Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay

A Step-by-Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay In or Get Out of Your Relationship

By: Mira Kirshenbaum

Narrated by: Adriane McNeely

Length: 8 hrs and 33 mins

Publisher's summary

To make up or break up? Whether you’re just getting serious or have a long-term commitment, no other question causes so much heartache and self-doubt. Many other books tell you how to fix your relationship. This groundbreaking best seller is the first one to help you choose whether you should try—or you need to go.

Psychotherapist Mira Kirshenbaum draws on years of research and her work with real-life couples to help you make the right decision. She shows you how to diagnose your unique situation with self-analysis and questions like these, which get to the very heart of your problems:

What sins are forgivable and which ones unpardonable?

Is your partner questioning your opinions to the point where you doubt yourself?

What is your sex life really like, and how important is it?

Is there real love left between you, and how does it stack up against all that you find unlovable?

Mira Kirshenbaum provides expert guidelines that are the key to making all your choices, concrete steps that you can implement right now, and the ultimate way to determine your personal bottom line—what you need to be happy. This remarkably insightful and probing guide offers advice that lets you see the truth about your relationship—and with wisdom and compassion, it helps you act with the confidence of knowing that, whether you decide to go or stay, you are doing the very best thing.

©1997 Mira Kirshenbaum (P)2010 Brilliance Audio, Inc.

Critic reviews

"[T]hreaded through the book, which is written in a sympathetic, chatty, accessible style, are validating anecdotes that dramatize how other people have experienced and responded to the same problems the reader is going through." ( Publishers Weekly)

10/10

Amazing insight in to relationships. I related to 90% of things talked about. Make sure you have a pen and paper ready as I am now going to by the hard copy and highlight sections. Enjoy your new future with or without your current partner.

I can see clearly now...the fog is gone!!!

This 36 Questions in this book have brought me great clarity to a whirlwind of indecisiveness. I am more clear about next steps and even on setting clear boundaries in any relationship. In the midst of relationship ambivalence, I now have a set of guidelines to rely on to prevent this from happening again.

A lot to think about but helpful

I'm still listening to this and I think even with these "diagnostics" it will take time to sort out my own feelings, but it really gives me a lot to think of. I felt relieved that I'm not the only one stuck in "relationship ambivalence" She shows how we slip into this place. Relationships can be confusing - she helps shed light on what's going on.

A lot of good things to think about in a more constructive way than just worrying.

Not for the faint hearted or quick fix orientation

I’ve read the many reviews on this book, especially negative reviews. Why? Because the negative reviews reflected a need to get a quick fix on relationships without considering relationships on the whole are rife with complexity and subtle cues. This is a great listen or read for those stuck in the weighing of pros and cons in a relationship—emotional confusion and ambivalence. If the reader will persevere to the end what unfolds is the answer you are seeking already staring you in the face. Clarity of mind is the broader subject and release of the confusion over your decision-making process is what unfolds. Therein you find your answer. And so begin an unexpected inner adventure with far reaching merits.

Great book for getting closure on a relationship

Would you listen to Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay again? Why?

Great book for getting closure on a relationship. If you have contemplated if you have made the right decision to end a relationship then this is the book for you.

An awesome book to get clarity about your relationship

This book doesn't make any decisions for you. It goes through a series of insightful questions allowing you to decide if your relationship is too good to leave or too bad to stay. Excellent!

compliment to therapy

Helped support me in making decisions. My personal therapist has been saying these things, or similar things, for years. It was really helpful to hear the ideas echoed and supported. I am definitely going to start it again soon and listen a second time.

very mindful

fantastic book. does a nice job of addressing ALL issues. questions and approaches. wonderful. so good I listened twice back to back.

This will give you clarity!

The context of this book will help you decide whether to stay or leave. The author gives a practical approach, using storytelling, in helping the reader decide whether or not leave. This book also helped me realized that I am not the only person who has lived/gone through particular live experiences. This book gave me lots to think about.

its hard 2 know what u want out of ur relationship

listsening to this book its clear what's best for a confused relationship LOVED IT! thx