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Publisher's Summary

To make up or break up? Whether you’re just getting serious or have a long-term commitment, no other question causes so much heartache and self-doubt. Many other books tell you how to fix your relationship. This groundbreaking best seller is the first one to help you choose whether you should try—or you need to go.

Psychotherapist Mira Kirshenbaum draws on years of research and her work with real-life couples to help you make the right decision. She shows you how to diagnose your unique situation with self-analysis and questions like these, which get to the very heart of your problems:

  • What sins are forgivable and which ones unpardonable?
  • Is your partner questioning your opinions to the point where you doubt yourself?
  • What is your sex life really like, and how important is it?
  • Is there real love left between you, and how does it stack up against all that you find unlovable?
  • Mira Kirshenbaum provides expert guidelines that are the key to making all your choices, concrete steps that you can implement right now, and the ultimate way to determine your personal bottom line—what you need to be happy. This remarkably insightful and probing guide offers advice that lets you see the truth about your relationship—and with wisdom and compassion, it helps you act with the confidence of knowing that, whether you decide to go or stay, you are doing the very best thing.

    ©1997 Mira Kirshenbaum (P)2010 Brilliance Audio, Inc.

    Critic Reviews

    "[T]hreaded through the book, which is written in a sympathetic, chatty, accessible style, are validating anecdotes that dramatize how other people have experienced and responded to the same problems the reader is going through." (Publishers Weekly)

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    really helped me think about a few things!

    I love the diagnostic questions and how it starts from really bad.. get out now diagnostics to its annoying but you can work on this diagnostics. very thorough and helped me figure out things I can work on!!

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    I learned a lot.

    I saw myself in some of the behaviors that make a relationship too bad to stay. I assumed it would be pro woman point of view but it's very fair on both sides. I realize I also have a responsibility for this mess I call a relationship. Good wake up for me.

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    Excellent Book

    This book was very informative. It was like I had a therapist in my own home. There wasn't anything that I didn't like about this book. If you're not sure if you're going to break up with your significant other this will help you decide.

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    Didn't tell me what I wanted to hear. But good.

    for some, this book will deliver some bad news. but it is thought provoking, well written

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    An awesome book to get clarity about your relationship

    This book doesn't make any decisions for you. It goes through a series of insightful questions allowing you to decide if your relationship is too good to leave or too bad to stay. Excellent!

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    Exceptional book. A must read for any couple.

    What was one of the most memorable moments of Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay?

    Gave me clarity on the issues in my relationship and whether to leave or stay.

    What about Adriane McNeely’s performance did you like?

    A gentle and easy voice to listen to that match the content ideally.

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    For any couple, this is an exceptionally well-written and valuable book. It provides an extensive list of issues that challenge relationships written in simple language with clear real-life examples. It also has many analogies to help the reader understand the concepts and ideas presented. It guides the reader in a gentle way to consider the issues they may face in their relationship and whether to stay or no. It certainly helped me. It's rare for me to write a review but feel compelled to as it was so rewarding. I highly recommend this book.

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    • Linda
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    • 08-29-15

    its hard 2 know what u want out of ur relationship

    listsening to this book its clear what's best for a confused relationship LOVED IT! thx

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    Breaks things down. Back to basics.

    This book boils things down. It makes you see things that many of us overlook. Relationships get messy & reading/listening to this (while taking notes) really helps put things back into prospective. If you find yourself in a situation/relationship where you know you've 'got it' pretty good but... There's something keeping you on the fence.. (about making a decision on whether or not to stay). Read this.

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    non judgmental approach

    I really liked this book. I mean... yes, sometimes it was a little corny and i may have giggled a time or two. The message, though, is incredibly simple and on point. It very easily guides you through stories of other couples and explains what each partner felt and why. And even more valuable, it directly asks you the questions that can guide you to the answer you already know. I would recommend this book to anyone, even those not facing this choice.
    I can see value in these lessons reaching even casual, work or familial relationships.

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    Fantastic

    This book answered my most difficult questions and gave me the clarity and courage I need to move forward. Thank you.