I Love You but I Don’t Trust You

The Complete Guide to Restoring Trust in Your Relationship

By: Mira Kirshenbaum

Narrated by: Emily Durante

Length: 7 hrs and 24 mins

Publisher's summary

Is my relationship worth saving? Will the trust ever come back? How can things be good between us again? Whether broken trust is due to daily dishonesties, a monumental betrayal, or even a history of hurts from the past, it can put a relationship at risk. This is the first book to show you exactly what to do to restore trust in your relationship, regardless of how it was damaged.

In this complete guide, couples therapist Mira Kirshenbaum will also help you understand the stages by which trust strengthens when the rebuilding process is allowed to take place. And you will learn how the two of you can avoid the mistakes that prevent healing and discover how to feel secure with each other again.

©2012 Mira Kirshenbaum (P)2016 Tantor

must read

This book is a must-read. It had many helpful tools and included many questions to ask yourself when considering leaving or staying in a relationship. The questions are tough, to the point and very succinct.

Thumbs up!

Very informative and a great help. Overall I loved the book!
The only issue I had was the few, occasional swearing.

If you are struggling with a betrayal, LISTEN!

This book has been extremely helpful. I never thought I could regain trust once betrayed, but this book has given me a completely different perspective. I am so thankful to have found it when I was in such a bad place. It is a good balance between real life stories and counseling. If you are hurt and betrayed, or if you betrayed someone and cannot fully understand why that person is so hurt, listen to this book. I felt like it was my support for the way I was feeling, and it gave me hope for a trusting future.

Very Insightful

Explained well and great tools to combat the issues... just picked up her book "Why Couples Fight"

Great read

a very good book for someone that holds grudges for a long time explains why not to do that and how to heal quick as possible after I misunderstanding

Very eye opening!

This book really helped me understand there are different kinds of betrayal that eat away at trust. I always new I didn't feel safe in my relationship of 26 years, but I couldn't put my finger on it. This book opened my eyes and confirmed my feelings, helped me put a label to what I was feeling which also confirmed that no I am not crazy and no I am not being unreasonable. I read this book in 3 days! By the way I'm an MFT and I will definitely be using what I learned from this book with my clients. So so good!

Solid Advice, Well Delivered

As someone trying to fix the trust I’ve broken, this book gave me: great insight into what my s/o feels, tactics to help sort things back out, stories and examples to help me understand and apply the advice, a better sense of hope, knowledge of what we’ve accidentally done incorrectly or to make things worse, and generally a wonderful guide on how to reassure, appreciate, help, listen to, trust, love, and break into a happier chapter of life with my s/o. I’ve marked many places in this book and taken down many notes to reflect on and work into my day to day life. -Side note: I saw one review that said something about the author ‘defending’ betrayers and I completely disagree. I think that review was written by someone deep in the understandable anger and hurt that comes with a betrayal of any kind and what they viewed as ‘defense’ was just a simple reasoning behind why the person in one story betrayed his wife. It was not a defense or an excuse by any means; all betrayals of any kind have some sort of ‘why’ behind them -even though that ‘why’ should have and could have been handled in a much better way. I never once felt either unjustly attacked or defended while reading this and I want my s/o to listen to this book as well as I think they could actually relate quite well and learn a lot too. ☺️

Insightfully hopeful for the wanting and willing.

This book was incredibly spot on. It provided great insight and advice for those who have been on the giving or receiving end of a betrayal. It is filled with stories and advice for those who are seeking to recover from a major set back in their relationship.

Just what I needed to start my healing journey.

Just what I needed to start my healing journey. great tools to mend a broken heart.

Helpful information you can put into action

It gives hope in difficult situations. She gives you actions you can use from the start.