Get out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior

Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior
Narrated by: Mark Goulston
Length: 4 hrs and 49 mins
4.6 out of 5 stars (275 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

Practical, proven self-help steps show how to transform 40 common self-defeating behaviors, including procrastination, envy, obsession, anger, self-pity, compulsion, neediness, guilt, rebellion, inaction, and more.

©1996 Mark Goulston and Philip Goldberg (P)2018 Penguin Audio

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LISTEN AND LEARN!

Awesome book! This is extremely necessary to human beings seeking sanity in this world! Dr. G can soothe your soul right to sleep so listening before bed (but set a sleep timer) is ideal-well it is for me. I'd recommend listening to this multiple times, with each listen you'll recognize something new.

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Not bad but nothing new here

I had to skip a lot of chapters that didn't apply to me, and that's fine. The way the book is broken down, it addresses different ways people get caught up and then offers insights to combat them. Not everything is going to apply to every reader. But, the thoughts and ideas offered seem pretty basic. There's nothing really new here. The narration, I'm sorry, is a bit sleep inducing. Very hard to listen to for long stretches.

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Absolute must read

Must read to everyone at any stage of life. There will always be something that you can use this book to make life even better. The way it is written makes you decide to start making all necessary changes straight away.

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Powerful

I never knew so much of my behaviors were based on situations I encountered as a child and inadvertently carried over to adulthood.

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Wonderful insight!

I have to admit that I wasn’t prepared to hear all the things that are holding me back, that I myself, am causing in my own life. However, once I get past that, I feel that this book will be extremely helpful to help me realize how I can overcome myself, and get out of my own way. I found the words in this book to be extremely intelligent, well delivered, and eye-opening. Thank you so much for bringing this book to the world, and to me.

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thorough yet concise

This was a very thorough but yet concise approach on suggestions addressing various issues an individual might be going through.

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Lot of insightful content inclusive of guidance

Was hard to get into at first but after hitting my first applicable chapter I was intrigued. The lesson was clearly stated, a real life example provided, usable insight and a closing reinforcement of the lesson. You can quickly identify when it might not be of interest and skip.

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Nothing new

I can name twenty other books that provided more motivational information. The details in this book are pretty much what everyone already knows. This was a good book but I cant really say I took anything from listening to it. Im glad it was short.

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Untapped potential

The title of this book really grabbed me. I just love that phrase. “Get out of your own way.” For me, it means turning off my mind or emotions and just “doing it” when anxiety and fear hold me back. I mutter it to myself in stressful situations sometimes and find it to be pretty helpful. In terms of said helpfulness, however, I think that last sentence is about as far as this book got me. Don’t get me wrong, there are some good, surface-level ideas here, but they’re just that — quick lessons. I think the structure of the book could be to blame for this. It’s 175 pages but contains 40+ chapters. Each chapter tackles a different idea. It’s hard to flesh out one idea in 4ish pages, never mind 40 of them, all in a row. I have no doubt that Goulston is an amazing psychiatrist. I’d work with him any day of the week. He’s thoughtful, sincere, and attentive. That comes across in all of his stories here. I just don’t think his astuteness translated onto the page as well as it could have. I wish the book were longer, the chapters longer, and the ideas expanded upon further. That’s not to say you’ll get nothing out of the book, just that it might leave you wishing there were more to it. Again, the author is clearly a talented therapist, I just don’t think he gave himself enough room to fully show it. -Brian Sachetta Author of “Get Out of Your Head”

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A must Listen! I took so many notes!

Mark, this book is amazing! I have read and listened to so many self help books over the years and I am surprised by how much I still took away. You are a brilliant man and a genuine soul. This book inspired me to reach out to my father and finally tell him that I loved him for the first time in 30 years. I have already recommended this book to many friends, family and associates. I can’t wait to listen to your other books! Congratulations on a job well done on your life’s work and this amazing book! Thank you so much! :-)

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Good tips for recognising self defeating behaviours

Easy to understand self help. Listened to the whole book in a day. Really liked the tips.