Attached

The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

By: Amir Levine, Rachel Heller

Narrated by: Robert Petkoff

Length: 7 hrs and 4 mins

Publisher's summary

"A groundbreaking book that redefines what it means to be in a relationship." (John Gray, PhD., best-selling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus)

We already rely on science to tell us what to eat, when to exercise, and how long to sleep. Why not use science to help us improve our relationships? In this revolutionary book, psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller scientifically explain why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle.

Discover how an understanding of adult attachment—the most advanced relationship science in existence today—can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:

• Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back
• Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness.
• Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.

Attached guides listeners in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.

*Includes a PDF of the attachment style questionnaire

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2010 Amir Levine and Rachel Heller (P)2019 Penguin Audio

Critic reviews

"A groundbreaking book that redefines what it means to be in a relationship." (John Gray, PhD., best-selling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus)

"Amir Levine and Rachel Heller have written a very smart book: It is clear, easy to read, and insightful. It's a valuable tool whether you are just entering a relationship with a new partner or—as in my case—even after you've been married 21 years, and had thought you knew everything about your spouse." (Mariette DiChristina, editor in chief, Scientific American)

"Attached is a fascinating and enormously useful guide to one of life's most important ventures—finding and sustaining a secure, satisfying love relationship. Based on 25 years of research, laced with vivid and instructive examples, and enriched with interesting and well-designed exercises, the book provides deep insights and invaluable skills that will benefit every reader." (Phillip R. Shaver, PhD, Distinguished Professor of Psychology, University of California, Davis and Past President, International Association for Relationship Research)

Wow

I have never written a book review before but this was easily one of the most important books I have ever read. Do not hesitate. Highly recommend!!!

It’s good to know you are not alone

I always thought it’s just me (I have both anxious & avoidant behaviours) but after this book I know what my problems are, it’s good to view my issues in relationships from a third person.

I love how this book put a lot of examples/stories and also tell us how we should do instead. But I wish it could explain more and deeper on how to change the mindset and behaviour.

Recommend to everyone.

eye opening

helped to make sense of relationships in my life, and the thoughts behind other peoples actions.

Must read

Anyone who wants to have, save or prosper a relationship should read this book.

Easy and informative.

easy to follow, with great examples, extremely relatable. I highly recommend to those wanting to learn more about attachment theory.

A must read when trying to improve your communication!

This was recommended to me by my therapist, and I’m so glad she did! I’m horrible when it comes to communication with close friends, family and my significant other. It helped open my eyes and understand myself! I’m planning on listening to it again and again. It’s great there are sheets you can download and print, homework style. Also, it kept me engaged and I was never bored when listening to it. Many “ah-ha!” moments.

Excellent book, I highly recommend it.

At first I did not think this applied to me and my husband. But I kept on listening to it and oh my goodness it explains everything. I understand so many behaviors, that did not make sense to me.

Great Book! Could've used more than one voice!

Incredibly helpful, insightful, and SOBERING! I'm excited to employ secure and effective communication in my everyday life.

The only very minor draw back was that the narration could've been multiple people, it was bit cringy to hear the narrator trying to voice female characters.

amazing book

well written and easy to relate to. easy to understand and help a lot. It truly changes your perception. it changed my life

So much clarity

This book brought me a lot of clarity and understanding over myself and my past relationship. I am the anxious type and always been attracted to avoidant type and the book explains how the interaction between persons with this attachments work. wow, what a wake up call!