The Tao of Fully Feeling

Harvesting Forgiveness out of Blame
Narrated by: Christopher Grove
Length: 13 hrs and 3 mins
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The price of emotional renunciation is a constant, wasteful expenditure of energy that leaves us depressed and taciturn, imprisoned in the apathy and ennui of the "seen that, been there, done that" syndrome. When we surrender and soften to our feelings, we reconnect with our inborn vitality and with the invaluable instinct and intuition that our feelings naturally carry.  

The Tao of Fully Feeling describes the middle ground of emotional aliveness that lies between emotional deadness and emotional explosiveness. It helps us to soften and relax into our feelings without exiling them or enshrining them. It guides us to be emotionally expressive in benign, intimacy-enhancing ways.  

The Tao of Fully Feeling teaches us to respond to our painful and potentially disruptive feelings in healthy ways. It illustrates the enriching aspects of the so-called negative emotions and helps us achieve the emotional flexibility whereby sadness easily mellows into solace, anger unfolds into laughter, fear evolves into excitement, jealousy opens up into appreciation, and blame gives way to forgiveness.  

The Tao of Fully Feeling refutes the black-and-white notion that blame is never justifiable. It describes safe, nondestructive ways of feeling and expressing blame - ways that ironically enhance our capacity to feel genuine forgiveness.  

When we authentically forgive our parents, we know what we are forgiving them for and what specifically was blameworthy about their behavior in the first place. When we forgive before we blame, we risk dragging the full weight of our childhood hurt and anger around forever, like an exhausted backpacker who is too dulled and over-trusting to notice that someone has put a boulder in his/her pack.

©1995 Pete Walker (P)2019 Tantor

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A MUST READ to heal childhood emotional wounds

A MUST READ to help heal childhood emotional wounds from poor parenting, even by parents who really tried their best and didn't mean to be cruel. Dr. Pete Walker has thoroughly explored and explained how to access the emotional self that has been silenced and stultified—all but lost— in folks who find themselves doing searches for this kind of literature.

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#GAMECHANGER

I LOVED EVERY PLACE PETE WAS BRAVE ENOUGH TO TAKE ME IN THIS BOOK, IT COULD BE CALLED STRANGE PLACES WITHIN. I WANT EVERY PERSON WITHIN MY LITTLE SCOPE OF INFLUENCE TO LISTEN TO THIS BOOK. THERE IS SOMETHING FOR ALL TO DISCOVER ABOUT THEMSELVES AS PETE WITH ELEGANT INTENTIONALITY POSE THOSE QUESTIONS THAT LIE IN WAIT JUST BENEATH THE SURFACE OF WHAT WE WANT OTHERS TO INTERPRET AS INDIVIDUALITY. IF GROWTH IS WHAT YOU SEEK, THEN SURELY YOU'LL BE CHANGED.

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Monotone Narrator Kind of Ironic for Fully Feeling

I love Pete Walker and have benefitted immensely from his work. I wish he'd narrated this audio book himself or had chosen someone who was more skilled at emoting while reading. The narrator's monotone wasn't just less than ideal, it interfered with my ability to track the material, understand it, and to retain it afterward. I'm glad that I also got the text edition of this work so that I can more fully absorb it by reading it.

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Deeeeeep

I wasn't sure I could finish it at first. Emotions welled up and I soaked my pillow in tears one night while crying for my mommy. Just as a child would. He taps into a deep place of repressed emotions that even I, as someone who has done a lot of work and is very expressive, had not yet ventured. He made it safe for me to admit that I missed the mother I never had-- that idealized person of warmth and nurturance that every child deserves. Although I've had to go no contact with my mom due to ongoing abuse, I was still sad to not have a mommy, to have been abandoned long ago. This book helped me release that final pain. And it helped me identify all the insidious ways I was abused and allowed to be advised by others.

The narrators voice also feels warm, protective, authentic, adding to that sense that this is a safe place to feel. I'm incredibly grateful for all of this author's works.

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A transformative, moving listen still relevant today.

I’m not even sure where to start on how personally beneficial listening to this audiobook has been to me and how much I connected with Pete Walker’s words. So many times something was delivered that I immediately connected with and had so many moments of realizations and actual feelings of grief for myself, for others who suffered and continue to suffer abuse and even the author himself as he described his own abuse. It was sometimes hard to listen to the common abusive dialogue that happens and I found myself needing a break at times, but the impact and the power of letting yourself truly feel is priceless, as well as the affirmations offered and the concept of parenting our own inner child. Having listened to the audiobook, I plan to buy physical book copies to give to others I know who may benefit from this book. Truly worth it.

