• Retroactive Jealousy

  • A Guide to Transforming Your Pain into Power: How to Get Over Your Partner's Past, Get Rid of Jealousy & Overcome Boyfriend/Girlfriend's Past Relationships
  • By: Ryder Winchester
  • Narrated by: Jonathan Rivers
  • Length: 1 hr and 52 mins
  • 4.4 out of 5 stars (71 ratings)

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Retroactive Jealousy

By: Ryder Winchester
Narrated by: Jonathan Rivers
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Publisher's Summary

A straight-to-the-point, easy-to-listen guide to transforming your retroactive jealousy!

If you are planning to listen to this book, then congratulations! You have decided you are ready for change. You are ready to become empowered and ready to get your life back into your control. 

This audiobook is a completely transparent, in-depth, and detailed account of my journey through retroactive jealousy - from its vulnerable, innocent origins, to its ultimate epic defeat. This book is also a comprehensive guide on how I personally struggled with and eventually transformed the insidious beast into personal strength and power.

At the risk of offending you, the listener and retroactive jealousy sufferer, I bring you this piece of truth: Retroactive jealousy was one of the greatest things to ever happen to me. That thought may seem impossible to you at this stage. It may even anger you. But you will, likely, one day, feel a deep sense of gratitude that you suffered through this pain, once you have undergone enough of a positive transformation.

My retroactive jealousy's healing and defeat was a physical, spiritual, and mental evolution. Although its grasp caused much pain, heartbreak, and despair, victory over it blossomed a more loving, strong, patient, thoughtful, and confident version of myself. I was reborn anew in the ashes of retroactive jealousy’s defeat and spread my wings into a brighter future that would not have been known to me, had I not suffered the way I had suffered.

Here is a preview of the chapters you'll find:

  • Facing Core Issues Head-On
  • Dealing with Triggers
  • Accepting Responsibility and Coming to Terms with Your Issues
  • Positive Actions and Positive Addictions
  • Changing How You Feel About Yourself
  • Finding Power in Happiness
  • Moving Past Retroactive Jealousy
  • And much, much more!

The first step to transforming your pain into power is to take ownership of your retroactive jealousy! You can transform this painful energy into life-affirming, loving power that will change your life forever. The strength you gain after transforming this retroactive jealousy energy is courage-inducing, and it will aid you through all of your life’s endeavors. 

Making the brave, empowering decision to overcome your retroactive jealousy will enrich your life beyond your current comprehension! Take action today and get this audiobook.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2019 Ryder Winchester (P)2020 Ryder Winchester

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Good advice, not a magic cure

This advice is probably a lot like what a counselor would recommend, but with more talk of the universe and energy and pseudospiritual vagueness.
Overall it was good and I'm glad I got it.
I think that the most important part of getting better is simply seeking to get better.
If you are devoting time and thoughts to self improvement, I believe you will find self improvement.

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Good but based from a man’s perspective

The book offered some decent advice and skills to help with rj but wasn’t very relatable to me as a woman and I feel like a man reading this would get more out of it than me

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Glad the author got rid of his demons

Hats off to Mr. Winchester for over coming his jealousy issues and writing a book to share his journey. But the author is not a therapist and there are so many other underline issues leading to retroactive Jealousy. I would highly recommend reading The Jealousy Cure by Psychologist Robert Leahy before reading his book.

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Amazingly helpful

I am so thankful that this book came up as a resource when I was looking to confront RJ. The progress this writer has made in his personal life and the detailed account he shares of how he reached this point of freedom is inspiring and more helpful than anything I’ve read before now on the topic.

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Not what I expected

I have been in therapy for 2 years now. This book did nothing for me. Appreciate your story, I’m happy for you for beating your demon.

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very helpful!

I enjoyed the spiritual aspect of the authors presentation as I have been on a spiritual path myself. I already practice alot of the suggestions he talks about so I feel I am in such a good place to begin to heal from this!

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Awesome 👍👍

Amazing book 👏hoping that I will get over this painful process of my life soon too🙏

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This book REALLY helped me!

