Secure Love

Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime

By: Julie Menanno

Narrated by: Julie Menanno

Length: 10 hrs and 27 mins

Publisher's summary

A NATIONAL BESTSELLER

Create a lasting and loving attachment with the help of the expert couple’s therapist behind the popular Instagram account @TheSecureRelationship.

What does a healthy relationship look like?

A good question, in theory, but expert couple’s therapist Julie Menanno wants you to consider: what does a securely attached relationship feel like?

The answer to this question is the ultimate goal in Secure Love, a groundbreaking guide to understanding secure attachment in adult relationships. While attachment theory has grown in popularity to explain the relationship between children and their caregivers, it’s also the closest science has come to making sense of our adult romantic connections.

Julie Menanno is the couple’s therapist behind the popular Instagram account @TheSecureRelationship, whose valuable relationship advice from her expertise gained her over a million fans. In Secure Love, Menanno tackles:

• Why you and your partner have the same fight over and over (hint: it’s called a negative cycle, and underlying every fight, argument, silent treatment, or passive-aggressive comment is an unmet attachment need).
• The four attachment types, with exercises designed to help you understand you and your partner’s attachment style.
• How to improve communication, including staying connected during conflict by prioritizing vulnerability rather than protecting yourself.
• “Instead of that, say this” suggested scripts of how to approach difficult situations in your relationship.
• Why insecure attachment negatively impacts a couple’s sex life and how to restore that sexual connection.

Secure Love is a crash course in understanding how you show up in a relationship and how to get out of negative cycles. Menanno teaches you how to establish a secure attachment with your partner to create the bond you’ve been longing for.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2024 Julie Menanno (P)2024 Simon & Schuster Audio

Recommend by my therapist! Very insightful!

Very insightful and easy to follow with lots of great examples to illustrate concepts. I learned a lot.

Attachment styles and the deep impact they have

thought it was written very well! Very insight full and well explained described ! Made me understand some uncomfortable reality

I Have Hope for Healing

As a psychologist these concepts are not foreign; however, it’s so challenging to practice them when it’s your own relationship. This book helped me feel seen and gave me tangible tools for how to continue my growth journey, with the hope that my partner will as well. I’m appreciate of the language. It’s improved my discourse and ability to name my attachment needs.

So incredibly helpful

This book has been helping me tremendously, not only in my relationship, but with understanding myself as an individual. I discovered I was being cheated on and I felt like my world was ending. I struggled a lot with how I was going to move forward mentally. Then I stumbled upon this gem via psychology reels on IG and it has been an absolute lifesaver. It’s amazing what changes can happen in your life once someone connects the dots for you.

Clear explanations and actionable content

The author’s emphasis on progress, not perfection, and her respect for both “sides” and their concerns is really helpful. 

Amazing

So much hope and this book acknowledges neurodivergence
Real examples of how to communicate differently

Just What I Needed

Grateful for this read at this time in my life.

I feel like my wife and I have a great relationship already - but I always struggled with “am I loving enough” and “what is love?”

I now have tools to be more in control of triggers and we can have much better conversations and solve things together.

Thanks for this, it was all I needed!

Excellent guide for relationships!

I loved that the author herself narrated this solid guide to attachment styles and how to navigate the messiness of real relationships.

A must read for all humans

I'm a dating coach and this is the best book I've read on attachment styles. I sent it to all my clients. Thank you for writing this book. Great approachable tools to apply to anyone's life!

So good

I loved everything about this book. It’s nonjudgmental and so clearly written. Things one of the best attachment books I’ve read.