Why Does He Do That?

Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

De: Lundy Bancroft

Narrado por: Peter Berkrot

He says he loves you. So...why does he do that? You've asked yourself this question again and again. Now you have the chance to see inside the minds of angry and controlling men---and to change your life. In this groundbreaking book, a counselor who specializes in working with abusive men shows you how to improve, survive, or leave an abusive relationship. You will learn about:

• The early warning signs
• Ten abusive personality types
• The role of drugs and alcohol
• What you can fix, and what you can't
• How to get out of a relationship safely

©2002 Lundy Bancroft (P)2011 Tantor

Reseñas de la Crítica

"This is essential reading for those in the helping professions and highly recommended for all libraries, especially those in communities with emergency shelter programs." ( Library Journal)

A true Ah Ha Moment!

This is the one true explanation of Why & How he is the way he is, and the real prognosis for change.

Read it, and throw away everything else that attempts to explain.

This is the Real Deal.

Very helpful

While listening to this, I felt more understood than I ever have. This was better than any therapy I have sought out. I have often felt therapists just didn't know how to help me; couldn't offer enough wisdom or insight. This empowered me much more. I am so glad this book exists and hope that the information eventually reaches the family court system and effects some changes. This is profoundly helpful in just knowing I am not crazy. It also keeps the thought that I need to get out of my relationship permanently - ever present in my mind. I am so grateful for this author's work and his efforts to bring this information to the world.

Every woman should read this book

That's it. If you're a woman read this book. Even if not everything applies to you this information will still be so valuable for you to have.

Everyone should read/listen/own this book

Lundy Bancroft did an amazing job of sharing his experience and research with abusive men and their families. This book applies to you if you've been abused, suspect you may be getting abused, are abusive or know someone who's being abused. Some parts are difficult to hear because Lundy Bancroft cuts straight to the core of many issues. The thing that stood out to me the most is the strong sense of entitlement abusers have. It's how they justify and excuse their unacceptable actions.That was my eye opener. From there, I was able to see the reality of my situation. My wife blinders fell off, and I now stand with the truth. Not my spouse's version of what he wants me to see. It's heartbreaking to look back and see how I was groomed and drained over the course of a decade, but this book is helping me get out of the muck. It's got so much valuable information that I will continue to return to it. I listened to it 3x already, as it's keeping me grounded while my husband is in an extended honeymoon (being nice) phase. I filed for a legal separation and magically, he's back to acting like the man I thought I married. His doing this worked on me many times, but not this time. I will listen to this book until I know it by heart... whatever gives me the strength to put me first, I will do it.

This is the book that will help you.

This book helped me realize that I was in a full-fledged emotionally abusive relationship. Prior to this book, I was questioning myself, my sanity, my ability to have a successful relationship. After listening to it, I know I have been the victim of textbook abuse and I now know what to look for to avoid this situation in the future.

Everyone should listen to this book, in a relationship or not. It outlines what to look for to avoid an abusive relationship throughout your life. It is straightforward about the processes and maneuvers of an abuser and it has no fluff.