Getting the Love You Want

A Guide for Couples: Third Edition
Length: 10 hrs and 11 mins
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Publisher's Summary

This program is read by the authors.

The New York Times best-selling guide to transforming an intimate relationship into a lasting source of love and companionship, now fully revised with a new foreword and a brand-new chapter. 

Getting the Love You Want has helped millions of people experience more satisfying relationships and is recommended every day by professional therapists and happy couples around the world. Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt explain how to revive romance and remove negativity from daily interactions to help you:  

  • Discover why you chose your mate 
  • Resolve the power struggle that prevents greater intimacy 
  • Learn to listen - really listen - to your partner 
  • Increase fun and laughter in your relationship 
  • Begin healing early childhood experiences by stretching into new behaviors  
  • Become passionate friends with your partner 
  • Achieve a common vision of your dream relationship                                          

Become the most connected couple you know with this revolutionary guide, combining behavioral science, depth psychology, social learning theory, Gestalt therapy, and interpersonal neuroscience to help you and your partner recapture joy, enhance closeness, and experience the reward of a deeply fulfilling relationship. 

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©1988, 2008, 2019 Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt (P)2019 Macmillan Audio

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Excellent content, BUT...

Very good advice and content, well with the read. But she is almost impossible to bear. Her reading is broken up with odd pauses and very disingenuous affects and voice fluctuations (in an attempt to convey emotion). Even with the ear raping, it is still worth the read. The message and direct advice on how to work through childhood trauma/damage via your partnership and marriage is sound. Just wish they had invested in professional readers, as I will reread (listen) to this book several times.

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Terrible narration

The female author sounds like she is reading single words off flash cards. I believe a computer narrated book would have more emotion. This was so hard to listen to that I could get past chapter 2. I’m disappointed that Audible would allow this book to be offered. I want a refund!

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Thank you.

Been to a few counselors and nothing did what this book did for me. Thank you very much. Now I hope it’s not to late to save my relaytionship.

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Can't find the PDF mentioned at the end :(

Where is the PDF of Imago exercises, supposedly at harvilleandhelen.com? I can't find it anywhere on the site.

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Completely changed my life

Absolutely incredible content. Truly life changing. Anyone attempting to be in a loving relationship should read/listen whether you’re currently in a relationship or not! Didn’t love the narration but appreciated that it was authentic to the authors:)

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I get that Harville wanted to give Helen her proper dues for the contribution she made to the book but she is really difficult to listen to.. Id prefer if it was just him.

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Amazingly insightful!

When I first started listening, I felt annoyed and I didn't think I would like the book. But, I am really, really, really glad I stayed and listen. Book S amazingly insightful content that would be helpful for anyone even if you're not in a relationship at the moment. The narration style is actually really good, it just took me a bit of getting used to it.

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I’m sticking with it but the author’s reading is off putting.

This book is obviously well known and very popular. And I’m sure that the authors are both great people- but they might think about having the audio read by professionals. They sound disjointed and choppy.

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Excellent

I could read this 100 times! Thank you so much! I am excited about having tools now to apply to my marriage

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BEST RELATIONSHIP BOOK EVER

I’ve read so many books on so many topics and this book gave me more new insight than a handful of others combined both for myself and my partnership. Thank you so much!!