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The Undervalued Self

By: Elaine N. Aron
Narrated by: Marguerite Gavin
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Restore Your Love/Power Balance, Transform the Inner Voice That Holds You Back, and Find Your True Self-Worth

Elaine Aron follows up her best sellers on the highly sensitive person with a groundbreaking new book on the undervalued self. She explains that self-esteem results from having a healthy balance of love and power in our lives. Listeners will learn to incorporate love into situations that seem to require power and deal with power struggles that mask themselves as issues of love. From the bedroom to the boardroom, her strategies will enable us to escape feelings of shame, defeat, and depression; dissolve relationship hostility; and become our best selves.

With Aron's clear, empathetic writing and extraordinary scientific and human insight, The Undervalued Self is a simple and effective guide to developing healthy, fulfilling relationships, and finding true self-worth.

©2010 Elaine N. Aron (P)2010 Gildan

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Life Changing!

I am sooo grateful for this book! It has absolutely changed me and made me more aware of why I act and did the things I used to do. Everyone I recommended this book to thanks me, tells me how their brain has been rewired and how much more sure of themselves they are. Definitely a great read for EVERYONE! I am excited to see where I take myself now that the persecuting and critical voice in my head is virtually non existent!

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Amazing material. Narration can be irritating.

This is a great book and unusual. A synthesis of some psychology, evolutionary psychology, behavior and power topics. An application of behavioral theories on jockeying for status / hierarchy combined with our need for social connection and how these things play out in our self-concept and, thus how we live our lives... wish I could find more books like this. The narrator's voice was hard for me to sit with. I kept wanting to tune her out or got so tired of hearing her I shut the book off just to take a break. A little more relaxation in narration would make a big difference. Too rigid for my taste but others may enjoy her voice.

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Good book, uncomfortable speed

It doesn't really sink in when it's read out like we are missing a train or something. I don't like it, and I'm struggling to listen it to the end.

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Super clear psychology

Elaine is not just a genious, but also generous by sharing ideas that has the power to make many break free from medications. Since the book uses many high level ideas it took me a while to see Elaine loves to keep things to common sense. Something that today should be called rare sense.

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Valuable concepts on relating to one's self

I enjoyed the clear content the author explains about how to better manage one's own self-talk and manage relationships.

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A lot of helpful information

This book digs into the different personas inside you and really helps you understand why and how you undervalue yourself. It also provides steps you can take to begin to heal. In order to do the assignments it is helpful to also have a paper copy or the e-book.

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Brilliant book!

I can honestly say that this book has transformed my life. I understood a lot about myself, tactics that I had been inadvertently using to sabotage myself.

I think every one should learn about the linking/ranking concept and protector/ persecutor reflex.

Would highly recommend it.

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Great book

Really good content, not something I’ve read before and very helpful in my trauma healing. I don’t love the narration though, it’s a little stiff and unnatural.

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Great Read!

I really enjoyed this book. I think she should have changed the order of how it’s written but my favorite part of the book was the middle to end. I feel like this book is great for everyone to read.

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Love this book

I loved every chapter in this book. In fact, I listened to it again right after the first time, just so I could hear the plethora of information offered in each one, and I probably will listen again. It’s a wealth of information & advice on a subject that is very close to me.

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