Insecure in Love

How Anxious Attachment Can Make You Feel Jealous, Needy, and Worried and What You Can Do About It

By: Leslie Becker-Phelps PhD

Narrated by: Susan Boyce

Length: 6 hrs and 19 mins

Publisher's summary

Has your romantic partner called you clingy, insecure, desperate, or jealous? No one wants to admit that they possess these qualities, but if you find yourself constantly on the alert, anxious, or worried when it comes to your significant other, you may suffer from anxious attachment, a fear of abandonment that is often rooted in early childhood experiences.

In Insecure in Love, you'll learn how to overcome attachment anxiety using compassionate self-awareness, a technique that can help you recognize your negative thoughts or unhealthy behavior patterns and respond to them in a nurturing way - rather than beating yourself up. You'll also learn how insecurity can negatively affect healthy dialogue between you and your partner (or potential partners) and develop the skills needed to stop you from reverting back to old patterns of neediness and possessiveness.

©2014 Leslie Becker-Phelps (P)2015 Tantor

Critic reviews

"A godsend for those who unknowingly bring a lot of angst into a relationship." ( Library Journal)

very useful book for anxiously attached

Pleasant read. Practical and ful of information allowing to understand very common couple dynamic. I definitely recommend it.

Found a friend in Myself

I just went through a really badd break up recently that left me feeling alone and without purposed i wanted to understand why i felt that way tho logically i knew the break up was for the best.I realized that due to my past trauma and relationship with my parents i developed unhealthy coping skills but with the aid of the exercise in this book and i was able to identify and work on my attachment style . I'm so grateful 🙏

Excellent

This book is amazing. I’ve listened to a few books on attachment styles and this one is by far the best. Some of it is hard to hear because of what I have going on in my life but it’s a good hard. It really opened my eyes.

Best Resource For Relationships Yet.

Would you listen to Insecure in Love again? Why?

Yes, I'm about to.

Any additional comments?

I'm very aware that I am keeping the self-help industry going. I've been in search of answers to my relationship issues and this is by far the most helpful book I've come across. It is incredibly keen to our feelings, thoughts, and self made prisons. Very good advice that is spelled out clearly and patiently...some of us have very thick heads.

Excellent information

Great information! I learned a lot about my attachment style and how it pertains to my current relationship. As well, I learned quite a bit about my partners attachment style and how to navigate that.

My only negative mark on the book is the audio. Of the narrator. The microphone she was using is hypersensitive. I could hear whenever she took a drink of water. It was a bit distracting.

As an anxious attachment person, wow

Really got to me and seemed to know who I was. Applied some things to my relationship with great success!

super good

I'm super anxious in general and especially in relationships and this helped me really take a step back to.understand myself and how to cope and be happier in a relationship.

Must read

loved it! must read for anyone with anxiety and feels needy in a relationship

Great book

The book had a lot of good info. It’s really hard to focus because of the readers loud swallowing but other than that it’s a great read.

I really liked the book but

The book was very helpful and interesting to listen too. But I cannot stand how many times I heard her swallow.