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In this groundbreaking follow-up to her best-selling books The Verbally Abusive Relationship and Controlling People, Patricia Evans goes beyond identifying verbally abusive behaviors to prescribing a course of action for both victim and abuser. Coupling stories of abused women and abusive men from her own case studies, Evans gives you the tools you need to transform your relationship. Most important, she assures you that such a transformation is possible—given the right circumstances. Evans also helps you determine if your abuser really has changed—or if he’s merely creating the illusion of change. And if he hasn’t changed, Evans helps you decide whether it’s time to leave the relationship—and what to do when it is.

Combining practical applications and the latest clinical research with her trademark support and assurance, Evans shows you how to empower yourself, improve your relationship, and change your life for the better.

©2012 Patricia Evans (P)2013 Brilliance Audio, Inc.

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I'm so grateful for this book!

If you think you are in an emotionally or verbally abusive relationship you will know after going through this book. I am very clear now and that helps more than I could ever describe. I feel validated.

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A gift to the emotionally violated

Patricia Evans is a brilliant, compassionate author. There is no author I've found who gets down into the deepest trenches of relational dynamics to explain the underlying issues of so many relationships. You could see countless therapists and not even come close to having your confusion, pain, and emotional anguish validated as you would in this book and the others by Evans. The next steps and tools provided in this book are a great addition to the other books that focus more on discovery and gaining knowledge and validation. Evans takes her profound gift in understanding controlling and verbally abusive behaviors one step further and provides guidance to help you figure out if your partner can change. I'm afraid you may never pick up this book because you aren't aware of what verbal abuse really is and how subtle it can be. It may sound like something you've never had to deal with, and you might be thanking God you haven't when you actually have! I challenge you to open your mind and discover how prevalent verbal abuse really is. Perhaps even those of us who rarely indulge in abusive behaviors would rather never indulge but didn't know we were doing so. We have grown so much as a society, but we have a long way to go. Oppression comes in many forms and Evans is leading the path to recovery for all of us.

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must read.

true insight and explained well. thanks. sadly not much hope of change, because they need to recognize the behavior.

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Change is key

Not an easy listen if you have been verbally abused but so very informative! The last 4 mins summed up real life.

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We knew the answer all along

The author attempts to answer the question each of us have asked ourselves. Perhaps it works for a rare insightful men. We knew all along they are not going to change. I found the audiobook worth listening to, anyway, a welcome change from the usual advice to run to a shelter. Good luck, ladies.

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Worst narrater ever!

What didn’t you like about Laural Merlington’s performance?

She sounded like a tape recorder does when it is put on the slow motion function; it was almost painful at times to listen to her.

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self help

Would you listen to The Verbally Abusive Man, Can He Change? again? Why?

YES, BECAUSE YOU CAN ALWAYS LEARN NOW FROM SELF HELP BOOKS WHEN YOU READ THEM AGAIN BECAUSE YOU LIFE AND CIRCUMSTANCES CHANGE.

What about Laural Merlington’s performance did you like?

She is a very good reader enjoyed it.

What did you learn from The Verbally Abusive Man, Can He Change? that you would use in your daily life?

So many things, I truly think it helped me understand I have to be the one to stomp my foot if I thought is was out of the will of God, you do NOT have to be submissive.

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Mandatory Reading

I wish I would have read this 15 years ago. If you are a man, and want to be a real man, read this book. now.

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An Attack on Males

Patricia is right about some things, but she applies a "one size fits all" viewpoint to each of her books: the man is *always* guilty. This approach lends itself to a justified skepticism from the reader and a question her motives and, thereby, her correctness: to genuinely help or to male-bash as a result of some previously horrendous personal trauma.

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