It Takes One to Tango

How I Rescued My Marriage with (Almost) No Help from My Spouse - and How You Can, Too

De: Winifred M. Reilly MA MFT

Narrado por: Karen White

Conventional wisdom says that "it takes two" to turn a troubled marriage around and that both partners must have a shared commitment to change. So when couples can't agree on how - or whether - to make their marriage better, many give up or settle for a less-than-satisfying marriage (or think the only way out is divorce). Fortunately, there is an alternative.

It Takes One to Tango is a groundbreaking guide that shows how one determined partner - acting alone - can spark lasting, significant change in a marriage, often accomplishing change that cannot be made any other way. It doesn't matter how short-fused, argumentative, or seemingly impossible your partner can be - or how long you've been stuck. Marriage and family therapist Winifred Reilly has this message for struggling partners: Take the lead. Doing so is effective - and powerful.

©2017 Winifred Reilly (P)2017 Tantor

Great guide to a successful marriage!

By far the most helpful marriage book I've listened to all year. I highly recommend it to anybody looking to strengthen your relationship with your spouse.

Phenomenal

Absolutely great book. Highly, highly recommend it. I have read no better book for improving your marriage.

Perfect book if you are disenchanted about your marriage but not ready to throw the towel!

The insights of this book are priceless. Although many of the concepts you may already know, the autor explains with her personal real example and many others (as she is a couples therapist) how to cope with the difficulties of marriage. There is no magic formula other than focusing on ourselves instead of fighting back. She gives a lot of tips on how not to engage on conflict, even when the other starts or is unequivocally wrong (but without compromising your core values). It just readjusting our mindset and practicing. You will be able to see the stages in which your marriage is, and understand how to fix it, or at least know that its normal and not exactly the beginning of the end. Great book. The only reason why i didnt put 5 stars in performance, was the tone of the voice of the narrator. It sounds very “robotish”. It was disturbing at first. I really enjoy when the author reads its own book, not this case. After a while you get used to it, but I seriously think that Siri or Alexa would have done a better job narrating it. Aside from that, it is gem! I’ll get a hard copy to have it for future reference. Get it. You can save your marriage!

Not a fake review...Amazed

From the beginning of the journey, I could feel the change in my own mindset. I’m blessed that my husband listened on his own and found better footing for our unnecessary quarrels. Highly recommend. Funny, relatable and excellent delivery by narrator.

Frustrated yet curious about the title

I had been sifting through relationship books for a bit. My 16 year marriage having such extremes of good and bad with the majority being the latter. I felt like I had already done the majority of the work so this title made me angry yet I thought, if it gives me a better way to do it alone then maybe it would help. While reading I had moments of frustration, like realizing her husband at least went to therapy with her and mine has always refused. As I listened (Audible) my mind slowly changed. Some of her perspectives I had already considered but both her way of writing it and the connections that filled in the blanks for me were greatly appreciated. Her first two chapters were ok but as I got deeper the repetition of discussing client examples and switching to her own marriage made it have greater clarity yet less specific definition. Ie..you don't need to have your specific example stated because it is written for your interpretation and to provoke introspection. It helps guide you to your own result rather than tell you what that result should be. This is by far the best of many this far and I recommend it highly!

A new perspective that changed my life

Extremely great read, would recommend to anyone in a relationship. Think you are falling out of love? Think again..it's still there.

Great listen

Highly enjoyed this book. Never knew anything of author before listening, title caught my attention. Great insights and has opened my eyes to many things. Sure wish i listened sooner rather than waiting until my wife gave up and wants to end it, only time will tell if the these principles will help.

Greatest takeaway.. it’s not your job making your spouse happy, that is something they must do themselves. ... Change yourself first regardless if spouse changes or follows, stop trying to change your spouse ... every marriage is difficult ... 5 stages of marriage most get stuck at stage 2 (where i feel I’ve been for past 7 years)

If you are wanting to save or strengthen your marriage, and your spouse is unwilling to change or seek counsel... give this a chance.

enter with an open mind

Absolutely loved this book. The journey of healing isn't easy but this offers deep insight on the matter

Best book on marriage I ever read!

By far, in my 33 year’s of marriage, this is the best book I ever read on the subject. It identifies we all connected to marriage with history/baggage. We all negotiate rules of the marriage that we don’t really understand at the time they are put into place. Even with therapy and self work it can be very difficult to get to a point one is really happy. I do believe taking a step, or in my case, many steps forward with improvement for good is the only way forward. Where ever you are in your marriage this book lends perspective. I choose marriage and am looking forward to continuing growing up! Thanks Winnifred!

One of my top picks

One of my top picks for improving your relationship. I've read probably around 20 books on the subject and this one is still a favorite. My 3rd read through today. It's engaging and really opens your mind to your part in the tugof war you and your partner share.