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Conventional wisdom says that "it takes two" to turn a troubled marriage around and that both partners must have a shared commitment to change. So when couples can't agree on how - or whether - to make their marriage better, many give up or settle for a less-than-satisfying marriage (or think the only way out is divorce). Fortunately, there is an alternative.

It Takes One to Tango is a groundbreaking guide that shows how one determined partner - acting alone - can spark lasting, significant change in a marriage, often accomplishing change that cannot be made any other way. It doesn't matter how short-fused, argumentative, or seemingly impossible your partner can be - or how long you've been stuck. Marriage and family therapist Winifred Reilly has this message for struggling partners: Take the lead. Doing so is effective - and powerful.

©2017 Winifred Reilly (P)2017 Tantor

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A Therapist Who Tells It Like It Is!

What made the experience of listening to It Takes One to Tango the most enjoyable?

The author is a natural storyteller with a good sense of humor and the willingness to reveal her own marital struggles. Her style is smart, authentic and really helpful.

What other book might you compare It Takes One to Tango to and why?

Love Sense by Sue Johnson and Marriage Rules by Harriet Lerner.

What does Karen White bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?

Good narration with the right balance of affect and professionalism.

If you were to make a film of this book, what would the tag line be?

It Takes One to Tango...

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  • colette
  • Kaysville, UT, US
  • 05-08-17

Great book!

I loved this book. It gives hope to a struggling marriage ( of 29 years). It's never to late to grow and mature. This book is funny and has practical advice on how one person can help change the dynamics of the relationship.

Thank you Winifred for writing this book!

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Great listen

Highly enjoyed this book. Never knew anything of author before listening, title caught my attention. Great insights and has opened my eyes to many things. Sure wish i listened sooner rather than waiting until my wife gave up and wants to end it, only time will tell if the these principles will help.

Greatest takeaway.. it’s not your job making your spouse happy, that is something they must do themselves. ... Change yourself first regardless if spouse changes or follows, stop trying to change your spouse ... every marriage is difficult ... 5 stages of marriage most get stuck at stage 2 (where i feel I’ve been for past 7 years)

If you are wanting to save or strengthen your marriage, and your spouse is unwilling to change or seek counsel... give this a chance.

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Best book on marriage I ever read!

By far, in my 33 year’s of marriage, this is the best book I ever read on the subject. It identifies we all connected to marriage with history/baggage. We all negotiate rules of the marriage that we don’t really understand at the time they are put into place. Even with therapy and self work it can be very difficult to get to a point one is really happy. I do believe taking a step, or in my case, many steps forward with improvement for good is the only way forward. Where ever you are in your marriage this book lends perspective. I choose marriage and am looking forward to continuing growing up! Thanks Winnifred!

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great book! enjoyed it to the very end

really enjoyed it all the way to the very end, she shared so many great examples throughout the book that helped bring it to life for me.

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Loved it

Funny, insightful and honest. Hoping to listen to it often as a reminder to be courageous in my life and in my relationship with my husband and others.

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  • Masala
  • South Hero, VT
  • 05-06-17

Eye opening read!

I guess we'll have to see how well I can apply this theory, but I loved the book & it gave me hope.

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  • Jack
  • San Diego, CA, United States
  • 07-18-17

This book is saving my marriage

This is exactly the book I was looking for! If you are feeling hopeless in your relationship, give this book a try. Even if your current relationship somehow does not survive after this book you will be better prepared to lie a great partner in your next relationship.

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useful & fun to read

excellent information & narrator - i would recommend this book to any married couple, struggling or not

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enter with an open mind

Absolutely loved this book. The journey of healing isn't easy but this offers deep insight on the matter