It Takes One to Tango

How I Rescued My Marriage with (Almost) No Help from My Spouse - and How You Can, Too
Narrated by: Karen White
Length: 7 hrs and 49 mins
4.5 out of 5 stars (276 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

Conventional wisdom says that "it takes two" to turn a troubled marriage around and that both partners must have a shared commitment to change. So when couples can't agree on how - or whether - to make their marriage better, many give up or settle for a less-than-satisfying marriage (or think the only way out is divorce). Fortunately, there is an alternative.

It Takes One to Tango is a groundbreaking guide that shows how one determined partner - acting alone - can spark lasting, significant change in a marriage, often accomplishing change that cannot be made any other way. It doesn't matter how short-fused, argumentative, or seemingly impossible your partner can be - or how long you've been stuck. Marriage and family therapist Winifred Reilly has this message for struggling partners: Take the lead. Doing so is effective - and powerful.

©2017 Winifred Reilly (P)2017 Tantor

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Great book!

I loved this book. It gives hope to a struggling marriage ( of 29 years). It's never to late to grow and mature. This book is funny and has practical advice on how one person can help change the dynamics of the relationship.

Thank you Winifred for writing this book!

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A Therapist Who Tells It Like It Is!

What made the experience of listening to It Takes One to Tango the most enjoyable?

The author is a natural storyteller with a good sense of humor and the willingness to reveal her own marital struggles. Her style is smart, authentic and really helpful.

What other book might you compare It Takes One to Tango to and why?

Love Sense by Sue Johnson and Marriage Rules by Harriet Lerner.

What does Karen White bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?

Good narration with the right balance of affect and professionalism.

If you were to make a film of this book, what would the tag line be?

It Takes One to Tango...

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Great listen

Highly enjoyed this book. Never knew anything of author before listening, title caught my attention. Great insights and has opened my eyes to many things. Sure wish i listened sooner rather than waiting until my wife gave up and wants to end it, only time will tell if the these principles will help.

Greatest takeaway.. it’s not your job making your spouse happy, that is something they must do themselves. ... Change yourself first regardless if spouse changes or follows, stop trying to change your spouse ... every marriage is difficult ... 5 stages of marriage most get stuck at stage 2 (where i feel I’ve been for past 7 years)

If you are wanting to save or strengthen your marriage, and your spouse is unwilling to change or seek counsel... give this a chance.

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This was AMAZING!!! I found myself taking copious notes during this reading. It was a bit tough to digest but I whole heartedly expect to see the healing of my marriage because I now know I don’t really NEED her help to repair our marriage.

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Time to get to work on changing directions in my marriage

Thank you for the real and yet sometimes disappointing information, I will be curious to see what lay in store for my marriage of 13 years.

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enter with an open mind

Absolutely loved this book. The journey of healing isn't easy but this offers deep insight on the matter

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Great Advice!

best book on how to solve problems in your marriage that I have ever read. highly recommend. I've put it into practice and already it has yielded fantastic results. Super happy to have found this.

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Eye opening read!

I guess we'll have to see how well I can apply this theory, but I loved the book & it gave me hope.

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Great.

The narration was superb. Information was dead on right. So glad she wrote this book. I am hopeful it will help me and then us.

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Perfect book if you are disenchanted about your marriage but not ready to throw the towel!

The insights of this book are priceless. Although many of the concepts you may already know, the autor explains with her personal real example and many others (as she is a couples therapist) how to cope with the difficulties of marriage. There is no magic formula other than focusing on ourselves instead of fighting back. She gives a lot of tips on how not to engage on conflict, even when the other starts or is unequivocally wrong (but without compromising your core values). It just readjusting our mindset and practicing. You will be able to see the stages in which your marriage is, and understand how to fix it, or at least know that its normal and not exactly the beginning of the end. Great book. The only reason why i didnt put 5 stars in performance, was the tone of the voice of the narrator. It sounds very “robotish”. It was disturbing at first. I really enjoy when the author reads its own book, not this case. After a while you get used to it, but I seriously think that Siri or Alexa would have done a better job narrating it. Aside from that, it is gem! I’ll get a hard copy to have it for future reference. Get it. You can save your marriage!

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