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Healing Your Attachment Wounds

How to Create Deep and Lasting Intimate Relationships
Narrated by: Diane Poole Heller
Length: 6 hrs and 6 mins
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Why do we experience recurring struggles in our relationships? And why do traumatic events - such as a physical injury, emotional threat, loss of a loved one, or other life crisis - so often awaken or amplify our sense of fear, anger, isolation, or helplessness?

From our earliest years, teaches Diane Poole Heller, we develop an attachment style that follows us through life, replaying in our intimate relationships, with our children, and at work. And traumatic events can deeply affect that core relational blueprint.

With Healing Your Attachment Wounds, a pioneer in attachment theory and trauma resolution brings together these two fields to help us understand and benefit from their complementary principles and methods.

This in-depth audio learning program sheds light on the three styles of insecure attachment - Avoidant, Ambivalent, and Disorganized - and the ideal fourth style of Secure attachment, where we enjoy a foundation of safety, adaptability, and intimacy with others.

The good news is that we can change, regardless of our early or current life experiences.

"As we heal and move toward Secure attachment," teaches Heller, "we become aware of triggers and patterns in our relationships. Our nervous system learns to be more regulated. Things don't throw us off so easily. And we open our capacity to love and experience greater compassion."

Through key principles, examples, and practical exercises, this program invites you to begin your own healing journey toward healthy vulnerability, wholeness, and connection with others.

©2017 Diane Poole Heller (P)2017 Sounds True

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Superb!

This is an excellent overview of trauma, healing and flourishing as a human from the attachment perspective. I've listened to a lot of other works about attachment, Stan Tatkin, Dan Siegel, Kinnison, Levine and Heller, Sue Johnson, etc, and this is one of my favorites. Just finished listening to it and looking forward to listening a second time. I found Diane Poole Heller's voice very pleasant. Highly recommended!

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Great book

I would recommend you first read “Attached” by Levine and Heller. Then read this book, it’s better to have a basis or orientation of your attachment style first. Then this book gives great exercises to help you move to a more secure attachment style.

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Gold. This provided me with valuable insight into my own attachment style and the simple steps I can take to move towards secure. I also felt a lot more compassion for people I previously judged as horrible. And a positive way forward. I'll definitely be listening again.
This affects every aspect of life. I want to share this with everyone, and have already shared it with some friends. One thing that could have improved the listening experience is a suggestion that we pause as often as we need to, as Diane talks quite fast.

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Awesome Narration

Book is a really lively summary of attachment theory, plus new insights that I didn’t gain from the popular Attached book. Her narration is very authentic, as if she’s talking to you in person or teaching a lecture, not just dryly reading text. Highly recommend!

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check yourself before you wreck yourself

I've heard it said that the quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives. Not just intimate relationships but any and all of them - in which the common denominator is you. If you have tried and failed repeatedly in your interpersonal history then you should examine your attachment functioning and manifest behavior in fine detail. Every interaction you ever have in life adds up, like raindrops - will the outcome be a powerful deep river that gauges into the bedrock or a scattered squall that dissipates across the barren plains?
Diane's work here will show you not who you are, but how you are - the hidden, reactive, maladaptive parts of your psychology that drive your behavior and lead to relationship difficulties. And some clues on how to correct these.

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Exceptional!

Diane is a master in her field. I loved the clarity that she brings to the subject, and the myriad of examples that she offers. Her delivery is ecceptional. It was as if I was having a conversation with her, not listening to a lecture. I strongly recommend this audio.

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A valuable resource for learning to love better!

Wow. This book is truly transformative. I can already sense that I will return to it again and again throughout my life. Her teachings on the different attachment styles gives me deep insight into why we feel the way we do, and to use that information to better regulate our emotions and the emotions of the people we love. It is so encouraging to learn that secure attachment is our natural inclination and a skill we can obtain, even after years of traumatic relationship experiences. It was such a treat to have Diane Poole Heller read the book herself. I definitely recommend this book to anyone looking to learn the skills of providing greater emotional security to themselves and others.

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Where was this book when I needed it the most!

incredible and simply explained insights about our attachments systems. I probably going to lose my marriage but at least this books gives me the awareness to make changes and work more towards a secured attachment. Perhaps is not too late for me.

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Helpful resource

very helpful and hands on. easy to listen to and apply what was taught. Great resource

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essential for understanding ourselves

Awesome!!! this was key in understanding my behavior with in my relationships. knowledge is power. Now I feel equipped to change & have real secure attachments with others.

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  • gw
  • 12-03-17

practical approach to attachment styles

What made the experience of listening to Healing Your Attachment Wounds the most enjoyable?

Diane Poole-Heller's expertise and enthusiasm for the subject makes it a pleasant and engaging listening experience. Absolutely loved it.
Cleverly presented, instead of a comprehensive theory of each attachment styles Diane Poole-Heller draws on her experience and with a few questions she helps the listener to get a sense of each style. From there she introduces each style more with drawing a picture and examples, of how this looks like. There are exercises to help ourselves to overcome some of the challenges of certain attachment adaptations.... what is helpful to move towards secure attachment and yes, how this relates to adult relationships. Points to be aware of, how we can help each other,
I really liked that she has included a chapter on disorganised attachment. Such an important topic if we are to understand people who have had challenging child hood experiences... an understanding many therapists, doctors... and society at large would benefit from

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  • Sarah
  • 03-30-19

Powerful

For me, a person who had heard about but not read about attachment theory, this was really eye opening. It dips into 4 main attachment styles, what you might feel in each, consequences of them but also how to speak to or live with someone of that type. It looks at how to look for someone with a comparable attachment style to you if you are single. Really interesting and lots of things that I will use in my life.

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  • SLH
  • 03-16-19

Life-changing

Game-changer. So worth it. Really recommend. Great insight, and plenty of practical exercises and tips that have had a really good effect on my life. Thanks Diane Poole Heller!

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  • ec21
  • 10-21-18

Awesome

Great information on attachment wounds, how they form, how to recognise them in yourself and others, and most importantly, what to do to heal and move towards a healthy attachment style.

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  • MxHarris
  • 09-07-18

The missing piece

Everyone should know this. Incredibly invaluable for those wanting high quality relationships. I've learnt so much about relationships over the years, but a recent breakup, which I found very traumatising, lead me to seek this out. I'm so much better informed now and very hopeful and reassured.

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  • Irene Billeter Sauter
  • 06-05-18

Great insights!

Great insights in and explanations of, among others, avoidant attachment patterns and outlining of options about how to address them.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 05-19-18

insightful

great book for understanding attachment and on a practical level.
it is great that the author is also the narrator. makes for an authentic and compassionate listen

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  • lily
  • 12-11-17

A great resource

A very perceptive and succinct account of the attachment struggles we face in our relationships, including they’re origins and physiological processes. Very thorough and thoughtful and I would highly recommend to anyone experiencing relationship insecurity from childhood attachment wounding

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  • Anonymous User
  • 11-16-18

Highly recommended!

I have had reasonable understanding of attachment types through my work however have gained a much deeper appreciation of the patterns though listening to this audio book. The questions and exercises were also practical and beneficial. I have been telling many people of this valuable resource.

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