-
Not 'Just Friends'
- Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity
- Narrated by: Laural Merlington
- Length: 15 hrs and 10 mins
- Unabridged Audiobook
- Categories: Relationships, Parenting & Personal Development, Personal Development
Add to Cart failed.
Add to Wish List failed.
Remove from wishlist failed.
Adding to library failed
Follow podcast failed
Unfollow podcast failed
Buy for $31.49
No default payment method selected.
We are sorry. We are not allowed to sell this product with the selected payment method
Listeners also enjoyed...
-
After the Affair, Third Edition
- Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful
- By: Janis A. Spring
- Narrated by: Xe Sands
- Length: 9 hrs and 19 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
From a clinical psychologist who served as a clinical supervisor in the Department of Psychology at Yale University, received the CPA’s award for Distinguished Contribution to the Practice of Psychology, and has treated couples and trained therapists for over four decades, this newly updated, award-winning book provides concrete, proven strategies for those who seek to survive their partner’s infidelity and to rebuild the relationship after an affair. This new third edition of After the Affair helps guide both hurt and unfaithful partners through three stages of healing.
-
-
Perfect !!!!
- By Christopher Hanson on 04-11-21
By: Janis A. Spring
-
I Love You but I Don’t Trust You
- The Complete Guide to Restoring Trust in Your Relationship
- By: Mira Kirshenbaum
- Narrated by: Emily Durante
- Length: 7 hrs and 24 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
Is my relationship worth saving? Will the trust ever come back? How can things be good between us again? Whether broken trust is due to daily dishonesties, a monumental betrayal, or even a history of hurts from the past, it can put a relationship at risk. This is the first book to show you exactly what to do to restore trust in your relationship, regardless of how it was damaged.
-
-
Amazing advice
- By mizzaga on 01-13-17
By: Mira Kirshenbaum
-
The State of Affairs
- Rethinking Infidelity
- By: Esther Perel
- Narrated by: Esther Perel
- Length: 11 hrs and 57 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
An affair: It can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. And yet this extremely common human experience is so poorly understood. Adultery has existed since marriage was invented, and so, too, the prohibition against it - in fact it has a tenacity that marriage can only envy. Iconic couples' therapist and best-selling author of Mating in Captivity Esther Perel returns with a groundbreaking and provocative look at infidelity, arguing for a more nuanced and less judgmental conversation about our transgressions.
-
-
A compassionate approach
- By Anonymous User on 10-16-17
By: Esther Perel
-
Transcending Post-Infidelity Stress Disorder
- The Six Stages of Healing
- By: Dennis C. Ortman PhD
- Narrated by: Paul Brion
- Length: 9 hrs and 15 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
The phrase "broken heart" belies the real trauma behind the all-too-common occurrence of infidelity. Psychologist Dennis Ortman likens the psychological aftermath of sexual betrayal to post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) in its origin and symptoms, including anxiety, irritability, rage, emotional numbing, and flashbacks. Dr. Ortman sees recovery as a spiritual journey and draws on the wisdom of diverse faiths, from Christianity to Buddhism. He also offers exercises to deepen recovery, such as guided meditations and journaling.
-
-
Religious Slant Takes Away from Seriousness
- By Damon Devine on 07-16-20
-
Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life
- The Chump Lady's Survival Guide
- By: Tracy Schorn
- Narrated by: Laura Copland
- Length: 6 hrs and 36 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life is a no-nonsense self-help guide for anyone who has ever been cheated on. Here's advice not based on saving your relationship after infidelity - but saving your sanity. When it comes to cheating, a lot of the attention is focused on cheaters - their unmet needs or their challenges with monogamy. But Tracy Schorn (aka Chump Lady) lampoons such blameshifting and puts the focus squarely on the cheated-upon (chumps) and their needs.
-
-
If you have had multiple D-Days BUY this book now
- By Dr. Caroline Madden on 06-07-19
By: Tracy Schorn
-
How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair
- A Compact Manual for the Unfaithful
- By: Linda J. MacDonald
- Narrated by: Tamara Marston
- Length: 2 hrs and 7 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
Once an affair comes to light, many unfaithful persons "wake up" and want to save their marriages. Yet they usually make terrible mistakes in their bungled attempts to win back their partners' trust. Linda J. MacDonald, an infidelity specialist for 23 years, has identified behaviors and attitudes that determine unfaithful persons' success or failure to mend their marriages after the wrecking ball of an affair. How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair offers practical advice for those who've strayed and want a second chance.
