• How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved

  • By: Sandra L. Brown MA
  • Narrated by: Callie Beaulieu
  • Length: 8 hrs and 51 mins
  • 4.7 out of 5 stars (171 ratings)

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How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved

By: Sandra L. Brown MA
Narrated by: Callie Beaulieu
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In How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved, Sandra L. Brown, MA, describes eight types of dangerous men, their specific traits, and characteristics. She explores victim's stories that tell how they came in contact with each type of dangerous man and their outcome. Brown then presents how to develop a defense strategy - how to spot, avoid, or rid themselves of this type of dangerous man. Brown explains women's innate "red flag" systems - how they work to signal impending danger, and why many women learn to ignore them. With red flags in hand, Brown then guides the listeners through their own personal experiences to develop a personalized "Do Not Date" list. With these tools, Brown shows women how they can spot and avoid patterns of engagement with dangerous men.

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All women should read this book. Even if you have never experienced a dangerous man, this information will keep it that way!

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Thank you Sandra Brown, for writing this book!!

This has already given me a much broader sense of confidence again in navigating romantic relationships now & in the future. Your no-nonsense, clearly defined & objective wisdom is sooooo greatly appreciated & refreshing to grasp on any level! Thank you, thank you, thank you!

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A Must Read for ALL women

the reader's voice is monotone throughout with no real inflrcionbut I think she had to be due to the series divussionn. I thought I detected a victim mentality promotion at the beginning but she straightened out the misconception at the end. The information is absolutely necessary and should be mandatory for all women before we make/ or fall for these mistakes. This is one of the best Self-Help books I've listened to Ever. I will b gifting it to a few family members and friend that I think need the message and are open to receiving it. I'm going in again...its more than a one time listen. Oh, I feel so empowered just listen to this book. now I have to act on the lessons learned. I am in a relationship trying 2 get OUT and Now that I've identified hi I will act accordingly. God Blessin

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Hear, learn, move forward.

It seems elementary to hear it.
I can't look back though.
That's not the direction I'm going.

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Wonderful Wonderful!!!!

Ladies take the time to listen to or read this valuable resource. I had no idea there are dangerous men other than psychopaths. Thank you for opening my eyes - wide open!!!

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Redefines dangerous, a must read!

Dangerous is defined as a man who takes from us emotionally, physically, financially, spiritually, & sexually.

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Every woman should read or listen.

Every woman should read or listen to this book. It’s helpful, informative and well written. I highly recommend this book.

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An absolute must-read!

Absolutely amazing! This book provides such a wealth of insightful, well-researched information, that every woman should read! The stories within are relatable and eye-opening! I read the reviews about the monotone, robotic narrator, and was worried about it, but I disagree with them. The narration sounds just fine. Read this book! It will open your eyes to things you never even realized you were doing, or missing. It better yet, it will open your eyes to what others were doing to you!

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This Should Be Required Reading!

I wish I’d had this book as a freshman in college. 20 years later and the revelations it has brought me are tremendous. Thank you for sharing this treasure with us.

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Thank You for Writing This Book

This book has changed my life for the better—thank God you wrote this book and have the companion workbook. Although I knew something was wrong with these dangerous men I was dating- I also knew that I picked these men to date so something was wrong with me too! Thank you for this book!

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  • 08-09-20

Absolutely necessary book for women

This book is a life saviour to any woman who finds herself in any abusive relationship and as a must help other women.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 09-04-22

Won’t play past chapter 12

I listened to up your the start of chapter 13, but now it won’t play. I’m not sure why. I have found it helpful, but really want to hear the rest of the book!

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  • Just a girl who loves a boy
  • 08-09-22

Marvelous Book 2 help navigate away from toxicity

I'd agree with90% of the content. Insightful and helpful for protecting against damaging people.

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  • sumaya
  • 07-15-22

Get ready to grow acknowledge and self soothe

Depressingly triggeringly eye opening hopefully life changing 🙏🥹

Ladies we seek relationships that mirror how we treat ourselves. If we ignore and suppress our needs we go for the one who does the same. Self love really is key as painful as it is to break the attachments toxic is poisonous and we all deserve peace.

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  • Mrs
  • 06-02-22

Listen to this. Then listen to it again!!

Life changing. Narration is slightly difficult to listen to but subject matter is worth putting up with it for. Excellent if sometimes unsettling listening but essential homework for every woman!

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  • Mrs J.
  • 05-21-22

Be Equipped

This is a book that I believe every woman and man should read before entering into the dating game. It will save a lot of headache. As dangerous men exists so those dangerous women. Ignorance and naïveté is not a virtue but a handicap. Sandra Brown did a brilliant job here in this book outlining some of the red flags to look out for. As much as we prefer for the world to be a perfect place with perfect people, it is not and knowledge will help us navigate some otherwise tricky terrain. Some of us grew up green and wet around the ears and while it is good to be protected, it is also necessary to be equipped. This book serves as one of the arsenals in the emotional equipment storage.

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  • Silvia
  • 05-09-22

Amazing

I’m so happy I picked this book! I cannot express how much it has thought me and and help me understand why am I picking toxic men. 10/10. Totally recommended

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  • Andi2270
  • 04-23-22

Extremely engaging

A must read for every woman in or knows someone in a relationship that is toxic. This book has opened my eyes to where I've been going wrong in my 30+ years of going from one disastrous relationship to another. Grateful I found it, it may just have saved my life. 🙏

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 04-21-22

no nonsense therapy

narrated clearly. Great to hear other women's stories. defense strategy is great for deciding if a guys pathological but the book doesn't really explain how to get away from persistent men when 'no' isn't working.

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  • Nicola
  • 03-30-22

Must read for every woman

Fantastically written. Full of valid information. Must read!!!!
As a victim of DV and a life time of choosing wrong men … this book is worth it’s weight in gold.

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  • Nichole
  • 07-02-22

Valuable information for anyone in the dating game

I found this book very informative. It contains information about all sorts of relationships...not just violent relationships and I highly recommend it for all women.

I will definitely be listening to this again.

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  • Stephanie
  • 07-07-21

Game changer

I just we listed to this book in one hit and plan to go back and listen again in smaller chunks to properly absorb it. As a woman who has recently left a relationship with a “sex addict” and has a string of bad relationships under my belt…this book resonated so much with me!

It can feel like a slap in the face, as it really does make you look at your part in it all, and I don’t mean in any victim blaming way, I mean in the most empowering sense. If we don’t see our part in landing ourselves here, and we are helpless then we will most likely find ourselves here time and time again. So it’s about learning to recognise red flags before we get involved. When we are ourselves with awareness we can enter into everything eyes wide open and fully consenting.

It also helped me understand why I’ve previously missed red flags completely or why I had ignored them. This is where the work begins for me.

This book is an absolute game changer!

Or only her other books as available on audio too!

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  • ROOSTER
  • 07-31-19

Great guide and self reflection tools

This book is an excellent narrative which supports looking inward to what you are willing to tolerate, why you believe you should put up with that behaviour and how to recognise and name the types of abuse. The book provides fundamental nformation to recognise if you are suffering at the hands of someone with pathology which makes any really change almost impossible and will hopefully equip readers with the ability to see red flags early and get out of harms way.

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  • Donna
  • 03-18-17

Fantastic read for all women!!

I wish that I had this book years ago. All young women should have this book and treat it like a bible.

Thank you Sandra x

Donna from Tasmania