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Divorce Poison

How to Protect Your Family from Bad-mouthing and Brainwashing
Narrated by: Daniel Penz
Length: 14 hrs and 43 mins
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Publisher's Summary

Your ex-spouse is bad-mouthing you to your children, perhaps even trying to turn them against you. If you handle the situation ineffectively, your relationship with your children could suffer. You could lose their respect, lose their affection, and even, in extreme cases, lose all contact with them.

This groundbreaking work gives parents powerful strategies to preserve and rebuild loving relationships with their children and provides legal and mental health professionals with practical advice to help their clients and ensure the welfare of children.

Divorce Poison offers advice on how to:

  • Recognize early warning signs of trouble
  • React if your children refuse to see you
  • Respond to rude and hateful behavior
  • Avoid the seven common errors made by rejected parents

©2010 Richard A. Warshak, PhD (P)2015 Tantor

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"Useful resource for families dealing with divorce and child rearing." ( Booklist)

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Required Reading

Like other readers/listeners there were many similarities in my own divorce experience. I wish I had found this book earlier for me to better help my children understand loving both parents is okay despite the circumstances of divorce. It's extremely hard when divorcing a narcissist.

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i have hope again! thank you so much. you will save my family. I still have to open up my communication with my daughter. but someone professionally finally knows and can prove what I'm through. I almost gave up many times. I'm so happy i didn't. i would have never made it here and probably my life. I'm an empath so you can see how 6 years of this has done to my well being. I blame myself for not being more assertive. I will survive because of you. I literally cried like a baby and laughed while crying as i listened to your book. i also have attention deficit issues. so that's why i did the audio. fyi your narrator is amazing. I could listen to!his!voice all day long lol. again thank you with all my heart. this is it. this is the first day of the rest of our lives. i will reach out to!you when I've taken care of my family to share my stories and how i coped. maybe it can help someone else in my situation. and earlier detect it. :) your biggest fan MATT

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  • Raleigh, NC United States
  • 07-30-16

Good coping strategies – some info a bit outdated

I found much of this book to be very useful, especially how he makes it clear that being the targeted paren should not mean being a passive one.
The model which he goes from though, PAS (parental alienation syndrome) is mired in controversy.
I disagree that, as the author contends, that this needs to be eight years long issue where the alienator often gets the upper hand.
Anyone wanting to learn about a more effective approach to dealing with this should look up Dr. Craig Childress and his attachment-based parental alienation information.

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excellent, insightful, organized, great narration

Found this incredibly applicable, I was enlightened and educated. The narrator was fabulous. I actually followed advice in this book to a T and it solved my many questions. Outcome was excellent

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What did you love best about Divorce Poison?

The practical & functional step by step approach

What did you like best about this story?

Warshak breaks down the process & symptoms of "divorce poisoning" to aid the reader's understanding

What about Daniel Penz’s performance did you like?

A good narrator. Easy to understand his voice

Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?

All the real life stories of our children......I cried so much that I will have to listen to it again

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Invaluable resource

I have given this book to my lawyer, mediator, all of my family members, and friends. I read the book over a 32 hour time period and am reading it again. I’ve already seen positive results from using some of the counter techniques suggested in the book. The anxiety my kid has been demonstrating through nail biting, crying, violent outbursts, etc, have diminished and it’s only been 2 days since I started using the techniques (4 years old). It’s beneficial to any parent/child relationship, not just divorcing/ed families. The things that hit home strongest was when he spoke about how the child needs to learn how to cope with one parent or relative bad mouthing the other parent. They don’t have inherent coping mechanisms and we need to help teach them. It is so tragically beautiful. Thank you, Dr. Warshak, for this book.

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good book

very educational, this book really helped me understand my own situation, it was as if I was reading a book about my self....scary.

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Needs to be heard

Just finishing up a custody case where I was experiencing alienation probably at the more moderate end of the spectrum - this book would have been even greater 4 years ago when things were falling apart and I didn't have the emotional stability or support system to handle all of the conflict with the best poise. As our country suffers from so many broken families I can only pray this book reaches the hands of those who most definitely need it. Thank you.

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Awesome

this was a very eye opening book that helped me better understand what is going on with my son and some tools to try and win his love back

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Game Changer

This book helped us realize we aren't crazy! My fiancé has an ex wife that is completely unstable and has poisoned his children against him. We have been been astonished and heartbroken to witness the changes in their behavior and hearts towards him. He loves his children and would do absolutely anything for them, but they have hardened their hearts to him. I just knew we couldn't be alone in the fight, and this book not only validated that we are not alone, but also gave us the tools we need to help try to repair the relationships that are suffering. Thank you, thank you, thank you for the time and effort that went into researching and writing this book!

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