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Esther Perel's Where Should We Begin?: The Arc of Love

Narrated by: Esther Perel
Length: 4 hrs and 38 mins
4.5 out of 5 stars (7,422 ratings)

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About the Author and Performer

Esther Perel, the New York Times best-selling author of The State of Affairs, has transformed the conversation on what it means to be in love and have a thriving intimate relationship. For the past thirty-five years, she has worked with thousands of couples around the world who have grappled with a variety of relational challenges – from intimacy to infidelity. In addition to providing therapeutic sessions for clients in her New York City private practice, Perel consults and speaks regularly on erotic intelligence, conflict resolution, and human connection. Weaving true love stories with incisive psychological and cultural analysis, she invites listeners into a revealing exploration of modern marriage. Her provocative audio series, Where Should We Begin? is an Audible Original.

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Isle of the counselor

I wish she would have addressed the obvious personality disorder... But maybe because it's only one session? Otherwise it's terrific, exactly what you would expect, it's basically audio voyeurism -- like reality TV to a point

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Not Nearly as Good as the Podcast

As a fan of Esther Perel’s “Where Should We Begin?” Podcast I was underwhelmed. This feels like a “bonus” episode crafted from not particularly strong leftovers. It was a bit disappointing.

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Perfect

fascinating. Frofound. Surprising. Heartbreaking. Inspiring. Ms. Perel is an amazing therapist and person: so intelligent and perceptive... This listening experience was a pure delight for me, and invited much refleciton on my own life, marriage, motherhood, childhhod and all my relationships.

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Ester Perel Will Transform Your Relationships

I first heard Ester Perel on a podcast about regaining intimacy in relationships where infidelity has occurred. Her ideas were like a breath of fresh air. It was like she had turn on a light in my thought process that I never realized had been turned off in the first place. I then found her podcast, Where Should We Begin, and was floored by the vulnerability of the couples she interviewed. We can all see ourselves in each and every couple; recognize their challenges and accomplishments in our own lives. Esther has this talent of revealing what is at the core of each couples issues, in a way that has them, and you as a listener, going, “ah-ha!” Her podcast is so exceptional, and her books are as well. If you ever want to listen to the stories of others, empathize with them, learn from them, then Esther Perel’s work is for you.

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liked even when I expected not to

I really enjoyed learning to the different struggles that couples and families have and Dr. Perel's ability to get them to explore their feelings and emotions in a supportive way.
I picked the book as it was the 2nd pick and closest thing to something I was interested in. I was sad when it ended as I really enjoyed all the guiding advice.
Give it a try. I think you will not regret it.

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  • Brooke
  • Ottumwa, Iowa, United States
  • 10-22-18

Man shaming and irresposible counseling

This therapist is a perfect example of unprofessionalism. In the couples counseling, she tends to blame the men for nearly everything, portraying the women as victims. I don't claim to be a marriage expert, but as a woman I have been happily married for over a decade to a man in a marriage which according to nearly every statistic out there should not have lasted, and the way this therapist portrays things simply isn't accurate. There are a few moving moments in some of the stories told, but for the most part I was shocked at the unprofessionalism and clear bias this therapist portrayed.

The icing on the cake came in the example of the final story, that of a newly divorced couple who got along well and wanted to ensure they continued to do so. This so-called therapist repeatedly encouraged the man to give his wife the second child she'd always wanted as an "apology" for all he supposedly did wrong during their marriage. She also stated that the act of considering financial readiness prior to having a child is ridiculous and unnecessary. This woman clearly comes from a background that places great value on bringing children into the world regardless of the circumstances, but to guilt a newly divorced man into having another child with his ex-wife when he has already stated his reasons for not wanting one is ridiculous, unprofessional, and wrong. She should lose her license for that type of "treatment."

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  • Rada
  • Seattle
  • 10-05-18

wow.

like seriously. I dislike podcast but this..is..amazing and you can learn so much from it to help your own relationship become stronger. to understand your partner more and just learn be a better person. Try it, if you dislike it just return but I strongly recommended everyone to try this book :)

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Not in a relationship happy to have listened.

Such a helpful and eye opening experience. I recommend it to anyone, especially those not currently in a relationship.

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Blah

If you want to be tangled up in other people’s drama then this is for you. It’s also not in a book format, just people talking.


like the saying goes, you get what you pay
for this was free.

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Not what I expected, in a good way

Very engaging, I shed a tear with each couple 😢
thankfully, there was no man-bashing!

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  • Grant Dewar
  • 10-14-18

Outstanding insight with compassion

Esther and her participants show profound courage to reach new insights about what it is to love in all its forms.

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  • Jessica
  • 02-01-19

Magical, life-giving, irreplaceable...

For those of us who seek not only to understand ourselves better but also the systems that shape us, Perel is invaluable – with each new episode, I naively wonder whether I will discover anything relevant to my life, and yet, episode after episode (and season after season), through these brief little windows into her work, we continue to meet the hidden, misunderstood, unexamined, overly examined, rehearsed, speechified, forgotten, infantile, wistful, resourceful, remorseful, joyful and imaginative parts of ourselves and our stories. Once again, Perel and her team have delivered something which we really have yet to find elsewhere. She is a gift to us all, and it is such an honour to listen. Thank you Esther, and thank you to everyone at Audible. You are changing lives and ushering us into a new era of relationships.

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  • FDre
  • 01-29-19

Honest, raw and insightful

Esther Perel skilfully instigates moments that change her client’s paradigm. She does it methodically and with artistic skill. Seeming to immerse herself completely in each individual’s experience to gather a deep understanding of their needs. The podcast is beautifully done and we can all only wish to find a therapist with a mind as progressive and holistic as hers!

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  • Sam
  • 12-24-18

You get to feel pain and joy with each story

I loved listening to all the real stories. It felt so real, just like I was sitting there next to them in the room. I felt the pain and joy, I cried and laughed with them. I admire them to get out there and share their story. I am one of Esther's fans and like the way she interacts with her clients. Highly recommended!

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  • Jesse
  • 11-24-18

Good but not as good as podcast

Esther is always interesting to listen. I love her free podcast series, but unfortunately this book felt like leftovers stitched together from that rather than a standalone book that provided value over and above her free content.

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  • June Eaton
  • 10-26-18

love Esther! she's one worth listening to

this therapist is definitely worth listening to it's interesting how she reminds and open up ideas and know how to either fix or make the partners in a relationship understand each other a little bit better