-
-
great book, very helpful!
- By Jamie on 04-21-16
-
After the Affair, Third Edition
- Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful
- By: Janis A. Spring
- Narrated by: Xe Sands
- Length: 9 hrs and 19 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
From a clinical psychologist who served as a clinical supervisor in the Department of Psychology at Yale University, received the CPA’s award for Distinguished Contribution to the Practice of Psychology, and has treated couples and trained therapists for over four decades, this newly updated, award-winning book provides concrete, proven strategies for those who seek to survive their partner’s infidelity and to rebuild the relationship after an affair. This new third edition of After the Affair helps guide both hurt and unfaithful partners through three stages of healing.
-
-
Perfect !!!!
- By Christopher Hanson on 04-11-21
By: Janis A. Spring
-
I Love You but I Don’t Trust You
- The Complete Guide to Restoring Trust in Your Relationship
- By: Mira Kirshenbaum
- Narrated by: Emily Durante
- Length: 7 hrs and 24 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
Is my relationship worth saving? Will the trust ever come back? How can things be good between us again? Whether broken trust is due to daily dishonesties, a monumental betrayal, or even a history of hurts from the past, it can put a relationship at risk. This is the first book to show you exactly what to do to restore trust in your relationship, regardless of how it was damaged.
-
-
Amazing advice
- By mizzaga on 01-13-17
By: Mira Kirshenbaum
-
The State of Affairs
- Rethinking Infidelity
- By: Esther Perel
- Narrated by: Esther Perel
- Length: 11 hrs and 57 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
An affair: It can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. And yet this extremely common human experience is so poorly understood. Adultery has existed since marriage was invented, and so, too, the prohibition against it - in fact it has a tenacity that marriage can only envy. Iconic couples' therapist and best-selling author of Mating in Captivity Esther Perel returns with a groundbreaking and provocative look at infidelity, arguing for a more nuanced and less judgmental conversation about our transgressions.
-
-
A compassionate approach
- By Anonymous User on 10-16-17
By: Esther Perel
-
Transcending Post-Infidelity Stress Disorder
- The Six Stages of Healing
- By: Dennis C. Ortman PhD
- Narrated by: Paul Brion
- Length: 9 hrs and 15 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
The phrase "broken heart" belies the real trauma behind the all-too-common occurrence of infidelity. Psychologist Dennis Ortman likens the psychological aftermath of sexual betrayal to post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) in its origin and symptoms, including anxiety, irritability, rage, emotional numbing, and flashbacks. Dr. Ortman sees recovery as a spiritual journey and draws on the wisdom of diverse faiths, from Christianity to Buddhism. He also offers exercises to deepen recovery, such as guided meditations and journaling.
-
-
Religious Slant Takes Away from Seriousness
- By Damon Devine on 07-16-20
-
Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life
- The Chump Lady's Survival Guide
- By: Tracy Schorn
- Narrated by: Laura Copland
- Length: 6 hrs and 36 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life is a no-nonsense self-help guide for anyone who has ever been cheated on. Here's advice not based on saving your relationship after infidelity - but saving your sanity. When it comes to cheating, a lot of the attention is focused on cheaters - their unmet needs or their challenges with monogamy. But Tracy Schorn (aka Chump Lady) lampoons such blameshifting and puts the focus squarely on the cheated-upon (chumps) and their needs.
-
-
If you have had multiple D-Days BUY this book now
- By Dr. Caroline Madden on 06-07-19
By: Tracy Schorn
-
How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair
- A Compact Manual for the Unfaithful
- By: Linda J. MacDonald
- Narrated by: Tamara Marston
- Length: 2 hrs and 7 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
Once an affair comes to light, many unfaithful persons "wake up" and want to save their marriages. Yet they usually make terrible mistakes in their bungled attempts to win back their partners' trust. Linda J. MacDonald, an infidelity specialist for 23 years, has identified behaviors and attitudes that determine unfaithful persons' success or failure to mend their marriages after the wrecking ball of an affair. How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair offers practical advice for those who've strayed and want a second chance.
