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Practical, proven self-help steps show how to transform 40 common self-defeating behaviors, including procrastination, envy, obsession, anger, self-pity, compulsion, neediness, guilt, rebellion, inaction, and more.

©1996 Mark Goulston and Philip Goldberg (P)2018 Penguin Audio

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Sexist garbage

This book is so obviously written by someone with toxic masculinity issues. All the women are "homemakers" and men are bread winners. (There are very few other examples) There are some good crumbs of info, but not much. Not worth the listen.

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Nothing new

I can name twenty other books that provided more motivational information. The details in this book are pretty much what everyone already knows. This was a good book but I cant really say I took anything from listening to it. Im glad it was short.

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Not bad but nothing new here

I had to skip a lot of chapters that didn't apply to me, and that's fine. The way the book is broken down, it addresses different ways people get caught up and then offers insights to combat them. Not everything is going to apply to every reader. But, the thoughts and ideas offered seem pretty basic. There's nothing really new here. The narration, I'm sorry, is a bit sleep inducing. Very hard to listen to for long stretches.

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Powerful

I never knew so much of my behaviors were based on situations I encountered as a child and inadvertently carried over to adulthood.

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LISTEN AND LEARN!

Awesome book! This is extremely necessary to human beings seeking sanity in this world! Dr. G can soothe your soul right to sleep so listening before bed (but set a sleep timer) is ideal-well it is for me. I'd recommend listening to this multiple times, with each listen you'll recognize something new.

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Wonderful insight!

I have to admit that I wasn’t prepared to hear all the things that are holding me back, that I myself, am causing in my own life. However, once I get past that, I feel that this book will be extremely helpful to help me realize how I can overcome myself, and get out of my own way. I found the words in this book to be extremely intelligent, well delivered, and eye-opening. Thank you so much for bringing this book to the world, and to me.

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Awesome book

I usually hate self help books but this one gave me the best advice I’ve heard in such a long time...not just things that go in one ear and out the other but this book is great for dealing with toxic work environments you can’t escape

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Absolute must read

Must read to everyone at any stage of life. There will always be something that you can use this book to make life even better. The way it is written makes you decide to start making all necessary changes straight away.

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thorough yet concise

This was a very thorough but yet concise approach on suggestions addressing various issues an individual might be going through.

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Absolutely wonderful

Thank you Mark for sharing your insight on life! I’m definitely going to be implementing your techniques, skills, and strategies. Wonderful book

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  • David-Terence
  • 09-20-21

Just what I needed

This is just what I needed as I was excuding these self-defeating behaviour for the last year and now I have a blueprint on how to get out of this cycle

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  • tina noon
  • 06-28-21

Didn't think this applied to me, boy was I wrong.

I've read, then listened to Marks other books, talking to crazy and just listen. Didn't think get out of your own way would be useful or needed by me. This is the best book ive ever read, im so impressed with marks understanding of human nature. mark has explained my hampster head and what to do about it, priceless.
thank you.

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  • SweetPoison
  • 01-17-19

Good tips for recognising self defeating behaviours

Easy to understand self help. Listened to the whole book in a day. Really liked the tips.

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  • Sandhya limbu
  • 03-25-21

Practicable

Good book- easy to understand and is practicable. Love the narration too. Like an understanding and warm parent. Very relevant to my life as well- a 30 year old introverted millennial struggling to adult and survive at work and in life.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 08-13-21

Very concise and easy to understand.

Lots of gold nuggets shared and excellent tips on how to correct Self-Defeating behaviour

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  • Kristina M
  • 04-26-21

Meh

A lot of views that re-enforce harmful gender stereotypes. Other than that that not bad.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 10-22-20

Starting point

no one can love you if you do not love and trust yourself. you know your demons, so work at them. one step in front may be 3 paces back in another light; but only you can decide how far you've come. so read, listen, make note of the point and the quotes because they helped me understand that though I thought I was paving the way to a better life I was infact cementing it to hell with my toddler.
good luck everyone and note everyone takes something different out of most things. your perception would be much helpful to the next reader.