You're Not Crazy - You're Codependent

What Everyone Affected by Addiction, Abuse, Trauma or Toxic Shaming Must Know to Have Peace in Their Lives

By: Jeanette Elisabeth Menter

Narrated by: Pam Ward

Length: 5 hrs and 28 mins

Publisher's summary

If your life has been affected by addiction (yours or someone else's), abuse, trauma or toxic shaming, you may also be struggling with another invisible problem - codependency. Without your even being aware of the connection to the above issues, it has created additional life-long challenges such as endless guilt, anxiety, perfectionism, need to control, depression, a history of dysfunctional relationships and much more.

This easy-to-understand, interactive book will reveal how codependency has sobotaged you, the lies it created in your beliefs and the truths that expose them. Also included is a Guide to Recovery using simple acts of mindfulness to overcome harmful habits in your thinking, actions and choices that are keeping you from having peace. Once you understand you are not crazy, just coping with the deep-seated effects of codependency, you will be free to create the life you were always meant to have.

©2015 Jeanette Menter (P)2018 Tantor

So helpful

Absolutely loved this book!
Practical advice and scary how it hits home. Highly recommend to anyone who struggles with this personality

Her story struck a chord that I didn't realize even applied to me

I thought I knew what Codependency meant. I didn't think it applied to me at all. Listening to this book made me realize that I knew nothing and that just about every single thing she spoke about applied to me. I listened to most of the book and was so excited, I thought I needed to share with my siblings and the bf that I am in a current state of separation. As the day went on, I talked extensively with my sister. I think I was being as little manic as is one of my mechanisms. My mind was racing with revelation after revelation seeing for the first time how shame, abuse/neglect, addiction and trauma shaped me. I thought I was over these childhood trauma because time passed and I was still alive and basically functioning. I understand now that is not the case. As the day went on and it was time for bed. I had a really hard time relaxing and stopping my racing thoughts. it was like I was seeing for the first time and I didn't want to look away for great is lose it. I also wanted to share all this that I was feeling. So I took my phone and got in a hot bath. I continued the book. And lo and behold, she spoke about all of this info overwhelming, wanting to share and wanting to do it all at once. After that I was finally able to sleep.
I really think that this book is the first step to healing my soul, my mind and even my body.
For the first time in my life, I can envision a future. A normal achievable future. For fifty years, I couldn't, My future dreams were grandiose and unachievable for the most part. My dreams (not actual dreams but my imagination for the future) had always been about winning the lottery or meeting Keanu and running a charity with him or something(I freaking love Keanu, mornings gonna change that, but I think I can admire him and look to him as a role model instead of unhealthy imagination) . Now I see that the things I wanted to do in my youth before I got buried in my shame, addiction, trauma and abuse, that they are achievable. I see a way, a future through therapy(which I had grown to resent and download it's effectiveness) that I can heal.
I think this book is the first stepping stone across the rapids of my childhood and into my adulthood. I see now that because I never got across those childhood rapids that I have never really got to "adulthood" I am on that first stepping stone and I can see the stones appearing in front of me and I see a path.

Listen to this book and keep striving to understand yourself. If this book doesn't help, keep looking. You obviously are wrong thinking something and are looking for answers if you're even reading this review. Keep at it.
I went through years and years of migraines and meds etc. I had daily headaches through my entire thirties. A doctor suggested Botox and my headaches stopped(for the most part, not completely).
I went through years of depression and bipolar medications with nothing working. It was depressing and discouraging. Thankfully my current doc suggested Auvelity. It's helped my brain fog, decision making and just clarity of mind.
Now I think I'm ready for healthy talk therapy and actually moving on from all those experiences that shaped me into the train wreck I have been

This book has been very insightful. I wish you the very best in your future endeavors

All and all a good listen, with a few chuckles

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I would recommend this book for those who are searching for a way to heal themselves from codependency. This book is clear, easy to listen, real but lighthearted. Good for allowing reflection

My Path

I believe that this book, was destined for me to read. Because this woman spoke on my entire life! It spooked me out and at the same time… after listening to this audible… I feel so much more lighter! I have listened to so many books to help me with the trauma I’ve dealt with, some were somewhat helpful by introducing me to human behaviors and mental awareness. But this one, specifically this one! Opened a grand door for me that this Angel I believe I met, before the shut down in 2020 pandemic NYC … this is part of what he or she meant and was talking about … wow. I’m amazed and grateful for whoever the author is for this book. I felt her weight lifted off her shoulder reading this book. Everything I’ve questioned and felt … is answered in this book, but it doesn’t stop here. I feel like after completing this book, the process of my healing journey, a life of peace and happiness has kicked in high gear with a much stronger faith. Finally I found an audible book on here that I can see is seriously valid on what’s in here to help others! Thank you Thank You.

This is my Story.

I believe I was the subject. such a phenomenal self help book!!! it has helped me understand why I am the way I am. what a relief I am not alone.

Very enjoyable

In depth coverage of topic and sub topics. Good humor. Thorough references. Fun exercises and questions.

Great book! Very encouraging!

I really appreciate the writers’ honesty, candor and humility in telling her own story. Even though she gives lots of suggestions, it isn’t a self-help book! I found it very encouraging, as I am on the path of recovering from codependency.
Although facing ones self and sickness is never easy, it is a relief to know that I am not responsible for what made me sick. I am not responsible for healing myself either. I believed both of those lies in the past.
What I am responsible for is remembering that I didn’t cause this sickness, the people who did were sick themselves and Jesus has the power to heal me. My part is to keep my faith in Him, take responsibility for myself and for no one else! I trust He will take care of everything and everyone else! He has lifted that burden off of my shoulders, mind and heart.
Thank you God!!!

So grateful for this book!

As a nurse (with ADHD, no less....meaning I'm constantly shaming myself 😒) I also have an alcoholic boyfriend and a narcissistic mother, so this book is VERY healing. I did an overview and I'm looking forward to journaling and revisiting my work in the journal next year. I'm hoping for much healing with God's help 🙏

very very good... Great ...

got the book to work things out with my husband and I've learned so much now I love it because he is also listening to...you're not crazy you're codependent

I'm not crazy - I'm healing

Loved the Book and could stop listening, will order the hard cover for the assignments.