The New Codependency

Help and Guidance for Today's Generation
Narrated by: Lorna Raver
Length: 10 hrs and 19 mins
4.5 out of 5 stars (488 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

In Codependent No More, Melody Beattie introduced the world to the term codependency. Now a modern classic, this book established Beattie as a pioneer in self-help literature and endeared her to millions of people who longed for healthier relationships. Twenty-five years later, concepts such as "self-care" and "setting boundaries" have become entrenched in mainstream culture.

Now Beattie has written a follow-up volume, The New Codependency, which clears up misconceptions about codependency, identifies how codependent behavior has changed, and provides a new generation with a road map to wellness.

The question remains: What is and what isn't codependency? Beattie here reminds us that much of codependency is normal behavior. It's about crossing lines. There are times we do too much, care too much, feel too little, or overly engage. Feeling resentment after giving is not the same as heartfelt generosity. Narcissism and self-love, enabling and nurturing, and controlling and setting boundaries are not interchangeable terms.

In The New Codependency, Beattie explores these differences, effectively invoking her own inspiring story and those of others, to empower us to step out of the victim role forever. Codependency, she shows, is not an illness but rather a series of behaviors that once broken down and analyzed can be successfully combated.

Each section offers an overview of and a series of activities pertaining to a particular behavior - caretaking, controlling, manipulation, denial, repression, etc. - enabling us to personalize our own step-by-step guide to wellness. These sections, in conjunction with a series of tests allowing us to assess the level of our codependent behavior, demonstrate that while it may not seem possible now, we have the power to take care of ourselves, no matter what we are experiencing.

Punctuated with Beattie's renowned candor and intuitive wisdom, The New Codependency is an owner's manual to learnin...

©2009 Melody Beattie (P)2009 Tantor

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Please offer with different narrator

I've read other books of Melody Beattie's and love them. I've listened for about an hour to this one and the information is great. However, the narrators voice is reminiscent of a controlling matriarchal character from the victorian era ---- ironic. I'm not sure I can stand her for 10 hours.

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Hard to listen to

I thoroughly enjoyed the audio version of Codependent No More and have listened to it to help me get through some times. The speaker on that book sounds compassionate and like she understands what she's reading.

The speaker on this book sounds like she's reading a script and her inflections throw off the spirit behind the passage she's reading.

There may be some helpful content in this update but it's impossible to tell with the way it's being read.

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Okay

Where does The New Codependency rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

This book has too many exercises for it to be totally effective as an audio book. The original "Codependency No More" was much more helpful for me. I listen to the original over and over and get something new each time. This one, I think one listen will be enough.

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enlightening

as i was having some personal issues last summer, i decided to purchase this book to help me cope. this book addressed most of the issues i was dealing with at that time, and greatly helped me to move on. although some of the things mentioned were basically common sense, it's good to hear them in an organized manner. the narrator's voice could have been better, but it was generally acceptable, given the life lessons i got to validate through this book. highly recommended.

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Couldn't finish it

What would have made The New Codependency better?

I really disliked the narrator's voice, it was smug

What do you think your next listen will be?

I have listened to many books since

What didn’t you like about Lorna Raver’s performance?

Her tone

If you could play editor, what scene or scenes would you have cut from The New Codependency?

I couldn't finish it so I don't know

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Love the book but not the narration

First time this has happened to me and it’s completely subjective but I wish Melody narrated herself. I just disliked listening to Lorna so much that I went ahead and bought the physical book.

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Love the content, not the narration

The content from Melody Beattie is as always great. The one thing I really DISLIKE is the narration, it sounds like those computer program readings, almost robotic, very hard to stay tuned to the story. It sounds like sentences recorded separately then combined, rather than a smooth flowing story. Big downer for me in that respect.

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Disappointed in low quality narration :(

This is the first Audible book I haven’t been able to get through due to poor narration as it’s unbearably distracting. The narration is such a poor match to the content. I love this author & was saving this book for a rainy day. I’m deeply regretting this purchase.

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Really not great

The speaker sounds like a robot and it’s got too many exercises to be able to listen to on the way to work.

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Good topic, okay book, annoying as an audiobook

I got this because my therapist recommended reading this book. I was disappointed and wouldn't recommend it to others. The narrator's voice is very annoying. It made it hard to listen to. On top of that, it seemed like half of this book was the author telling me to read her other book. It's also constantly referencing 12 step programs, which not everyone dealing with codependency is a part of. The quizzes at the end don't translate well in an audiobook. I'd recommend getting a physical copy instead of the audiobook if you're interested in the topic, so that you can easily skip parts that don't apply to you and not have to listen to an annoying voice for hours.

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