You're Not Crazy - You're Codependent

What Everyone Affected by Addiction, Abuse, Trauma or Toxic Shaming Must Know to Have Peace in Their Lives

By: Jeanette Elisabeth Menter

Narrated by: Pam Ward

Length: 5 hrs and 28 mins

Publisher's summary

If your life has been affected by addiction (yours or someone else's), abuse, trauma or toxic shaming, you may also be struggling with another invisible problem - codependency. Without your even being aware of the connection to the above issues, it has created additional life-long challenges such as endless guilt, anxiety, perfectionism, need to control, depression, a history of dysfunctional relationships and much more. 

This easy-to-understand, interactive book will reveal how codependency has sobotaged you, the lies it created in your beliefs and the truths that expose them. Also included is a Guide to Recovery using simple acts of mindfulness to overcome harmful habits in your thinking, actions and choices that are keeping you from having peace. Once you understand you are not crazy, just coping with the deep-seated effects of codependency, you will be free to create the life you were always meant to have.

©2015 Jeanette Menter (P)2018 Tantor

Don’t buy if you aren’t religious

The books starts out by saying “if you don’t believe in god, this book isn’t for you”.... but no where in the description did it say that. I feel so frustrated using a credit on a book that just preaches the whole time and it wasn’t indicated that would happen.

religious based

the author says if you don't believe in a higher power.the book is not for you. why doesn't it say that in the description?!?

Courageous and Harsh

I appreciated the sincere recollections of the book, but the narrator's voice was not suitable because it was harsh. I felt as if the author was still going through so much pain and had not gone through her storm completely. I was reminded that you cannot take others where you, yourself have not gone. I encourage the author to stay with her process and write another book when she has completed her journey and is able to reflect. We tend to share too early before we have distilled the experience.

Too much fluff, not enough practical solutions.

This is a typical self-help book, though, it is many hours of fluff and the authors own baggage of what they went through. The author paints codependency in a very black and white manner, and makes it seem like you had to have gone through major physical abuse to experience the symptoms of a codependency. They more or less spend most of the book talking about their personal experience, symptoms, beliefs, etc. The book is advertised as a practical guide and claims to give you knowledge needed to overcome codependency, but is mostly just the authors own personal accounts, examples, stories, and not a lot of practical solutions, while being condescending enough to warn the reader that being lazy is just an excuse, its crazy to claim to really understand the mental mechanisms behind this disorder. On the one hand the author states that there is a powerlessness behind these mental disorders, such that we don't CHOOSE to be codependent, or depressed. or anxious, but the author explicitly wants you to believe that you can 'overpower' these mechanisms with your free will, it's as crazy as telling an addict "hey, if you just TRY a bit harder, you can kick this addiction!" Not very helpful. We want to develop insight, not be told that we are codependent because we are just lazy and choose to be. Also, the narration is absolutely horrid.

Wonderful book!!

this is not your mother's codependency book. this updated view of codependency and how to help you help yourself is an easy read and invaluable to the person trying to work through these issues. additionally her references and resources aligned perfectly with the people I listen to and read most. I definitely believe in a higher power and pray to God everyday. I do not go to church and I'm not religious. this book aligned very closely with my beliefs.

Extremely Inspirational !

This book has helped me in so many ways and areas in my life. It has helped me look back to my past childhood and earlier life experiences to answer honest questions about myself and understand what codependency really is and how it has affected my life. I now use the tools and re-listen to this book over and over. I encourage anyone struggling with anything to read this book!

This is my Story.

I believe I was the subject. such a phenomenal self help book!!! it has helped me understand why I am the way I am. what a relief I am not alone.

All and all a good listen, with a few chuckles

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I would recommend this book for those who are searching for a way to heal themselves from codependency. This book is clear, easy to listen, real but lighthearted. Good for allowing reflection

very very good... Great ...

got the book to work things out with my husband and I've learned so much now I love it because he is also listening to...you're not crazy you're codependent

Very helpful. Great listen.

Very helpful in my personal growth. Narrator was great! Really helped me on my journey of overcoming codependency. Religious section is the last section of the book which is helpful for those who are not.

Hmm

I recently realised I had codependency all wrong.

I figured as a codependent, a person relied on others to take charge of their life situation and that they were dependent on that leadership from others to function.

THEN I read that actually, a codependent is a person who feels the need to control and provide for others whom they deem unable to look after themselves, that they wish to “save” others and then I saw myself.

I was interested to learn more so I picked this audiobook.

I have more clarity on codependent relationships now, which I am grateful for.

However, this book came off a little preachy and there’s so much about having faith in God - which to be fair the author warns about initially - but it lost me in that.

Faith is important in any healing journey, but it doesn’t have to be faith in God and in that I felt a little bored by the author’s constant chatter about having a relationship with this higher power.

All in all, a decent listen, but I didn’t relate and the tools for healing were not beneficial for me.