Power

Surviving & Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse
Narrated by: Julie McKay
Length: 9 hrs and 48 mins
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Pathological mind games. Covert and overt put-downs. Triangulation. Gaslighting. Projection. These are the manipulative tactics survivors of malignant narcissists are unfortunately all too familiar with. As victims of silent crimes where the perpetrators are rarely held accountable, survivors of narcissistic abuse have lived in a war zone of epic proportions, enduring an abuse cycle of love-bombing and devaluation - psychological violence on steroids. From how to heal our addiction to the narcissist to how to recognize a covert narcissist, Shahida Arabi's articles on narcissistic abuse have gained renown as some of the most accurate and in-depth depictions of this terrifying trauma, resonating with millions of survivors all over the world and receiving endorsements from numerous mental health professionals. In this essay compilation, listeners can enjoy some of her most popular articles as well as new thought pieces on narcissistic abuse: what therapists have to say about malignant narcissists and how children of narcissistic parents can become trapped in the trauma repetition cycle. Survivors are offered new insights on what it means to be both a survivor and a thriver of covert manipulation and trauma. Power teaches us that it is important to not only understand the tactics of toxic personalities but also to recognize and combat the effects of narcissistic abuse; it guides the survivor to learning, growing, healing and most importantly of all - owning their agency to rebuild their lives and transform their powerlessness into victory.

©2017 Shahida Arabi (P)2017 Audible, Inc.
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A “Powerful” book

I heard so much confirmation of what I was going through my whole life, including now. Even things I had previously only thought in my own head as a contrary response to a couple things other narcissistic abuse experts have said. It’s an extremely affirming, uplifting and emotionally supportive book, I highly recommend it. In fact, after a bit of time passes to allow what I am processing from it to fully absorb, I will re-listen to it in order to absorb more of the caring and loving support and information it provides that I was not able to absorb in and process all at one time.

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Horrible performer

The story is gripping but the reader sounds like a bot. The voice is distracting.

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Unnecessarily repetitive and almost unbearable performance

This book is best for those unfamiliar with characteristics and affects of dealing with significant others who suffer from NPD, NOT those who grew up with an NPD parent.

Since I have read many books on this topic, I was quite bored while listening. I kept hoping some new nugget of information would pop up which led me to keep going.

Couple that with how unbearable the performance was and I was sometimes cringing while listening. She has this strange California type accent, like sometimes sounding like her chin is jutting out while talking or emphasizing words that end with the letter D. It is hard to describe without hearing it but I will absolutely never listen to another audible book dictated by her. Absolutely deplorable.

One of the few audible books I regret purchasing.

I would recommend anyone not at all familiar with NPD and suspicious of being involved in a relationship with a person with NPD to purchase this audible, as long as you don’t care about the dictation. Sample it first.

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Book content is incredible IF....

Book is incredible IF you can get past a computerized/automated female voice reading! So annoying and distracting! I couldn’t endure it. I got a refund and bought the print version. Such a shame that I couldn’t listen....

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  • 09-06-17

Eye opening

This author touches on words and explanations that make so much sense to someone who has lived with someone that expressed this behavior. Made things that happened understandable.

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absolutely worst narrator of all the books

absolutely worst narrator of all the books I've purchased. I'd like my money back. thank you

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siri could have done a better job reading this

I was dumb and didn't listen to the sample before I picked this audible book with my 1 free credit. I can listen to this robotic performance at all.

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Lacks substance.

This book promises understanding but lacks the substance to bring to light the subject matter. It is filled with mixed metaphors and blanket statements that sound like a snake oil salesman who offers a cure for all ills, but ultimately cures nothing.

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100% Validation

This is the most spot on description of what I survived. This has helped my healing/recovery in so many ways. It helps my emotions catch up to my intellectual understanding of this abuse. Invaluable resource used in conjunction with traditional therapy and alternative modalities that develop self-soothing and self-love. Thank you a million times!

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great book. great narrator.

a must listen, thanks to the author of this book forma such a thorough work.

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  • 12-15-19

robot voice

Cant listen to a robot voice. (Why do I need to write 15 words for this review.)

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  • Lisa
  • 04-22-18

really good book

This book helped me stay no contract. it help my understand my self. really happy will be reading again to reflect back on.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 08-30-19

struggled to even listen too

I really struggled with the content of this, it's was also boring and didn't captivate me enough

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  • Josh
  • 06-10-19

POWERFUL and LIFE CHANGING

This book answered every question I couldn’t articulate and lifted me from thoughts of taking my life, to becoming an empowered and enlightened man. I was broken when I stated reading this book, after suffering at the hands of narcissistic abusers my entire life, this book CHANGED MY LIFE. Thank you so much Shahida xxx

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  • Kirstie
  • 04-23-19

Good content if you can get over the horrific “reading”

Wow. The reading, if you can call it that, is uncomfortable to listen to at best. A good book, but I would be inclined to buy and read rather than listen to the horrific narrative, possibly the worst voiceover I’ve ever listened to.

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  • Johanna
  • 03-26-19

Really awful audiovoice

The audio voice was so bad that couldn’t listen to this book. Sounded like a robot

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  • britt
  • 03-12-19

not helpful DO NOT BUY OF YOU ARE OVER 25

please don't read this book the author doesn't have any real answers and doesnt answer the questions that really need answering

The author may be well qualified but she is very young and doesn't have or didn't have at the time of writing this book any dependants so if you are dealing with this and don't have kids ...stay far away from this book as the author , like so many without kids is very " single minded " and a little more selfish than a parent can ever afford to be

She finished the book by saying something trite about meditation being really important and for so many of us after we have lost so much it's far to little far, far to late .

please don't buy this book and line the pockets of a young women who has no idea of what it's like to deal with this as someone without children and over 30 ... terrible advice from some one not old enough to know any better.

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  • Ava grace
  • 07-09-18

the voice is very awful but content is amazing

The voice artist is very monatone. it is very hard to engage with and listen to because of this. However the content of the book is spot on. really helpful to anybody who has had contact with a NARC.

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  • Louise Davies
  • 06-14-19

Good listen

Very good listen, however tended to be a bit repetitive but I did find it engaging.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 05-11-20

If you’ve read a Narcissist’s Nightmare no need to read this

Reading this book I thought it was going to help explain how to empower yourself after abuse instead it was exactly the same as the Narcissist’s Nightmare book this author has written. I found it rather frustrating it had nothing about personal development or empowerment. There really is no point reading this if you have read her previous book I mentioned. It’s great to understand how a narcissist person works and definitely validates what experiences one goes through. But it gets to a point where it would be nice to focus on positives and rebuilding your life not focusing on the victim mentality.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 11-10-19

Very informative

This book really nailed it. highly recommended for anyone who is dealing with a narcissist or has an ex who was one.

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  • G. Wang
  • 07-15-19

Good

Narrator's voice is a bit robotic. Took a while to get use to. Book content is great.