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Explaining that an impaired capacity for connection to self and to others underlies most psychological and many physiological problems, clinicians Laurence Heller, PhD, and Aline LaPierre, PsyD, introduce the NeuroAffective Relational Model™ (NARM), a unified approach to developmental, attachment, and shock trauma that emphasizes working in the present moment. NARM is a somatically based psychotherapy that helps bring into awareness the parts of self that are disorganized and dysfunctional, without making the regressed, dysfunctional elements the primary theme of the therapy. It emphasizes a person's strengths, capacities, resources, and resiliency, and is a powerful tool for working with both nervous system regulation and distortions of identity such as low self-esteem, shame, and chronic self-judgment.

©2012 Laurence Heller, PhD, and Aline LaPierre, PsyD (P)2015 Tantor

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" Healing Developmental Trauma presents a comprehensive exploration of our deepest human urge." (Peter A Levine, PhD, author of In an Unspoken Voice)

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R-O-B-O-T

while I think this subject matter is amazing and critical - I could not get past the first few minutes of the audible book.

the reasons why I could not get past this are many.

one. the first reason is that the reader sounds like a robot. it is awkward to listen to him listing off items from a chart. two. the textbook has a lot of specific terms which are read in a monotone. this makes it very hard to remember what the beginning of the sentence was intending. three. no more. I can t take it. done. gonna get the hardcopy and read the damn thing. is a shame - this would have been good for my commute

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Good detailed material

Most useful for someone interested in or using NARM Therapy in their practice. More theoretical in some places explaining the therapeutic process than I could easily follow and grasp without a broader understanding of the categories and types presented. Some real jewels about physiology and physical effects of developmental trauma on the body and person. Good but requires work.

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very good

super helpful, feel like I went to a great training. great therapeutic tools, really great framework...working with what is, remaining present in here and now, focusing on pacing, honoring defense strategies and reflecting positive changes encouraging more of what we want to see

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This book is not just regurgitation of popular self help pop psychology

This book is very helpful for anyone wanting to understand and change maladaptive thoughts and behavior caused by developmental trauma. I have read hundreds of healing books over the past 20 years and this one is unique. I highly recommend it.

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Very technical

Not a book that I would listen to again. It is very technical without clear concise summery of material and clear examples of material covered. I

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Life changing

This book makes me feel like I now have super powers in terms of controlling my internal states and also understanding those of others. It is incredibly insightful, clarifying and illuminating. I had always felt like there was a better version of myself somewhere deep in there, that my anxieties and social issues we'rent just who I was but rather something I needed to work on. This book showed me where it came from and was a huge step in my personal growth. It was the key that made me understand how interrelated all my seemingly disseparate dysfunctions were and what their sources were. I cannot recommend it highly enough.

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I found this incredibly insightful and descriptive

I particularly value the diverse information about the nervous system and related biology. Thank you.

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A must for therapists!

Very good explanations and examples of characteristics of attachment failures. A must listen for therapists.

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In a world of constant transformation, this book is the key to survival.

This book is an instrumental to assist anyone who needs helps understanding the effects of traumatic experiences.

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Excellent insight into the self-conscious and damaged individuals

This audiobook was an enlightening experience into unexplainable behavioral patterns affecting all areas of my life.

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  • DeCatalyst
  • 11-05-16

Useful and informative, but heavy going at times.

I found the developmental information very helpful and informative, in terms of thinking about how attachment styles develop and how people develop their presentation, communication and coping styles.
I especially found it interesting and enlightening to learn about addressing trauma not only from the cognitive but also in the body and the nervous system, where the "bottom up" is addressed and not just "top down".
However, it was heavy going a lot of the time and the narration felt monotonous and not very engaging.
It took a lot of discipline to listen to, and probably a lot of drifting off occurred.
I think this audiobook is probably more useful to academics who have a specific interest in this area, maybe from a clinical practice or medical perspective.
I'm not sure whether it suits those who are just looking for accessible information about trauma in general and how to/they can address it.

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  • Cat
  • 09-27-16

Resonated deeply, poignant find

What a relief to find this book. For years I've put together scraps of it and finally this puts it all together and explains it all, taking it seriously and validating everything I have already figured out. Definitely going down as one of my most poignant finds!

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  • Zoe
  • 07-08-15

Applicable

Thorough and available information, the study and cases are in type. Work that was well referenced and suitably aimed at higher educated readers but not restricted to professions in psychology.

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  • Sally
  • 01-16-17

Excellent, challenging, engaging.

