• For Women Only, Revised and Updated Edition

  • What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men
  • By: Shaunti Feldhahn
  • Narrated by: Shaunti Feldhahn
  • Length: 4 hrs and 8 mins
  • 4.7 out of 5 stars (1,498 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

Discover the truth he wants you to know! The man in your life is keeping secrets. They’re so deep inside he barely knows they're there, much less how to talk to you about them. Yet he genuinely wants you to "get" him - to understand his inner life, his fears, his needs.... In her landmark best seller For Women Only, Shaunti Feldhahn reveals what every woman - single or married - needs to know. Based on rigorous research with thousands of men, Shaunti delivers one eye-opening revelation after another, including:

  • Why your respect means more to him than your love
  • How he feels deep inside about his role as provider
  • What it means for a man to be so visually "wired"
  • Why sex for him is primarily emotional, not physical
  • What he most wishes he could say to you

Now, in this expanded and updated edition, you'll find insights from the latest brain research plus an all-new chapter that shows what’s really going on when he seems to "check out". (You’ll be surprised and pleased.) Millions worldwide have already experienced dramatic change in their relationships because of the "aha!" moments and practical ideas in this little audiobook. Discover how to love your man for who he really is - not who you think he is.

©2013 Multnomah Books; Rev Upd edition (P)2013 Oasis Audio

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Life changing

Have your husband read "For Men Only" and the wife reads "For Women Only" at the same time. These books do a fantastic job of telling us bluntly what we are not understanding about the opposite sex. You will have so many ah-ha! moments while reading this. It completely changed our marriage. My husband I have not fought since we read these books about 4 months ago because we have such a better understanding of eachother.

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Wow, I Didn't Know

This book had great insight on theories I've heard before. This included practical insight that brought those theories home. The author was funny and real. I highly recommend this book.

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Religious? Why didn't the book description say so?

Would you try another book from Shaunti Feldhahn and/or Shaunti Feldhahn?

Absolutely not. Seems like an anecdotal, religion-based book on how to be an obedient wife. The author quotes her own research that she did, which appears to be very largely based on religious people. At least her narration really emphasizes that. I was looking for a more scientific, forward thinking, modern book. I don't think I want another guide on how to be an obedient wife. Will return this book.

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Finally a book to help me understand men!

Very informational and enlightening. Something I plan on listening to again and again to keep reminding myself of the contents. Definitely a book I will recommend to all my female friends and family!

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Hit the Nail on the head

Wow, amazing job hitting a moving target. I was asked by my wife to validate and I have to say spot on.

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Help for both Women and Men!!

as a man reading this for the woman in my life, I was astonished at truly how accurate it all was! I also learned some things I did not know about myself! This book should be a must read for all couples entering into marriage for the first time, or more!

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Misleading description book is largely religious

Would you try another book from Shaunti Feldhahn and/or Shaunti Feldhahn?

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Has For Women Only, Revised and Updated Edition turned you off from other books in this genre?

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Have you listened to any of Shaunti Feldhahn’s other performances before? How does this one compare?

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What reaction did this book spark in you? Anger, sadness, disappointment?

Anger.

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In the first part of the book, the author says this book is written for church goers and is recommended reading for many patrons. She also makes the point that this book is intended for religious people. To nail it home, the author even quotes biblical scripture to bolster her points.

With such a religious focus, one would think the description of the book would mention god and Christianity. Odd how the description conveniently omits this point. I will be returning this book as the description is misleading.

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Passionate and Well Thought Out

What made the experience of listening to For Women Only, Revised and Updated Edition the most enjoyable?

The author was also the narrator, which made listening great.

What did you learn from For Women Only, Revised and Updated Edition that you would use in your daily life?

I mostly got this since I wasn't meeting my hubbys sexual needs, but wanted to. This book really opened my eyes, and has made things much better between us. He is way happier now.

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Women: You think you know how men think, but this book will open your eyes and probably answer alot of questions and cause you to ask alot more to your hubby. Totally a game changer.

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Wonderful!

As I prepare to become a wife, in an age where independence for women is so vital, it is helpful to know how to have a successful and lasting relationship. 

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I'm Hopeful For The Future

I haven't had my wife read this yet but I have high hopes that at the very least she'll understand me better. As weird as it may seem I understand myself better after reading this, on top of just knowing so many others think and feel the same way. I'm not religions, and while there are some religious undertones to this book I didn't find them too detracting to overall point of the book. There are a few points where you may stop and think this is grossly one sided, but the companion book is the yin to this books yang. So please keep that in mind as you read. also if your like me remember you're reading this because you want a better relationship for your loved one and you. If you retreat into yourself and become defensive it will be hard to accept some thinks as truths. I feel hopeful for the future and I hope this book can provide you with the same.

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  • FCYY2013
  • 09-25-22

An amazing book for believers

This book address the truth in a sensitive yet direct manner. The author addresses important topics that will make you reflect on the quality of your relationship in a positive manner. The chapters cover important topics in a really engaging manner that help you analyse your individual responsibilities towards your spouse. The narrator had a lovely voice that makes you want to listen to what she had to convey. If you’re a Muslim, Jewish or Christian person I highly recommend this book as it centres marriage as a sacred union and affirms the belief that God has created everything with love.

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  • Tasty Annie
  • 10-13-20

Controversial but piercingly true

This book is not politically correct. Give it a chance because it's refreshing and genuine.

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  • Lizzy Henry
  • 05-08-19

Eye opening

I was unsure at the beginning but the author provided many useful tips that I will put into practice in future. The book does refer to Christianity at times but not so much that it alienates non Christians

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  • Anonymous User
  • 04-09-19

Eye opening book!

Every woman, whether married, single or young should read this! A great book into understanding the mind and world of the men around us.

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  • C. Campbell
  • 03-17-19

insightful must read

A very open and honest discussion about men and their needs and motivation, very engaging

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  • Kindle Customer
  • 07-08-16

Excellent

Excellent advice in this audio. I listen again and again. it helps me try understand my man lol xxx

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  • Karen
  • 07-26-15

Really helpful insight into the male perspective

Would you listen to For Women Only, Revised and Updated Edition again? Why?

This was extremely helpful in presenting the view from the male perspective; valuing the difference is key. It helped me to be much more effective in communicating with my partner.

What was one of the most memorable moments of For Women Only, Revised and Updated Edition?

The feedback from the author's male friends gave real authenticity to what could otherwise have been theoretical gobbledygook!

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Great help for those in a long term relationship with an Anglo American man!

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  • Anonymous User
  • 08-29-21

So helping

I love how it helps us women to dive into what’s going on in men’s brain heart and soul. Gives clear understanding based on factual data

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  • Anonymous User
  • 11-06-19

This is top notch!

Absolutely brilliant! this has helped me so much! not just in my personal relationship but working with men too! Great read!

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  • Anonymous User
  • 07-21-19

Changed my marriage

Was recommended this book through online friend, my marriage has not been good for a long time & we never really communicated & were getting to the stage of just being. This has allowed me to see things from his side & just be patient!
We are now talking & enjoying each other’s company again.
Thank you Shaunti, you are amazing

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