Feeling Good Together

The Secret to Making Troubled Relationships Work

By: David D. Burns MD

Narrated by: Alan Sklar

Length: 8 hrs and 38 mins

Publisher's Summary

We all know people who are hard to get along with. It might be your spouse, mother, neighbor, friend, or colleague. In his new book Feeling Good Together, Dr. David D. Burns describes Cognitive Interpersonal Therapy (CIT), a radically different method for developing more loving and satisfying relationships with the people you care about.

Based on 25 years of clinical experience and new, groundbreaking research involving more than 1,000 individuals, Feeling Good Together is filled with helpful examples and tools, such as the Relationship Satisfaction Test, the Blame Cost-Benefit Analysis, the Relationship Journal, Five Secrets of Effective Communication, the Intimacy Exercise, and more. Using these techniques, Dr. Burns shows you how to resolve virtually any kind of relationship conflict almost instantly.

©2008 David D. Burns, M.D. (P)2008 Tantor

Best yet for communications Skills

I like this book/audio the best so far. Very good advice through out, now if I can just put it into action. The supplemental material can be found here.
http://www.tantor.com/Illust_extra.asp?Product=0820_FeelingGood&num=1

Useful book, supplementary material unavailable

Like its predecessor, "Feeling Good," this book goes beyond fluffy pop psychology. It gives you some concrete cognitive behavioral therapy tools for improving your relationships.

That said, I am very displeased that it is labeled "unabridged," but refers to supplementary content, such as a questionnaire for evaluating your satisfaction in a relationship, that is apparently unavailable. To me, the book is less valuable without access to this content, hence the three-star rating.

For the clueless not the introspective

This book seems to be aimed for those who are just beginning to look into how their own behavior affects their relationships. I have read many books, taken classes and seminars about relationships and emotional intelligence and have been in marriage counseling with my husband for 8 years and in personal therapy for even longer. The concepts presented here are for some one who believes that all of their issues are due to the other person's failings and does not recognize their own contribution to a troubled relationship. The tone of the book is not for the well informed or educated, thoughtful person, but for the "brute or bitch" who would not even be introspective enough to buy a book on improving relationships.

Disappointed - Not enough theory

I heard Dr. Burns talk about his work on a psychology podcast and was enchanted. He talked easily and excitedly about his theories of why most traditional couples' counseling fails, and why his new eclectic cognitive approach is more successful. But this audiobook has none of that intellectual and theoretical power. It is instead a plodding book filled with references to worksheets and questionnaires. I bought it as someone interested in theory and psychology who likes thinking about how to negotiate the complexity of relationships. This is truly not that kind of book. It is much more for the layperson who can't afford counseling and wants to try a workbook approach. It takes many chapters for him to actually get to the meat of his theory. By that point I feel a little misled, as if the introduction to the book - which promises to offer secrets to dissolve interpersonal conflict - has really only enticed me to buy the book.

WE NEED MORE!

This book has a lot of real life exemplas that we all go true on regular basis.
I wish Dr. Burns would have all his other best selling books available in audio as well.
Can't wait!
Thanks

powerful tools

Dr Burns gives you tools to communicate with people that you've built resentment with etc. A great way to change frustrating problems into solution.

Practice and these techniques work!

Everyone one should read this book. Anyone in any kind of relationship, if you really care about the relationship then this book is a must read

Just finished listening and about to start the book again

Have already put into practice the advice shared in this incredible read. Super applicable! I've been in a bit of a slump emotionally and am now realizing the importance of how you frame things and share your emotions in conversation. I had already been doing this, but not with the pazaz found here! Gonna consume it over and over again until it becomes second nature. Thank you for investing this knowledge into my life.

Repetitive but very informative

I found this book very informative until I reached around chapter 20. after that it is mostly just exercises and practicing that ask you to use pen and paper to make lists and complete tasks. even practice with partners. It gives a nice breakdown of how different things you say can effect the outcome of a conversation and how you can reach the conclusions you want in an argument and reduce tension while helping you create a closer bond in your relationships.

Late night radio DJ voice is not for this book

Love the content of this book, but the late night radio DJ voice is kinda disturbing for the content of the book. Love the book and will listen to it many, many times! I've listened to Feeling Good countless times,