How to Be an Adult in Relationships

The Five Keys to Mindful Loving

By: David Richo

Narrated by: David Richo

"Most people think of love as a feeling," says David Richo, "but love is not so much a feeling as a way of being present." In this audiobook, Richo offers a fresh perspective on love and relationships - one that focuses not on finding an ideal mate, but on becoming a more loving and realistic person. Drawing on the Buddhist concept of mindfulness, How to Be an Adult in Relationships explores five hallmarks of mindful loving and how they play a key role in our relationships throughout life:

1. Attention to the present moment; observing, listening, and noticing all the feelings at play in our relationships
2. Acceptance of ourselves and others just as we are
3. Appreciation of all our gifts, our limits, our longings, and our poignant human predicament
4. Affection shown through holding and touching in respectful ways
5. Allowing life and love to be just as they are, with all their ecstasy and ache, without trying to take control

When deeply understood and applied, these five simple concepts - what Richo calls the five A's - form the basis of mature love. They help us to move away from judgment, fear, and blame to a position of openness, compassion, and realism about life and relationships. By giving and receiving these five A's, relationships become deeper and more meaningful, and they become a ground for personal transformation.

©2018 David Richo (P)2018 Random House Audio

Most important book on relationship pshycology

They way author describes and explaines the role of egotism in relationship, changed the way I look at things.

Powerful Book and Hit Me Hard

Lots of topics in this book made me think long and hard on my behaviors and those around me. It’s empowering to have something that breaks down relationships in this way.

Amazing Audible

Really great audible to listen to while doing house chores, your hair, or driving. The lessons within the book are really great and touch home for me a recent divorcee. I would recommend this to anyone whether you’re in a relationship or not and whether it’s healthy or “toxic”. We all have something we can work on while we’re on this ship called planet earth.

A Book For Men to Improve Relationships

The thing that's different about listening to an audiobook is you can't go back to the first page as easily to review information. It would have been helpful if the author would have repeated the five A's throughout the book. It also was not gender-neutral so even though the information was good for both men and women, it was written with language geared towards men. The advice given was solid and would be helpful for people in relationships.

A Bible for Relationship

loved it. a simple and almost unquestionable approach to review and develop true loving relationship.

Must read!

Life-changing. This was an extremely educational book and one that I wish I had read much earlier in life. So many good takeaways and rich wisdom that I plan to integrate into all my relationships.

A truly transformative experience! Must read!

Wow! This book has been life changing for me and I came across it at an imperative time. This book has enlightened me so much not just on the areas that I need to work on, but WHERE they stem from (unmet child needs, traumatic experiences etc.). My eyes are open now and I am more mindful not just as an adult, but as a mother, and as human with every interaction I face day to day. I never write reviews but I had to on this one. I am going to recommend this to all of my close friends and family. If you are contemplating it, don’t think twice! (I initially heard of this book through a therapist who specializes in attachment styles)
Initially I thought his voice was a little monotone.. but I actually grew to really appreciate it. I was going through a break up and learning to detach while listening to this audiobook and I found that when my anxiety was high, if I turned to this audiobook it actually soothed me and put me in a better mental state. I am eternally grateful!

Everyone should read and understand this!

This is a very thorough and instructional book to help any relationship. I really valued what this book was teaching! Wonderful book recommended by Mayim Bialik. Thank you!

Understanding the darker side of relationships can help alleviate suffering and bring Light.

This book softly presents the truth in ego blocking lessons that occur in relationships. Some of these plans to teach oneself and overcome these blocks are helpful. The integration of spirituality and psychology is a necessity for growth in everything and especially in relationships. Blessings to you reading this book and blessings to the writer, David Riccio

Health

I'm a human that has experienced life's ups and downs. This book is awesome because I was able to reflect on my life while listening to it. The guidance given has definitely improved how I feel about myself and how I relate to others. I highly recommend this book.