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Publisher's Summary

"It is my feeling that debilitating shame and guilt are at the root of all dysfunctions in families," says Jane Middelton-Moz.

A few common characteristics of adults shamed in childhood:

  • You may suffer extreme shyness, embarrassment and feelings of being inferior to others.
  • You don't believe you make mistakes, you believe you are a mistake.
  • You feel controlled from the outside and from within.
  • You feel that normal spontaneous expression is blocked.
  • You may suffer from debilitating guilt; you apologize constantly.
  • You have little sense of emotional boundaries; you feel constantly violated by others; you frequently build false boundaries.

If you see yourself in any of these characteristics, you can learn how shame keeps you from being the person you were born to be and how to change that. Shame & Guilt describes how debilitating shame is created and fostered in childhood and how it manifests itself in adulthood and in intimate relationships. Through the use of myths and fairytales to portray different shaming environments, Dr. Middelton-Moz allows you to reach the shamed child within you and to add clarity to what could be difficult concepts.

Listen to Shame & Guilt - you're worth it.

©1990 Jane Middleton-Moz (P)2013 Audible, Inc.

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Great Book

If you could sum up Shame & Guilt in three words, what would they be?

"Eye" or shall I say "ear" opening read! Jane Middleton-Moz really is able to explain what shame really is.

What was one of the most memorable moments of Shame & Guilt?

I like they way she explains the elements of shame by using fairy tales.

Which scene was your favorite?

I liked the story of Perfect and the Giant.

Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?

Knowing I was not alone.

4 of 5 people found this review helpful

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take a chance to see how this can change your life

it was a great experience to listen to this book with my wife. Even though we both are in therapy shame and guilt needs to be explained and this does an excellent job.

1 of 1 people found this review helpful

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Greatest book I've ever read

My life now makes sense. Thank you Jane. Honestly, I can't thank you enough. I will try to share it with as many people as possible.

1 of 1 people found this review helpful

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Incredible.

This book has saved my future. I had no clue, but I know now what has hindered my whole life.

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Opened my eyes

Terrific clarity in describing the characteristics of shame, how it is created, how we manifest it in our lives, how it shuts us away from living our lives. More how to clear out shame would be excellent.

3 of 4 people found this review helpful

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Great Use of Story to Explain Psychology

Easy to listen to. I love how stories are used to explain psychological principles - similar to Clarissa Pinkola Estes books. The book explains shame and guilt better than it prescribes solutions but is still well worth a read/listen.

3 of 4 people found this review helpful

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  • Daniel
  • Mont Vernon, WA, United States
  • 10-10-13

Now I am free

What made the experience of listening to Shame & Guilt the most enjoyable?

Its where I came from

What was one of the most memorable moments of Shame & Guilt?

The giant and the chameleon

Which character – as performed by Cat Gould – was your favorite?

The character perfect

Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

Several times

Any additional comments?

Keep up the good work

3 of 4 people found this review helpful

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This book is incredible

I loved this book. so good and in depth and very easy to understand and thought provoking

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so helpful!

My therapist asked me to read this book and I put it off for months, but finally listened to it as an audiobook and absolutely loved it. wish I had read it sooner. Might have helped me work thru some of my old patterns faster. Highly recommend it! And something about Cat's accent and soothing voice helped deliver the deep concepts here very accessibly, non-threateningly, and with comforting compassion.

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Its OK

Would you consider the audio edition of Shame & Guilt to be better than the print version?

The overall message is good but too much story telling really feels like a waste of time considering it does not really add too much to the impact of the story. Overall, the book can benefit from being shortened. It is also probably good for less mature audiences such as young adults.

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  • chris
  • 11-19-14

Story:good diagnosis with very poor solution hints

Would you recommend this book to a friend? Why or why not?

Probably not

If you’ve listened to books by Jane Middleton-Moz before, how does this one compare?

I've listened to "After tears" and this book is like 30-35% value of the first one to me. The other book treats the ACOA issue in a much more organized and clear way (in my view). This book "Shame and guilt" evidently shows the high importance of shame and guilt in our lives and yet I have a sense as if this book treats the issue similarly to "a doctor making incisions to a patient on an operation table and then walking away leaving the patient with an open stomach". Good diagnosis, poor solution hints, or unclear hints. Lecture of this book leaves me with a sense of strong frustration that a problem is pointed out and no solution hints given.

What three words best describe Cat Gould’s performance?

Very good narrator.

Did Shame & Guilt inspire you to do anything?

Very frustrated as far as finding ways to solve shame and guilt problems.

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  • Lara
  • 01-19-15

Insightful and enlightening

Very nicely narrared in a heart-felt way, bringing the author closer to the reader with honest self-disclosure and many examples. As a professional this was valuable learning and teaching material and has not only impacted on my personal growth and understanding of my own story but also my work with clients. A very important topic that encompasses many of our issues.

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  • Charlott
  • 07-15-13

I have listened to this book many times

Any additional comments?

This book has a lot to offer to those who wants to work with themselves. I really liked it and I can still go back and listen to it again.