-
-
great book, very helpful!
- By Jamie on 04-21-16
-
What Makes Love Last?
- How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal
- By: Nan Silver, John M. Gottman
- Narrated by: Peter Berkrot
- Length: 7 hrs and 8 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
Dr. John Gottman, the country's preeminent researcher on marriage, is famous for his Love Lab at the University of Washington in Seattle where he deciphers the mysteries of human relationships through scientific research. His 35 years of exploration have earned him numerous awards, including from the National Institute of Mental Health, the American Psychological Association, and the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. Now, Dr. Gottman offers surprising findings and advice on the characteristic that is at the heart of all relationships: trust.
-
-
Really Good.
- By Ken Corbett on 10-08-12
By: Nan Silver, and others
-
Should I Stay or Should I Go?
- Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist
- By: Ramani Durvasula PhD
- Narrated by: Ramani Durvasula PhD
- Length: 10 hrs and 46 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
Should I Stay or Should I Go? is a survival manual, a guidebook, and a shot of reality. Some people will never change, and kissing frogs is the stuff of fairy tales, not real life. The Beast never turns out to be a nice guy (or gal). This is a book that breaks down what mean people do to us, how they do it, and what we can do to survive.
-
-
Wake up call !
- By sashy on 08-18-16
-
When Good People Have Affairs
- Inside the Hearts & Minds of People in Two Relationships
- By: Mira Kirshenbaum
- Narrated by: Callie Beaulieu
- Length: 6 hrs and 28 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
A world-renowned therapist, Mira Kirshenbaum has treated thousands of people caught in the powerful drama over what to do when an affair rocks their emotional lives. Now, in When Good People Have Affairs, Kirshenbaum puts her unsurpassed experience into one clear, calming place. She leads listeners through six easy-to-navigate steps that will take anyone from anxiety to clarity, and identifies 17 types of affairs, helping listeners figure out which type they're in and what it means.
-
-
Digs Deep
- By atb on 09-29-18
By: Mira Kirshenbaum
-
Attached
- The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love
- By: Amir Levine, Rachel Heller
- Narrated by: Robert Petkoff
- Length: 7 hrs and 6 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
We already rely on science to tell us what to eat, when to exercise, and how long to sleep. Why not use science to help us improve our relationships? In this revolutionary book, psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller scientifically explain why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle.
-
-
Good book - just not a good one for Audible
- By Mark on 02-01-20
By: Amir Levine, and others
-
The Science of Trust
- Emotional Attunement for Couples
- By: John M. Gottman Ph.D.
- Narrated by: J. Charles
- Length: 16 hrs and 25 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
For the past 35 years, John Gottman’s research has been internationally recognized for its unprecedented ability to precisely measure interactive processes in couples and to predict the long-term success or failure of relationships. In this groundbreaking book, he presents a new approach to understanding and changing couples: a fundamental social skill called “emotional attunement,” which describes a couple’s ability to fully process and move on from negative emotional events, ultimately creating a stronger relationship.
-
-
Technical version of his other book
- By SoCalSkills on 07-26-17
-
Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay
- Decide Whether to Stay In or Get Out of Your Relationship
- By: Mira Kirshenbaum
- Narrated by: Adriane McNeely
- Length: 8 hrs and 33 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
To make up or break up? Whether you’re just getting serious or have a long-term commitment, no other question causes so much heartache and self-doubt. Many other books tell you how to fix your relationship. This groundbreaking bestseller is the first one to help you choose whether you should try—or you need to go.
-
-
Amazing
- By Danielle on 09-26-11
By: Mira Kirshenbaum
-
Becoming the Narcissist's Nightmare
- How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself
- By: Shahida Arabi
- Narrated by: Julie McKay
- Length: 19 hrs and 10 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
Although clinical research has been conducted on narcissism as a disorder, less is known about its effects on victims who are in toxic relationships with partners with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Individuals with this disorder engage in chronic devaluation and manipulation of their partners, a psychological and emotional phenomenon known as "narcissistic abuse". Unfortunately, the full extent of what narcissistic abuse entails is not taught in any psychology class or diagnostic manual.
