Shame

Free Yourself, Find Joy, and Build True Self-Esteem
Narrated by: David deVries
Length: 9 hrs and 34 mins
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An intimate look at the full spectrum of shame - often masked by addiction, promiscuity, perfectionism, self-loathing, or narcissism - that offers a new, positive route forward

Encounters with embarrassment, guilt, self-consciousness, remorse, etc. are an unavoidable part of everyday life, and they sometimes have lessons to teach us - about our goals and values, about the person we expect ourselves to be. In contrast to the prevailing cultural view of shame as a uniformly toxic influence, Shame is a book that approaches the subject of shame as an entire family of emotions which share a “painful awareness of self.”

Challenging widely-accepted views within the self-esteem movement, Shame argues that self-esteem does NOT thrive in the soil of non-stop praise and encouragement, but rather depends upon setting and meeting goals, living up to the expectations we hold for ourselves, and finally sharing our joy in achievement with the people who matter most to us. Along the way, listening to and learning from our encounters with shame will go further than affirmations and positive self-talk in helping us to build authentic self-esteem.

Richly illustrated with clinical stories from the author’s 35 years in private practice, Shame also describes the myriad ways that unacknowledged shame often hides behind a broad spectrum of mental disorders including social anxiety, narcissism, addiction, and masochism.

©2018 Joseph Burgo, PhD. (P)2018 Brilliance Publishing, Inc., all rights reserved. Published by arrangement with St. Martin's Press.

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Basically a long overview until chapter 10

The book is incredibly (although intentionally) repetitive and doesn’t get into the meat of shame (relatable client stories) until about chapter 10. Once there, it is helpful hearing the stories.

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A great take on shame

This book is very good for anyone who wants a very informed and educated perspective. Burgo knows his stuff and this book gives great insight to some of his experiences that are intriguing to listen to. I flew through the audio version and am ordering the hard copy as well.

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Excellent Read

Very insightful book - gives great real world examples of how shame can affect our real world day to day lives.

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In depth shame!

If you've not read any books about shame then this one is a one stop book. It lays out in depth what the different forms of shame are, how we get shamed and how repressed shame affects us in our every day life. The book also has solutions to come out of shame and into feeling proud of our achievements.

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