When Sorry Isn't Enough

Making Things Right with Those You Love
Narrated by: Kelly Ryan Dolan
Length: 4 hrs and 37 mins
4.5 out of 5 stars (324 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

"I said I was sorry!"

Even in the best of relationships, all of us make mistakes. We do and say things we later regret and hurt the people we love most. So we need to make things right. But simply saying you’re sorry is usually not enough.

In this audiobook, number-one New York Times best-selling author Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas unveil new ways to effectively approach and mend fractured relationships. Even better, you’ll discover how meaningful apologies provide the power to make your friendships, family, and marriage stronger than ever before. When Sorry Isn’t Enough will help you

  • Cool down heated arguments
  • Offer apologies that are fully accepted
  • Rekindle love that has been dimmed by pain
  • Restore and strengthen valuable relationships
  • Trade in tired excuses for honesty, trust, and joy

This book was previously published as The Five Languages of Apology. Content has been significantly revised and updated.

©2013 Northfield Publishing (P)2013 Oasis Audio

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Everybody should read this book at least once.

The narrator is great, he seems to be very passionate in his work and possibly the subject as well.
I have read lots of Gary Chapman books, this one is right up there with many other books he has written.
Thank you Dr. chapman, I know this book will help me with what I have to do, I am glad I read it first.

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Great information and methods, pretty religious

The apology languages, relating to love languages, is very insightful and helpful. I feel like that information and the methods discussed to employ effective apologies will be very helpful.
It is off-putting to read a book that is not advertised as religious, but is very religiously based. It changes the view from “anyone can become better, and these are some strategies” to “if you believe what I do, then these strategies will be helpful”. The tone of the book changed from occasionally quoting scripture as helpful anecdotes, to religion being the pathway to success.
Very good book overall.

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Necessary for everyone on the planet

There is something to be learned here for everyone in any kind of a relationship. I wish they had mandatory life skills courses like this in the high school because most kids don't get this in the home and if they do, it's worth reinforcing! This would be a powerful way to strengthen our country by pulling family units together.

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Helpful and insightful!

It has helped me to be more aware that other people have different apology languages. I tend to me the type of person that forgives fast because I hate to allow bitterness into my heart but it made me realize how that can cause resentment in the heart of the other person even if my intentions aren’t malicious. I definitely recommend this book.

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another home run for mr. Gary Chapman

absolutely game-changing and insightful into how I communicate with people around me. One really interesting thing I took away from this book that I did not expect was the difference between how a younger generation and older generation will precede the same thing two different ways. I just goes to show you how open and honest communication is the only way to correctly portray your feelings and sentiment

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when Sorry isn't Enough

I really needed this book. These past two years have been life changing for me and this book is one that has helped me to grow and become a better me.

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Good focus on the importance of apology

Makes you look at apology from a different perspective and understand the importance of apologizing in a way that the other person expects to be apologized to.
Was a bit too religious for me, though still useful.

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an unadvertised Christian bent

Nothing in the description of the book indicated that it was written with a Christian audience in mind.

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Good information, bit much on religious overtones

Would you listen to When Sorry Isn't Enough again? Why?

Good information on apologizing and using the proper methods on how to apologize. It was a bit heavy on bible and God's forgiveness though. Not everyone is Christian or even religious however and I would have preferred it that was left out. If you can gloss over those parts though, it is good information.

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Very good info, just one problem...

I really enjoyed this book as I have others by Gary Chapman. The information was so on point. What I did not like is that there’s no indication that it is God based. I’m a religious person but I still believe if a book has as much religion in it as this one does, it should say so and let people make an informed decision as to whether they want to purchase it. Other than that, the book is very helpful.

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  • 07-20-16

Too much religion

I understand putting ref to scriptures for those that hold Christian beliefs but the whole talk to God thing really puts me off this author. Not sure he'd get away with it in the UK publishing field. You don't need to keep shoving God down my throat so for that reason I've given it a 3 star. I would never go back to a counsellor if they even mentioned God so I'm a bit shocked that he uses it so much but maybe he advertises as a Christian Counsellor. Love his work but don't love the religious aspect.

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  • Cordelia
  • 01-27-20

Content great but very spiritual!

Loved the content, but if you are not feom a Christian background, it will require you to listen to the wisdom through the theology!
Has been very helpful in my relationship.

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  • Mrs. AL Wicke
  • 06-15-17

Really good!

Practical and heart warming. Very relationship healing; not just with others, but also with oneself.

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  • Huge Ackman
  • 05-20-17

Some good tips, but ruined by religious church-speak

A good book, like a good relationship, is a two-way thing. While there were some very good tips, at the core there is probably only a double sided pamphlet worth of key material. The author tends to meander and waffle, especially with regard to Jesus. There is an inordinate amount of proselytising in here. I trudged through it at the start but by the end I could not finish the last 40 minutes. This may have been exacerbated by the narrators two gear delivery.

Bringing God into interpersonal forgiveness really is absolving oneself of responsibility. This goes against the whole reason someone would seek out this book.

Overall it feels like a Sunday school lecture, one way, tone deaf, a bit creepy, but maybe there are a few life tips you might remember.