opening!!

Really enjoyed this book, it helped me see how holding onto my anger and distrust in an attempt to protect myself was actually causing more damage to an already fragile relationship.

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Just what I needed to start my healing journey.

Just what I needed to start my healing journey. great tools to mend a broken heart.