-
-
Excellent book
- By Cheryl on 03-20-17
By: Shahida Arabi
-
Loving Your Spouse When You Feel Like Walking Away
- By: Gary Chapman
- Narrated by: Chris Fabry
- Length: 6 hrs and 47 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
When you said, “I do”, you entered marriage with high hopes, dreaming it would be supremely happy. You never intended for it to be miserable. Millions of couples are struggling in desperate marriages. But the story doesn’t have to end there. Dr. Gary Chapman writes, “I believe that in every troubled marriage, one or both partners can take positive steps that have the potential for changing the emotional climate in their marriage.”
-
-
Great book
- By Jonesboy9191 on 07-10-18
By: Gary Chapman
-
Getting Past the Affair
- A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On - Together or Apart
- By: Kristina Coop Gordon PhD, Donald H. Baucom PhD, Douglas K. Snyder PhD
- Narrated by: Coleen Marlo
- Length: 11 hrs and 50 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
Discovering that a partner has been unfaithful hits you like an earthquake. Long after the first jolt, emotional aftershocks can make it difficult to be there for your family, manage your daily life, and think clearly about your options. Whether you want to end the relationship or piece things back together, Getting Past the Affair guides you through the initial trauma so you can understand what happened and why before deciding how to move forward.
-
-
AudioBook needs PDF file
- By Mariama S Jalloh-Heyward on 02-26-19
By: Kristina Coop Gordon PhD, and others
-
After the Affair
- Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful
- By: Janis Abrahms Spring Ph.D., Michael Spring
- Narrated by: Janis Abrahams Spring Ph.D.
- Length: 2 hrs and 57 mins
- Abridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
Many times infidelity is the death of a relationship - but an affair doesn't have to mean the end. Realistic ways of coping with pain, restoring self-esteem, and rebuilding trust and intimacy are available for the first time on audio in this guide by Dr. Janis Abrahms Spring. Dr. Spring is one of the few clinical psychologists in the US who specializes in infidelity. She offers original and proven strategies to those seeking guidance, sympathy, and solutions, laying to rest blame and recrimination and focusing instead on recovery.
-
-
aabbreviated
- By ABKay on 04-08-17
By: Janis Abrahms Spring Ph.D., and others
-
Anatomy of an Affair
- How Affairs, Attractions, and Addictions Develop, and How to Guard Your Marriage Against Them
- By: Dave Carder
- Narrated by: Tom Parks
- Length: 5 hrs and 43 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
When it comes to adultery, never say, "It won't happen to me." Just when you think your marriage is safe from adultery is when you may be the most vulnerable. With eye-opening stories, clinical insights, and up-to-date data, Dave Carder reveals what adulterers learned the hard way - and what they want the rest of us to know to save us the pain.
-
-
Very good!
- By Antonio C. Inostroza on 08-18-19
By: Dave Carder
-
How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It
- By: Patricia Love, Steven Stosny
- Narrated by: Laural Merlington
- Length: 6 hrs and 49 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
Men are right. The "relationship talk" does not help. Dr. Patricia Love’s and Dr. Steven Stosny’s How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It reveals the stunning truth about marital happiness: Love is not about better communication. It's about connection.
-
-
Why he doesn't like to listen or talk about it!
- By AudioAddict on 01-31-16
By: Patricia Love, and others
Publisher's Summary
Good people in good marriages are having affairs. The workplace and the Internet have become fertile breeding grounds for “friendships” that can slowly and insidiously turn into love affairs. Yet you can protect your relationship from emotional or sexual betrayal by recognizing the red flags that mark the stages of slipping into an improper, dangerous intimacy that can threaten your marriage.
Critic Reviews
More from the same
What listeners say about Not 'Just Friends'
Average Customer RatingsReviews - Please select the tabs below to change the source of reviews.
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
- K
- 02-04-17
WORST to Read/Listen to if you are well past D Day
What would have made Not 'Just Friends' better?
Sordid details of the cheater's EXACT experiences made me sick. Thumbs down, does not help someone trying to move on from those images in a now healthier marriage. Made my days more difficult.
Would you ever listen to anything by Shirley P. Glass and Jean Coppock Staeheli again?
No
What reaction did this book spark in you? Anger, sadness, disappointment?
