• After the Affair, Third Edition

  • Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful
  • By: Janis A. Spring
  • Narrated by: Xe Sands
  • Length: 9 hrs and 19 mins
  • 4.7 out of 5 stars (130 ratings)

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After the Affair, Third Edition

By: Janis A. Spring
Narrated by: Xe Sands
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Publisher's summary

“Full of juicy, concrete advice to heal from an affair.” (Esther Perel, MA, LMFT, New York Times best-selling author of Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs)

From a clinical psychologist who served as a clinical supervisor in the Department of Psychology at Yale University, received the CPA’s award for Distinguished Contribution to the Practice of Psychology, and has treated couples and trained therapists for over four decades, this newly updated, award-winning book provides concrete, proven strategies for those who seek to survive their partner’s infidelity and to rebuild the relationship after an affair.

There is nothing quite like the devastation caused when a partner has been unfaithful. Hurt partners often experience a profound shattering of their familiar and valued sense of self and fall into a depression that can last for years. For the relationship, infidelity is often a death blow.

This new third edition of After the Affair, with more than 600,000 copies sold, helps guide both hurt and unfaithful partners through three stages of healing: normalizing the crisis, deciding whether to recommit to their partner, and rekindling trust and sexual intimacy. It includes a new section in which patients ask questions not addressed in previous editions, and the author provides concrete strategies for earning trust and forgiveness.

©1996, 2013, 2020 Janis A. Spring (P)2021 HarperCollins Publishers

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Victim blaming!! Stay away

This book dares to say that both are at fault when one is unfaithful, so get ready to be blamed for your significant other cheating on you. Awful book to listen to or read after the betrayal.

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Hard but helpful

This book was recommended by my therapist and it was incredibly difficult to read. Not because of the writing but because it was needed for such a terrible and heartbreaking reason. I'm looking for help and this book gave that. It also gave hope. Narrator was excellent. I would also recommend picking up a physical copy of the book as reference. I wouldn't wish the need for this book on anyone, but if you find yourself looking for help and answers, try it out.

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Perfect !!!!

Perfect examples to grasp everything from both sides of the relationship and to mindful and grow..

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Not for partners of SAs

I was fine until I got to the cybersex chapter and then this book became a highly triggering nightmare for me. An affair and SA are very different things and this book is strictly concerned with affairs—totally fair, it never promised to address addiction. This title was recommended to me by a therapist because of the explanation of PTSD symptoms the betrayed partner experiences and the thought that it may help me decide to stay or to go. For those of us dealing with SA, skip this and go straight to The Betrayal Bind instead which will not only address all of our betrayal trauma symptoms but also addresses attachment ambivalence.

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Very insightful

Very insightful. Good information on compassion, healing, and presented in a way that was comfortable to digest.

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Just too sexist

Assumes too much about the male and female roles. The world isn’t that black and white.

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As helpful as a live counseling session

Recently having discovered an issue that rocked me I decided not to have a knee jerk reaction but try and understand. It ain’t easy but listening to this book has provided insights for understanding. I rolled my eyes as couple of times but mostly agreed with or could understand most of what Janis is saying. It’s well worth the listen/read for anyone in the painful situation of infidelity no matter whether the relationship was emotional or physical. Many blessings on your journey to recovering your relationship if that is what YOU CHOOSE! It’s your choice and no one else’s!

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Informative

I hate that I needed this book. I listened to the book with an open heart and mind. The concepts made sense and are rooted seeing both sides of the topic. There is a ton of content and the author refers to several workbook docs that aren’t visible with the audio version. I plan on making use of those and re-reading the book to ensure I am solid on the topics covered.

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not for Christian marriages

This book promotes and embraces porn, sexual immorality. and not biblically based marriage foundations. the book doesn't claim to be faith-based but a warning to the reader if you're looking to mend a marriage on the tight principles.

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Healing words

This was an informative book that has helped me in the space I find myself in after 41 years of marriage.

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