How to Be an Adult in Relationships

The Five Keys to Mindful Loving
Narrated by: David Richo
Length: 9 hrs and 20 mins
4.5 out of 5 stars (199 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

"Most people think of love as a feeling," says David Richo, "but love is not so much a feeling as a way of being present." In this audiobook, Richo offers a fresh perspective on love and relationships - one that focuses not on finding an ideal mate, but on becoming a more loving and realistic person. Drawing on the Buddhist concept of mindfulness, How to Be an Adult in Relationships explores five hallmarks of mindful loving and how they play a key role in our relationships throughout life:

  1. Attention to the present moment; observing, listening, and noticing all the feelings at play in our relationships
  2. Acceptance of ourselves and others just as we are
  3. Appreciation of all our gifts, our limits, our longings, and our poignant human predicament
  4. Affection shown through holding and touching in respectful ways
  5. Allowing life and love to be just as they are, with all their ecstasy and ache, without trying to take control

When deeply understood and applied, these five simple concepts - what Richo calls the five A's - form the basis of mature love. They help us to move away from judgment, fear, and blame to a position of openness, compassion, and realism about life and relationships. By giving and receiving these five A's, relationships become deeper and more meaningful, and they become a ground for personal transformation.

©2018 David Richo (P)2018 Random House Audio

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THE most important thing I’ve listened to as an adult.

Insightful and inquisitive. This book is THE most important thing I’ve listened to as an adult.

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Missing text

I got the audio and kindle versions of the book. In the first chapter the audio version skipped about 5 pages
It seems great, but I want all the content

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very insightful and eye opening

I'll someone who was raised by to narcissist and really had no grass one would a healthy adult relationship is, this book was very insightful and I opening. I will definitely referred to this book again and make notes and let everything really sink in for me.

The only thing I can say bad about this book was at the narrator sometimes was hard to listen to, his tone is alright but it just seems very monotone and sometimes I would fall asleep

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In Depth Guide to Relationships

This book has helped the way I view all of my relationships (intimate and non-intimate). It has helped me take a mindful approach to how I respond to others and helped me show my love for others in more meaningful ways. I greatly enjoyed this book and all of the journal responses. I have already shared this book with my boyfriend and many friends. I will say that this book is very dense and my boyfriend said the physical copy is similar to a textbook. I chose to listen to some chapters again to fully digest their meaning; however, I found listening to this book very enjoyable. If you find this text too dense, I encourage you to find other information on this topic because it will truly change your life. Please don't let the format keep you from bettering your relationships.

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Very Aspirational and Informative

This book spoke to my spirit and gave some nice exercises to do the work for myself improvement.

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don't love the title , love the book!

I was almost discouraged by the title but am so glad I got this and listened to it, great book!

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Engaging, Insightful, Real

Always love David Richo's talks! Very insightful, while using humor, makes his style easy to grasp and engaging.

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A Bible for Relationship

loved it. a simple and almost unquestionable approach to review and develop true loving relationship.

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Fanfuckingtastic!

Get this book! It’ll blow your mind wide open And leave you with a new set of tools that are indispensable.

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Wonderful Book

This book was so informative and loving.
I learned so much about relationships that I did not know beforehand.
I plan to order this book so I can think more deeply about the many ideas the author suggests one use to improve ones relationships.

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  • Caroline
  • 09-12-19

So full of wisdom

Don't judge this book by it's cover. This is such a wise book and anyone who can hear it and live by it will be happy in life and in relationships. Needs more than one listen for it to sink in because it is so full of profound truth. I am listening to it for 15 minutes every morning and it is like a meditation that sets me up for the day. A much happier day than it would have been without it.

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  • Carolyn Gibson
  • 06-11-18

A very well written book packed with good information.

I found this book of great value, very well written full of good information and useful exercises. Although the narration was a little monotone with out too much expression which is rare when narrated by the author.
Overall a great book well worth a listen.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 01-20-19

fabulous

fabulous book. beautifully written. accessible and wise. i strongly recommend it as one of the best self help books i have 'read'.

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