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This book will heal you

Probably the most healing book I've listened to yet. I feel validated, understood, and like I have the tools to make things better.

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Lifeline to live.

Thank you Pete!
You are saving my wellbeing and thus those around me benefit too!
Love is the word...
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an eye opener

since I considered my childhood a normal childhood, this audio book really brought to my attention what all those old tapes (small voices in my head) have come from. now I know why that little voice constantly puts me in my place and won't let me get on with life and enjoy it to its fullest. I also have some real and exacting places to start in the healing of my inner child now that I can truly identify what this means and ways to deal with it and begin to heal. this book also helps me identify when it might be time to involve a counselor that works with my childhood and the memories that are locked away. the most powerful thing I learned is that my normal childhood was damaging and that almost everyone in the country experienced the same or similar damaging effects. I now know that generations of parents raising children using the only example that they had have created a nation of people who tend to reject themselves. I have a lot of work to do!

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Challenging

this book has the capacity to open very old wounds and assist with truly feeling them. the most memorable moment for me was the parenting as a survivor. realizing that I was afflicted by different kinds of abuse has opened my eyes to better parenting practices. this book doesn't give you an outline for such a thing. critical thinking will have to be applied to discover the better parenting practices. this helps me realize when I'm in an emotional flashback, this makes management of it far easier.

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Soul rendering version on childhood trauma and recovery

I have no words for how accurate my experience has been as outlined in this book. I am so deeply appreciative and moved by this recount of the human recount of painful memories and the oscillation of states we go through. Thanks for validating my feelings. I see a way forward for me.

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  • Emily
  • 10-01-19

Excellent recovery work for the unloved child

Amazing follow-on to reading Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving. Would recommend reading a few years after, as these books are intense and contain so much for your mind and body to process. Pete Walker has played a huge role in me being able to recover from childhood abuse. Highly recommended.

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  • P. Pavan
  • 09-19-19

A gift to us

I have now had the pleasure of having listened to both of Pete's books and words cannot describe the joy and relief that I got, knowing that I as t mad or crazy. It out life and let's share the love, learnings, and laughs x

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  • A Customer
  • 06-06-20

Hundreds of chapters

Great book but the chapter structure is seriously flawed. There's a new chapter for every heading, some only seconds long. Makes navigating the book almost impossible. If you want to go back and listen to an actual chapter you'll have trouble finding it. Spoiled an otherwise important book.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 02-12-20

Groundbreaking

Pete Walker’s discoveries and writing here have been nothing short of revolutionary for me. Both The Tao of Fully Feeling and complex PTSD books have been instrumental in my understanding and recovery from the grip of childhood trauma that had continued to adversely affect life as an adult. Thank you very much, Pete!

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  • Natalie savage
  • 08-04-19

Excellent!

This is a fantastic insightful book of excellencies! Deep honest and full of wisdom and insight. Highly recommend and I’m now off to devour Pete Walkers “ Surviving to Thriving”

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  • Simon
  • 06-17-20

Not quite the same...

Not quite the same impact as his cptsd book which was excellent writing, and you don't HAVE to forgive.

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  • Ms Emslar
  • 06-15-20

Life Changer

This book and Pete Walkers "from surviving to thriving" have given me the understanding and the tools to finally live with freedom and better relationships. Everyone could benefit from learning about trauma and its lasting effects and how to treat it. Thank you x

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  • Jonathan
  • 09-11-20

Great book and great delivery

Compared to the CPTSD: Surviving to Thriving book, which is probably much harder to deliver via an audio format. This audiobook is an excellent to the aforementioned book for those who are recovering from complex trauma or simply anyone who is looking to learn to fully feel more in life. Invaluable lessons and skills are imparted through this book that will not only be life-changing but absolutely life-enriching as well!

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  • Todd
  • 09-14-20

Ecstatic

This book has so many awakenings, useful tips and tools that helped me greatly! I would suggest this book to anyone who is on the path to finding themselves who is supported by others.
I will read this over and over again

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  • Cherie
  • 05-16-20

Life changing

I’ve listened to this book twice and will probably listen to it again. It makes a lot of sense and provides answers to questions I’ve had for a long time.