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Why Does He Do That? Audiobook

Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

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Publisher's Summary

He says he loves you. So...why does he do that? You've asked yourself this question again and again. Now you have the chance to see inside the minds of angry and controlling men---and to change your life. In this groundbreaking book, a counselor who specializes in working with abusive men shows you how to improve, survive, or leave an abusive relationship. You will learn about:

  • The early warning signs
  • Ten abusive personality types
  • The role of drugs and alcohol
  • What you can fix, and what you can't
  • How to get out of a relationship safely

©2002 Lundy Bancroft (P)2011 Tantor

What the Critics Say

"This is essential reading for those in the helping professions and highly recommended for all libraries, especially those in communities with emergency shelter programs." (Library Journal)

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    Brittany N. 05-31-17
    Brittany N. 05-31-17
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    "Great Content, Bad Delivery"
    What did you like best about Why Does He Do That?? What did you like least?

    The content is great, and very important for all women to know. I think this is a great book to talk with your older teens about. Everyone should know the warning signs, and what to look for. But there are some parts where there is just too much info to follow along without looking physically at the book/words. I found myself needing to go back and re-listen to certain parts in order to properly absorb the information. I also would have liked the narrator to speak with more personality, and emotion. I think this would help keep my attention more.


    What didn’t you like about Peter Berkrot’s performance?

    His performance came off WAY too textbook. I felt like I was listening to a lecture that was too monotone to keep my attention for very long.


    Any additional comments?

    In hindsight, I would probably not waste a credit on this. I would rather just find the actual book online, or a pdf version.

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    Donna Ecklesdafer 05-01-17
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    "Informative and helpful"

    I had to listen to the book in small sections to really digest it because it was packed with good information and examples. I finished the book and will soon be purchasing a follow up book by the same author.

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    Christine Dove 04-24-17 Member Since 2016
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    "Essential Reading!"

    This is by far the most informative and helpful non I have read on domestic abuse. I wish I could give a copy to everyone I know!

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    Bg1970243 04-21-17
    Bg1970243 04-21-17 Member Since 2015
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    "Great!"

    Excellent book! It's nice to see the directness and way in which the author calls the abuser out and doesn't allow room for excuses. Most counselors and books I've read on marriage/relationships don't specifically address how to handle abusive men. Not all men beat their partners, but they can still be abusive. It's refreshing to hear a stance taken that doesn't hold an innocent parter at fault for an abusers actions. Nothing done by a women constitutes a mans right to be abusive. Excellent book. Very empowering.

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    Casey Indianapolis 04-03-17
    Casey Indianapolis 04-03-17 Member Since 2017

    Because CR Clif says so

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    "Big wake up call, life changing to say the least"

    Anyone who thinks they might have an anger problem, and is ashamed of how they treat their partner (e.g. would you do that in front if your Mom or your boss?) needs to check this out don't wait 10 years of being an abuser do it now!

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    v 01-14-17
    v 01-14-17 Member Since 2015
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    "Great book on this subject"

    Mušt read if you are or think you may be In an abusive relationship or if you know someone who deals with a verbally or physically abusive man. Eye opening. Pretty thorough book

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    mandy 01-13-17
    mandy 01-13-17 Member Since 2016
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    "Every abused woman and her supporters should read"
    Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

    Yes, if she was in an abusive relationship or helping someone in one. Or if one is confused about why women stay with abusive men. This book showed me the truth for the first time!


    Who was your favorite character and why?

    The author or counsellor who says why he needs to talk to the wife's and girlfriends of the abuser. Not many counsellors do that so they don't get the truth from the man. The author explains why this is so crucial.


    What does Peter Berkrot bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?

    One of the best narrators. He read it like he was the author, understood what he was reading and sounded as though he believed what he was saying which is critical for abused women. he's fantastic!


    What did you learn from Why Does He Do That? that you would use in your daily life?

    A ton of it! I know what questions to ask women in similar circumstances and how to keep myself safe!


    Any additional comments?

    Read the book and let your daughters read it

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    Melanie Couch Hazard, KY United States 01-06-17
    Melanie Couch Hazard, KY United States 01-06-17 Member Since 2014
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    "Wow. Eye opening."

    Very very very useful. If you have questions at all this book will help. I can make a better decision now.

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    Amazon Customer 12-22-16
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    "Everyone needs to read this book. "

    I found this to be one of the hardest things I have ever had to listen to but something that i needed to hear. Thank you.

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    Kisha Chicago, IL 12-08-16
    Kisha Chicago, IL 12-08-16 Member Since 2016
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    "Great book! Gives you everything you need to know"

    I listened to this book several times. If you are in a relationship and feel like you can do nothing right and you're struggling to hang onto your sanity, get this book!

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