This challenged my perception of my experiences in therapy. I have always had a dreadful experience even when fully connected and feeling secure with the psychotherapist. The NARM approach says this is because it is 're-traumatizing'; in traditional therapy models I have been told this is necessary in order to get better. NARM goes against that model and creates an effective recovery program for those that are open minded. It would probably suit someone with a background in meditation/prayer/spirituality; but it is not necessary, nor does it require you to have a belief system. I have found listening to this book (which would be different to attending therapy), retraumatising however, so if you are in the throngs of PTSD behavior be mindful that this introduction to NARM may not be for you. Why do I feel this? Because he describes types of adaptive behaviours that are based on childhood neglect. This is mainly intended for therapists. Can be a little convoluted with psychological terms at times because of this, so you just need perseverance if you're not familiar with the specific terminologies, etc. I personally thought it was OK.

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  • Nicola
  • 09-21-17

Thought provoking

Interesting approach which brings together humanistic skills such as empathy and intuition with biological knowledge of brain development and function, along with up to date knowledge of attachment and trauma. My only complaint is the rather prescriptive and presumptive links between psychological stress and particular illnesses which to my mind need a firmer evidence base

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  • Donnocha
  • 03-10-19

Best avoided

Some books, particularly those with lots of lists, just don't work so well as audiobooks. What makes this even more difficult to listen to however is that the narrator puts a great dea of effort into making sure that all of the words are pronounced correctly, but he puts no life into the 'story' at all. Probably a good book, but the narration was putting me to sleep. A dull flat monotone throughout. Like listening to 10 hours of the shipping forecast!

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  • veronika A D
  • 03-14-20

Put off by the narator's robot-like voice

I struggled to listen to the audiobook and found the tone monotonous and robot like. With a heavy and complex (and a very interesting) topic like this it is important that the listener stays engaged and on that level it definitely failed. The printed book or kindle might be a better option to use for digesting the information but i would avoid the audiobook.

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  • Mrs Mac Dot
  • 12-30-17

Monotonous and repetative

I struggled to finish listening to this book as it was very repetitive and narrator's voice was very monotonous.

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  • Brian Mc
  • 05-17-17

Gestalt therapy in disguise?

This IS a good book. It deals well with developmental trauma. Very good examples of therapeutic interactions. Great descriptions of many concepts.
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While the writers have promoted this as NARM therapy it reads to me as a rewrite of Gestalt therapy. Many gestalt concepts have been 'harvested' and presented as NARM concepts; metaphorically the Gestalt 'car' has been stolen, then resprayed and given new licence plates!
Sadly, when the writers very briefly describe other therapies they completely misrepresent Gestalt Therapy describing it as an approach that is about catharsis. Revisit the brilliant theory and highly effective practises of Gestalt Therapy you carjackers!

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  • Tanya
  • 03-17-21

Only one type of trauma is covered in detail

I was enthused to recognise myself in one of the types of trauma that they describe in the beginning of the book and I was looking forward to listening on how to heal that type of trauma in the rest of the book. Sadly, they only concentrated on Connection trauma for the next 7 hours of the book to my great disappointment.
I must say also that the book is heavily geared towards trained professionals as the jargon is highly professional and I only would understand because I myself have psychology degree otherwise a lot of the book would go over my head.
It was a useful ‘read’ and an interesting perspective but has a lot of room for improvement to make it well-rounded and more accessible to general public.

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  • Belinda Bucknell
  • 10-07-17

A PROFOUND BOOK!

This book resonated on so many levels, both professionally and personally. It is an extremely useful and valuable body of work.

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  • James
  • 03-27-19

Very applicable to my personal experience

Prompted a lot of revalations - or at least pointed me in the right direction. Also gives a lot of insight into the personalities and experiences of others

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  • Anonymous User
  • 07-29-19

important but limited

any attempt to formulate a completely integrated therapeutic approach at the leading edge of current research and accepted practice is a challenge not for the faint hearted ... this is a impressive contribution to the field. there is a lot of wisdom and good ideas within but a suspect that it will not become the next big thing in helping those experiencing developmental trauma.
while it introduces a range of "survival styles" , it only addressed in detail one. (there would not have been room) but some brief discussion would have been nice.
i have now bought the hard copy as it in many ways is a text book and not always easy to listen to

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  • Anonymous User
  • 11-28-20

Good book, just hard to listen to

Interesting content and very, very hard to listen to, due to the robotic nature of the narrator’s voice. Found myself tuning out much of the time as a result of it. Wish they’d re-record it so I could try listening again.

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  • Natalie
  • 11-07-20

An incredibly helpful book.

Laurence Heller and Aline LaPierre bring together an understanding of the ‘how to’ of integrating both top down and bottom up processes to support healing from this most disempowering and disabling form of human suffering. A helpful resource indeed!