Attached

The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

De: Amir Levine, Rachel Heller

Narrado por: Robert Petkoff

"A groundbreaking book that redefines what it means to be in a relationship."
--John Gray, PhD., bestselling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

We already rely on science to tell us what to eat, when to exercise, and how long to sleep. Why not use science to help us improve our relationships? In this revolutionary book, psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller scientifically explain why why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle.

Discover how an understanding of adult attachment—the most advanced relationship science in existence today—can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:

• Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back
• Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness.
• Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.

Attached guides listeners in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.

*Includes a PDF of the attachment style questionnaire

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"A groundbreaking book that redefines what it means to be in a relationship."
-John Gray, PhD., bestselling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

"Amir Levine and Rachel Heller have written a very smart book: It is clear, easy to read and insightful. It's a valuable tool whether you are just entering a relationship with a new partner or-as in my case--even after you've been married 21 years, and had thought you knew everything about your spouse."
-Mariette DiChristina, editor in chief, Scientific American

"Attached is a fascinating and enormously useful guide to one of life's most important ventures-finding and sustaining a secure, satisfying love relationship. Based on twenty-five years of research, laced with vivid and instructive examples, and enriched with interesting and well-designed exercises, the book provides deep insights and invaluable skills that will benefit every reader."
-Phillip R. Shaver, PhD, Distinguished Professor of Psychology, University of California, Davis and Past President, International Association for Relationship Research

"Cinderella's prince passionately turned his kingdom upside down simply to find her perfectly shaped foot, and they lived happily ever after. This book is for the rest of us. Whether already in a relationship or prospecting, Attached is intended to coach the "you" part of "just the two of you". The authors have distilled years of attachment theory research on the nature of human relationships into a practical, highly readable guide, allowing it's users to prevent or untangle doomed relationships or predict and enhance those that will wear well and fit for a lifetime."
-John B. Herman, M.D., Associate Chief of Psychiatry and Distinguished Scholar of Medical Psychiatry, Massachusetts General Hospital and Associate Professor of Psychiatry, Harvard Medical School

"This book is both fascinating and fun. Attached will help every reader understand whom they are attracted to as partners, why, and what they can do to reach fulfillment in love. I enjoyed every moment."
-Janet Klosko, PhD., co-author of the bestselling Reinventing Your Life

"A practical, enjoyable guide to forming rewarding romantic relationships."
-Kirkus Reviews

5 Stars

This book was eye opening and life changing. I hope it can help others as it has and will help me.

Good for people in or seeking new relationships

Lots of great information for people who are in or are seeking a new relationship. For people in a long-standing relationship trying to make it better or get it back on track, it seems to gloss over the complexities of long-term relationships and devotes all of one chapter to “bread and butter” problems. It would be nice if everyone could be categorized into three tidy boxes that determine success or failure, but people and relationships are more complex than that.

Good but really repetitive

Good but repetitive. Many examples of the same ideas. I had a hard time finishing it.

All heterosexual couple examples

I really enjoyed the content of the book but was disappointed when I realized that all of the examples used were those of heterosexual couples with the exception of one that seemed to insinuate violence between two men. I don’t think that these principles are isolated to heterosexual individuals so it’s rather disappointing to see such a black-and-white representation of the concepts in the examples. Beyond that, it was a very useful book.

Best relationship book I’ve listen to so far.

Easy to understand with no fillers. Straight to the point. I highly recommend this book!

message I needed to hear for relationship health

interesting concepts about adult attachment theory that I had not heard before. lots of good examoles to help the reader relate and identify which attachment styles they have and are interacting with. the opening chapters were a bit slow to listen to but if you stick with it, the book goes from diagnosing to exploring applications of effective communication

A must Read!

This book has helped me immensely- eye opening! It has truly changed my life! I only wish I had known this information years ago. It would have saved me much heartache! I can’t say enough about this book and the clear and concise information. Highly recommend!

Great book

This book was really helpful. It is very in-depth in that it explains in detail each attachment type and then goes into detail explaining how to manage relationships in a healthy way based on which category you fall in. I would recommend this book to anyone who has trouble finding healthy relationships or even just in general to people who want to know why they are the way they are in relationships. There are also a lot of examples included in the book that help to demonstrate the information.

I needed this.

This book is so necessary. It debunks several myths of codependency and has helped me voice my needs better. Therapy helps too.

PLEASE READ

I’ve never written a review before but this was worth it. I’ve learned so much about myself and those around me. The most encouraging and motivating book I’ve ever read. Please read!