Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents

De: Lindsay C. Gibson PsyD

Narrado por: Marguerite Gavin

In this breakthrough book, clinical psychologist Lindsay Gibson exposes the destructive nature of parents who are emotionally immature or unavailable. You will see how these parents create a sense of neglect and discover ways to heal from the pain and confusion caused by your childhood. By freeing yourself from your parents' emotional immaturity, you can recover your true nature, control how you react to them, and avoid disappointment. Finally, you'll learn how to create positive new relationships so you can build a better life.

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"Lindsay C. Gibson, PsyD, gives practical insight into a prevalent problem.... The book is impeccably clear.... This utter lack of confusion makes the book quite soothing, despite the heavy subject." ( Foreword Magazine)

Life-changing

What made the experience of listening to Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents the most enjoyable?

This book completely revolutionized my life. These concepts of emotionally immature people vs. emotionally mature people, and internalizers vs. externalizers, etc., explain so very much about my existence and the family dynamic I've experienced. It helped to clear up most of the confusion I had regarding my driven parents, and answered questions I didn't even know how to articulate. It truly brought so much healing into my soul, I couldn't get enough of it. I will definitely keep listening to this over and over again, especially when I need the reassurance, clarity, guidance and encouragement that I may never receive from my family. I wish I could hug the author and adopt her as a mentor. What a deep, insightful, and caring individual Dr. Gibson must be, to have written this book. What a blessing. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart.

Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?

SO many A-Ha moments, I am still trying to process it all.

Emotional maturity is a topic worthy of study

If you could sum up Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents in three words, what would they be?

Helpful and informative

What did you like best about this story?

I like that the text was able to both discuss the effect of a lack of emotional maturity of parents on their grown children as well as discussing emotional maturity in general. I didn't feel that I was getting only a look at "this is what happened to these adults" but rather a continuum of the effects of emotional immaturity in all stages, including the ability to reflect on my own life and emotional maturity as a parent and how it may affect my children.

What does Marguerite Gavin bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?

The narration was well delivered and kept me interested. I'm a slow reader, and so I expect it would have taken me much longer to get through a print version, but Ms. Gavin kept the text moving along and always kept me interested.

If you were to make a film of this book, what would the tag line be?

Not based on the book

Any additional comments?

All in all, I was very pleased with the book as a study of emotional maturity at all levels. It was very helpful and gave me a good understanding of the subject, and made me want to learn more, not to mention find ways to mature emotionally. It also did help to a great degree regarding digging into the past and finding the roots of why we act the way we do.

highly recommended

I will be referencing this book while working on the issues it discusses- I found it extremely insightful, detailed, and easy to follow. I really disliked the narrator's style of speaking, but found the book so helpful I was able to overlook that easily. It is well worth listening to.

Taught Me A Lot About Myself and My Parents

This book was very useful in gaining an understanding of why emotionally immature people do and say inappropriate things, and why they relate to others as they do. The information in the book applies to emotionally immature parents as well as to emotionally immature people in general.

The narrator did a generally good job narrating, except for when it came to exercises, she spoke too rapidly. Also, her voice does trail off at times, like at the ends of some sentences, making it difficult to hear certain words. This is a common problem with lots of narrators, causing the listener to have to keep rewinding the audio.

Overall, it's a great book. I highly recommend it to anyone who had or has one or both parents that are unbearably selfish, intrusive, needy, demeaning, emotionally neglectful or fill in the blank with any other adjective that makes for an incompetent parent. You will find in the book excellent advice on how to handle such parents. I have an older cousin whom the author described remarkably well in her explanation of the emotionally immature. Next time I cross paths with her, rather than hold my tongue in order to be the better person and take the high road, I will use the strategy recommended to speak up for and defend myself without stooping to her level of emotional immaturity.

Great advice also on how to recognize an emotionally mature potential mate. Highly recommended.

Helpful

Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

I recommend this book. While not the most "enjoyable" subject matter, the book does a good job in breaking down emotionally immature archetypes and helps you recognize your situation. If you have a parent/s who continue to hurt you, this book is very insightful and helpful in moving forward while protecting yourself.

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It wasn’t until college I realized my parents were emotionally immature. I came to this realization when I met a bunch of college peers and they mentioned either how their mom or their dad was like their best friend and they talked to them all the time. I was a little shocked and confused considering I always viewed myparents like employers at some sort of suit and tie work environment. This book helped me recognize the emotional immaturity of my parents, Realize even further it’s not me it’s them, and help me imagine a future where I can be in emotionally mature parent for my own son and future kids.

Was painful but I needed to hear this

There are many points in this book that I could relate to word to word. It felt like story of my life from emotional perspective. My brother and I are perfect examples of internalizer (me) and externalizers (my brother).

I can’t thank author enough for this book. I think it’s going to play a key role in my healing. I’ll be talking about many points from this book in my upcoming Therapy sessions. Thanks again!

10 years of therapy in 1 book

Honestly, this book is life changing in the level of awareness it provides you with, afyer you learn about the roots of certain patterns. I've been intentionally working on unveiling and healimg the relationship patters I've been raised with, but it feels like processing the content of this book is worth 10 years of therapy 😅 Give it a shot - it won't disappoint 😉

Helpful tool that I'll revisit regularly

This book helped me understand myself and my parents objectively. The recording is very quiet, which is my only complaint. I have saved this book under my favorites, so that I can revisit it again.

Not just what, also why, & how to heal.

This book is practical. affirming, and useful. It goes well beyond theory by offering understandable, healthy alternatives for interacting with oneself and others.