Extremely unhelpful to the person who is 18 months or more past D Day. Truly do not want to hear the turmoil & details from the cheater's point of view. THIS DID NOT HELP ME! It simply created more questions in my head when I'm trying to move on with a changed person I HATED THIS BOOK!
13 people found this helpful
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
- Mr. Extra
- 09-19-13
Ever heard 'Just Friends' or I love you BUT...
If you could sum up Not 'Just Friends' in three words, what would they be?
This book is for anyone who has ever heard 'we are just friends' or I love you but i'm not in love with you or been involved in an affair (the betrayed, the affair partner OR lover) or even if you are trying to 'affair proof' your marriage... this book hits all angles and is very well written.
I highly recommend it.
What other book might you compare Not 'Just Friends' to and why?
What makes love last or Hold me tight - because all three are a must have for all marriages.
What does Laural Merlington bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?
Very well read, it is a pleasure to listen too.
What insight do you think you’ll apply from Not 'Just Friends'?
Understanding affairs from many angles in an insightful way.
Any additional comments?
If your life has been touched by an affair, even if it is past and long gone... read this book.
4 people found this helpful
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
- Arleen
- 11-05-12
This book has changed my life. Amazing!
Where does Not 'Just Friends' rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?
By far, the best self-help book that I've ever bought.
What did you like best about this story?
The book has changed my whole perspective on infedelity. I really CAN conquer infedelity and recuperate from it.
What about Laural Merlington’s performance did you like?
I wish I had even a 1/3 of her vocabulary! She's a walking dictionary which makes listening, much more attention-grabbing.
Did you have an extreme reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?
The whole book reached to the depths of my soul and gently pulled me up. I no longer feel guilt, blame, shame or defective. It's not me.
Any additional comments?
This book is for the cheater and the cheated. It's for before, during and after infedelity. A MUST read for anyone entering a relationship of any kind.
8 people found this helpful
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
- Layla🦋
- 09-10-20
Must read
Infidelity is a reality and happens more than you think. Read it if you’re in a relationship or going to be
3 people found this helpful
-
Overall
- Jacqui Martin
- 02-28-18
Content is good but reader/voice is cold and robotic
People recovering from infidelity need comfort, wisdom, counseling and warmth. Lots of good info here but the audio is so impersonal and offputting that I couldn't get past the first 20 mins. Very unfortunate.
3 people found this helpful
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
- Laura L. Tranbarger
- 02-05-15
Incredibly beneficial!
This allowed us to get the immediate help we needed while waiting on or in between counseling sessions. I highly recommend it.
6 people found this helpful
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
- timtam
- 10-02-15
Affair Recovery Manual and More
Any additional comments?
This book is really comprehensive on this topic. It gives examples as well as suggestions regarding how to understand how certain kinds of affairs happen. It also talks about recovery from affairs and what helps and hinders. If you are looking for support on this journey, this book will do the trick. The only drawback, has probably to do with the difficulty of the subject matter, not the skill of the author or reader. It's a big book and a long audiobook, it's easy to get worn out listening without taking breaks. Potentially, the author could have condensed some material, but again, maybe not.
5 people found this helpful
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
- None
- 01-30-16
read and listened
read 50 articles online...read 10 books about infadelity , tapes...this was the best bar none
4 people found this helpful
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
- Nicaro
- 08-19-20
A must read book if you are dealing with an infidelity
A excellent book about infidelity. It cove
rs everything. I have read several self help books on the subject,and this book clearly is the best. When it telling about recovery and healing and possibly making a marriage work. Almost impossible unless the other spouse is willing to read the book also. This way you’re both are on the same page, and know what is expected of each other to recover. Which in my case has not, so trying to recover a marriage on a one way street is effortless. I have read the book and then bought the Audible and listened to it. I highly recommend this book if you are trying to recover together, or if you just end up recovering alone. I give this book 5 stars. I don’t know if this is an allowed but I also recommend another book called Surviving Infidelity by Rona B. Subotnik, L.M.F.T., and Gloria G. Harris, Ph.D.
1 person found this helpful
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
- Anonymous User
- 08-02-20
good listen
Some very good points made in this book. My only issue with this book was its length. I believe the same stories and points they were making could be made without all the extra details that don't really make any difference to the overall lesson. Still worth it and something I will listen to again.
1 person found this helpful