Jealousy has been an ongoing issue in my life since my first relationship when I was 16 years old. I have been looking for ways to deal with it to keep it in check and this book was the answer. It feels like the author wrote it for me! It is very detailed in its advice and suggestions and I highly recommend this book to people who suffer from the same character defect that I do. I am about to embark on a post-divorce relationship and this book will make it a lot easier than I anticipated.

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Experience speaks for itself!

If you have ever suffered from retroactive jealousy, you need this audiobook. I loved how the author gave practical steps to take that will help in your healing journey. Knowing that he has experienced the pain himself is somehow comforting. Even if you plan to see a good therapist, as the author recommends, grab a copy of this book first and know that you are not alone! You can break free from the grasp of retroactive jealousy!

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Good Audiobook About Jealousy!

Everyone has moments of jealousy in their life. Myself, I don't like hearing about my girlfriend's exes because I live in the present and the future, not the past.

This book is interesting, I learned about the history of the author, how to stop being jealous of the past of the old relationships of his companion.

It’s a good book in general with good advice. Thanks to the author.

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  • 06-14-21
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Great advice

This is a great book for overcoming the pain of the past and moving on. I feel better after listening and will continue to implement it :)

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  • Adam Sergent
  • 09-27-20

The Perfect roadmap to the light

I cannot begin to emphasise how finding the term RJ and shortly thereafter finding this book has helped me. The authors experience resonated so much to my own

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 06-23-22

Fantastic insight into the mechanism of retroactive jealousy

An accurate book which reflects my personal experience with retroactive jealously so precisely. A fantastic insight into the obsessive information processing disorder and ways to cope and cure retroactive jealously, along with improving self efficacy in other aspects of life too, moving forward.

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  • Ben
  • 09-15-21

Must Listen!

If you struggle with accepting your partner's past, this is a great book for you. I appreciate the authors own transparency in dealing with the issue. One of the keys to dealing with this is put so well in Chapter 2 - Dealing with Triggers.

Get yourself a copy!

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  • Kai T
  • 07-30-21

Helpful in pursuing a healthy relationship

Although I don’t suffer from RJ, I learnt so much from this book how we can sometimes fall into these little traps of unhealthy thinking and behaviour which may ruin good relationships. Like how the author shared from their own experience too which allowed me to be reflective of my own thoughts and actions.

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  • Hotel And Co
  • 07-16-21

Great Book

This is awesome. Got my friend to listen to this who is going over their partner's past and this book is perfect. It outlines the way to avoid getting jealous and how to live a happy life.

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  • Jim W
  • 07-13-21

A very difficult subject handled openly

This is not a very easy subject to talk about and I thank Ryder for opening up with this experience which was an enormous help to me.

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  • Dillon Heger
  • 07-13-21

Excellent advice

This is an ideal purchase if you have had a break-up or if you or your partner are struggling with jealousy. It provides a practical guide on understanding jealousy and how to overcome it. Some great advice is provided in a well laid out format. Highly recommended

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  • Keith Everett
  • 07-12-21

Turning Pain Into Power!

A breakup can be very heartbreaking. There are fewer things in life that we experience that can be more painful than being insanely jealous of our partner and their past. This excellent audiobook shows you how to overcome all that. This is great.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 06-11-21

Don't allow jealousy ruin your relationship

Many relationships suffer due to extreme jealousy of one of the partners, and books like this one come into help. The information is very good, either if you're the one suffering from jealousy or your partner, this audiobook will help you understand your/ your partner's jealousy in-depth and figure out ways to work on it and take steps towards a healthy relationship.

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  • Joanne Blatchford
  • 10-31-22

Very helpful

A helpful book with practical achievable practices. The narration is easy to listen to. Thank you

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  • PeteyBee
  • 05-28-21

Just what I needed to hear

I found this book to be incredibly insightful and helpful. Not only does it tackle ways of coping and dealing with RJ from a psychological view, but also from a spiritual and universal angle. I highly recommend this book to anyone who suffers from RJ

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  • Anonymous User
  • 09-01-20

life changing

I will never forget the first time hearing those words, how much relief I felt that I wasn't alone. the book can't help but make you think in a different way. But forever and ever grateful, feeling so blessed for this life affirming masterpiece