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Should I Stay or Should I Go?
- A Guide to Knowing If Your Relationship Can - and Should - Be Saved
- Narrated by: Stephen R. Thorne
- Length: 13 hrs and 51 mins
- Unabridged Audiobook
- Release date: 12-08-15
- Language: English
- Publisher: Tantor Audio
- Whispersync for Voice-ready
Regular price: $31.49
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Publisher's Summary
In this supportive and straightforward guide, Lundy Bancroft, the author of Why Does He Do That?, and communication specialist JAC Patrissi offer a way for women to practically take stock of their relationships and move forward, with or without their partners. Women involved in chronically frustrating or unfulfilling relationships will learn to: tell the difference between a healthy yet difficult relationship and one that is really not working, recognize the signs that their partner has a serious problem, stop waiting to see what happens and make their own growth the top priority, and prepare for life without their partner, even as they keep trying to make the relationship work.
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This book is life changing
One of the best book's I ever read in my life. full of knowledge and wisdom.
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- lisa randolph
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Excellent descriptions
The author really delves in to get to the root of a dysfunctional relationship and offers many solutions and outcomes for various scenarios.. He is not biased but very stern on how an individual should evaluate and access their own situation