The Tao of Fully Feeling

Harvesting Forgiveness out of Blame

By: Pete Walker

Narrated by: Christopher Grove

The price of emotional renunciation is a constant, wasteful expenditure of energy that leaves us depressed and taciturn, imprisoned in the apathy and ennui of the "seen that, been there, done that" syndrome. When we surrender and soften to our feelings, we reconnect with our inborn vitality and with the invaluable instinct and intuition that our feelings naturally carry.

The Tao of Fully Feeling describes the middle ground of emotional aliveness that lies between emotional deadness and emotional explosiveness. It helps us to soften and relax into our feelings without exiling them or enshrining them. It guides us to be emotionally expressive in benign, intimacy-enhancing ways.

The Tao of Fully Feeling teaches us to respond to our painful and potentially disruptive feelings in healthy ways. It illustrates the enriching aspects of the so-called negative emotions and helps us achieve the emotional flexibility whereby sadness easily mellows into solace, anger unfolds into laughter, fear evolves into excitement, jealousy opens up into appreciation, and blame gives way to forgiveness.

The Tao of Fully Feeling refutes the black-and-white notion that blame is never justifiable. It describes safe, nondestructive ways of feeling and expressing blame - ways that ironically enhance our capacity to feel genuine forgiveness.

When we authentically forgive our parents, we know what we are forgiving them for and what specifically was blameworthy about their behavior in the first place. When we forgive before we blame, we risk dragging the full weight of our childhood hurt and anger around forever, like an exhausted backpacker who is too dulled and over-trusting to notice that someone has put a boulder in his/her pack.

©1995 Pete Walker (P)2019 Tantor

Powerful

Everyone should read this book!! It was very well spoken and such great healing content!

Libro para sanar y soltar.

impecable manera de expresar con palabras sentimientos, y situaciones que mentalmente han dejado marca en nuestras psiquis.

Excellent book with a good breakdown

Highly recommend it! I noticed myself getting better at feeling each day. I’ll definitely listen to this 2-3 more times to make sure I absorb and practice everything.

Forgiveness
Compression
Healthy Anger
Resentment

I thought they were covered really well.

OMG! Must read!

This book is a jewel! Amazing, one of the essentials in your library as an adult.

Awesome!

this book made me see things in a different light. well worth the time.

Life changing

I don’t think I’ve cried so much from any book before and felt no shame from doing so. You’ll want to read this book if you realize you may be trying to distract and numb yourself from your pain, nothing feels more restorative than reconnecting with your true self. Especially powerful for childhood trauma survivors, but applicable to anyone. Great narrator too.

Soul rendering version on childhood trauma and recovery

I have no words for how accurate my experience has been as outlined in this book. I am so deeply appreciative and moved by this recount of the human recount of painful memories and the oscillation of states we go through. Thanks for validating my feelings. I see a way forward for me.

Exceptional Content Filled with Insight & Medicine

Even if you are the most dedicated personal growth warrior, this tenderly, thoughtfully expressed book will take you deeper into the love and wholeness which is your essense. Pete Walker's masterful book adresses many complex experiences at the heart of becoming a fully feeling human with true agency. He brilliantly unpacks how we unlearned how to feel in order to survive what passes for normal in many, if not most, families in our increasingly emotionally empty or explosive modern society. He also maps clear pathways back to remembering how to healthily and fully feel which is the basic requirement for being happy and sovereign humans beings. As for the narration, I am partial to the sonorous, yang, grounded tones of the very good narration, but it could occassionally get a touch droning with the yang quality. Overall, I enjoyed Chris Grove's narration and felt he believed what he was saying and said it with kindness and love in his heart which is the ultimate accomplishment for a book of this sort. I also highly recommend Pete's Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving.

deep wounds

I had not realized how deep the wounds from childhood had been until 3 shallow, selfish narcissists worked together to publically shame and humiliate me all to get their rocks off. Now I see how their actions nearly drove me to self-destruction because those actions reactivated long forgotten deep childhood wounds. Thankfully I see them now for the sadistic monsters they are and know it wasn't about me, but their lack of character and soul. Healing the childhood wounds has helped me radically accept that the world is full of cruel people but that I am not defined by their evil. I rise above and love and serve...salt and light!

Spectacular

This book is something that I would have loved to have run into many years ago. Just beautiful!