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The Tao of Fully Feeling

Harvesting Forgiveness out of Blame
Narrated by: Christopher Grove
Length: 13 hrs and 3 mins
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The price of emotional renunciation is a constant, wasteful expenditure of energy that leaves us depressed and taciturn, imprisoned in the apathy and ennui of the "seen that, been there, done that" syndrome. When we surrender and soften to our feelings, we reconnect with our inborn vitality and with the invaluable instinct and intuition that our feelings naturally carry.  

The Tao of Fully Feeling describes the middle ground of emotional aliveness that lies between emotional deadness and emotional explosiveness. It helps us to soften and relax into our feelings without exiling them or enshrining them. It guides us to be emotionally expressive in benign, intimacy-enhancing ways.  

The Tao of Fully Feeling teaches us to respond to our painful and potentially disruptive feelings in healthy ways. It illustrates the enriching aspects of the so-called negative emotions and helps us achieve the emotional flexibility whereby sadness easily mellows into solace, anger unfolds into laughter, fear evolves into excitement, jealousy opens up into appreciation, and blame gives way to forgiveness.  

The Tao of Fully Feeling refutes the black-and-white notion that blame is never justifiable. It describes safe, nondestructive ways of feeling and expressing blame - ways that ironically enhance our capacity to feel genuine forgiveness.  

When we authentically forgive our parents, we know what we are forgiving them for and what specifically was blameworthy about their behavior in the first place. When we forgive before we blame, we risk dragging the full weight of our childhood hurt and anger around forever, like an exhausted backpacker who is too dulled and over-trusting to notice that someone has put a boulder in his/her pack.

©1995 Pete Walker (P)2019 Tantor

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A MUST READ to heal childhood emotional wounds

A MUST READ to help heal childhood emotional wounds from poor parenting, even by parents who really tried their best and didn't mean to be cruel. Dr. Pete Walker has thoroughly explored and explained how to access the emotional self that has been silenced and stultified—all but lost— in folks who find themselves doing searches for this kind of literature.

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#GAMECHANGER

I LOVED EVERY PLACE PETE WAS BRAVE ENOUGH TO TAKE ME IN THIS BOOK, IT COULD BE CALLED STRANGE PLACES WITHIN. I WANT EVERY PERSON WITHIN MY LITTLE SCOPE OF INFLUENCE TO LISTEN TO THIS BOOK. THERE IS SOMETHING FOR ALL TO DISCOVER ABOUT THEMSELVES AS PETE WITH ELEGANT INTENTIONALITY POSE THOSE QUESTIONS THAT LIE IN WAIT JUST BENEATH THE SURFACE OF WHAT WE WANT OTHERS TO INTERPRET AS INDIVIDUALITY. IF GROWTH IS WHAT YOU SEEK, THEN SURELY YOU'LL BE CHANGED.

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A transformative, moving listen still relevant today.

I’m not even sure where to start on how personally beneficial listening to this audiobook has been to me and how much I connected with Pete Walker’s words. So many times something was delivered that I immediately connected with and had so many moments of realizations and actual feelings of grief for myself, for others who suffered and continue to suffer abuse and even the author himself as he described his own abuse. It was sometimes hard to listen to the common abusive dialogue that happens and I found myself needing a break at times, but the impact and the power of letting yourself truly feel is priceless, as well as the affirmations offered and the concept of parenting our own inner child. Having listened to the audiobook, I plan to buy physical book copies to give to others I know who may benefit from this book. Truly worth it.

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Very necessary

It was difficult to here what the narrator said sometimes. Don't know if it is the accent I had trouble to understand.

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  • Natalie savage
  • 08-04-19

Excellent!

This is a fantastic insightful book of excellencies! Deep honest and full of wisdom and insight. Highly recommend and I’m now off to devour Pete Walkers “ Surviving to Thriving”