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Publisher's Summary

Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life is a no-nonsense self-help guide for anyone who has ever been cheated on. Here's advice not based on saving your relationship after infidelity - but saving your sanity.

When it comes to cheating, a lot of the attention is focused on cheaters - their unmet needs or their challenges with monogamy. But Tracy Schorn (aka Chump Lady) lampoons such blameshifting and puts the focus squarely on the cheated-upon (chumps) and their needs. Full of solid advice that champions self-respect, Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life offers a fresh voice for chumps who want (and need) a new message about infidelity. This book will offer advice on stupid sh*t cheaters say and how to respond, rookie mistakes of the recently chumped and how to disarm your fears, why chumps take the blame and how to protect yourself, and more.

Full of snark, sass, and real wisdom about how to bounce back after the gut blow of betrayal, Schorn is the friend who guides you through this nightmare and gives you hope for a better life ahead.

©2016 Tracy Schorn (P)2017 Tantor

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this book saved my life!

This book is a must read for any person facing infidelity. I am eternally grateful to Tracy Schorn for clearly and thoroughly relating her insights and experiences. She has helped me move forward confidently with recreating my life.

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Marvelous

Soul saving. It cuts right through all the calamity and bullshit to the heart of the matter - your life is worth it, and their choices are not yours to deal with & suffer under. You deserve your own life. And this audiobook is a relentless voice in your ear of tough love for guiding you to making it out alive - and well.

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Wake up call

Great wake up call! The straight forward hard truth in this book and the narrators presentation of it is profound and eye opening. A true heart to heart.

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Amazing

Loved it! It was perfect helped me completely! I am no longer confused about what I am going to do! Thank you so much writing and sharing this book with us!

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Best Book on Infidelity

I wish I had this book over a year ago. Absolutely loved the book. Straight forward and honest. Plus there is humor to make you laugh when there is not a lot to laugh about. I have already recommended and will continue recommending.

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  • 06-03-18

Been cheated on? Once, twice, <br />long term affair?

This book is for you.
And like me, If you are a chump caught up in a cycle of 'forgiveness' and repeated betrayals this is the wake up call you need. It is straight forward , it is the talk you need to hear from the friend to shake you and wake you up as you pick yourself up off the floor. Buy it. Listen. And listen again and again when you find yourself doubting that your cheater and being cheated on isn't the horrific crime against your heart, mind and relationship that it truly is.

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Wonderful book!!

If you are the victim of narcissistic abuse and/or a serial cheater and you're looking for someone who genuinely understands your situation, look no further! Listening to this book felt like she was listening in on conversations between my now ex and me. It helped me see him for who he really is - a vulnerable type narcissist - and find the strength to go no contact and move on with my life.

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  • JDB
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Must read for someone getting overs cheater

Great book. Very straight forward. Just the thing I needed to kick me in the butt.

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Great Book, narrator’s voice over-exaggerated .

Loads of useful, helpful, and understanding information.
However, the females voice over was irritating, over exaggerated almost every other word, I literally had to turn it off at times. Hate that, because the author did an excellent job putting this interesting and deeply psychological subject into layman terms.... the voice was just over acted and exaggerated, it kept me from wanting to share this audible with others.

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Breakthrough

My husband walked out on me, a 3 year old and 21 day old baby after I️ found out about the affair. After the confrontation he told me he wanted a divorce not because the affair but because of me! 17 years and 10 years of marriage!!! I️ was so hormonal and emotional and for the last 8 months I️ believed I️ had a part, I️ had so much to blame (myself). This book has set me free!!!