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The Betrayal Bond

Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships
Narrated by: Paul Costanzo
Length: 6 hrs and 56 mins
4.5 out of 5 stars (66 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

Exploitive relationships can create trauma bonds-chains that link a victim to someone who is dangerous to them. Divorce, employee relations, litigation of any type, incest and child abuse, family and marital systems, domestic violence, hostage negotiations, kidnapping, professional exploitation and religious abuse are all areas of trauma bonding. All these relationships share one thing: they are situations of incredible intensity or importance where there is an exploitation of trust or power.

In The Betrayal Bond, Patrick Carnes presents an in-depth study of these relationships, why they form, who is most susceptible, and how they become so powerful. He shows how to recognize when traumatic bonding has occurred and gives a checklist for examining relationships. He then provides steps to safely extricate from these relationships. This is a book you will turn to again and again for inspiration and insight, while professionals will find it an invaluable reference work.

©1997 Patrick J. Carnes (P)2017 Tantor

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Resonates to my core

I have been relistening to capture more. The content has facilitated a paradigm shift within me after a life of abuse, betrayal and trauma.

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Great

Learned a lot. Definitely will read again. Very well written and easy to follow. Great 👍🏾

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Punch To The Gut

From beginning to end, what was said in this book and revealed to me about myself felt like gut punches and soul stabs. Often accompanied by heavy, deep soul sighs. This book really hit home. Highly recommended! When I got to the parts that required me to complete exercises, I felt anxious. Probably because it was a change from just talking about my misery and made me actually do something about it. The exercises were revealing, relevant, and effective. This book just "gets me". If it wasn't meant for everyone, I would've thought this book was written just for me. I can honestly say I got more out of one listen to this book than the 3 months of therapy I've had since I took FMLA leave to deal with my mental health issues. I only wish I would've found it sooner.

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Everyone should listen/read regardless of background

This book was very insightful for many relationships I’ve had throughout life... but most importantly the one with myself. There are all types of problems and issues people are facing and I appreciate how informative it was in that way as well.

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Wonderful progression through healing

This book was relatable, and provides many suggestions to assist in growing past your trauma bonds. It’s a powerful read!

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enlightening

enlightening! I learned so much about myself and about the people around me. I am on step closer to ending my betrayal bond.

I was shocked with how much of the book I related to. Especially the fun house reference and setting boundaries.

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Invaluable

As a therapist, I use this book in sessions often. It’s relatable and insightful, teaching us and giving us language in a gentle but clear way. I recommend it often for anyone struggling in relationship.

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excellent for all trauma suffers looking to heal

I am a trauma therapist that really appreciates this title and have found the information to be extremely helpful in the work that i do in assisting patients in their healing journey.

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Traumatizing to listen to

The author seems to revel in constant descriptions of sexual abuse and incest. I made it a few chapters into the book and am quitting it. As of yet, no helpful or even slightly illuminating information has been offered.

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Worst narrator!

Narrator has a horrible lisp with his “S” and it’s incredibly difficult to listen to this audiobook!! I wish I had the actual book to read and could return this audiobook. I may not be able to finish it.

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