The Verbally Abusive Relationship, Expanded Third Edition

By: Patricia Evans

Narrated by: Annette Romano

Length: 9 hrs and 29 mins

Publisher's summary

In this fully expanded and updated third edition of the best-selling classic, you learn why verbal abuse is more widespread than ever, and how you can deal with it. You'll get more of the answers you need to recognize abuse when it happens, respond to abusers safely and appropriately, and most important, lead a happier, healthier life.

In two all-new chapters, Evans reveals the outside stresses driving the rise in verbal abuse - and shows you how you can mitigate the devastating effects on your relationships. She also outlines the levels of abuse that characterize this kind of behavior - from subtle, insidious put-downs that can erode your self-esteem to full-out tantrums of name-calling, screaming, and threatening that can escalate into physical abuse.

Drawing from hundreds of real situations suffered by real people just like you, Evans offers strategies, sample scripts, and action plans designed to help you deal with the abuse - and the abuser.

This timely new edition of The Verbally Abusive Relationship puts you on the road to recognizing and responding to verbal abuse, one crucial step at a time!

©2009 Patricia Evans (P)2018 Simon & Schuster

I knew something was wrong!

This book opened my eyes in so many ways. I knew something was wrong, even that I was being verbally abused, never that about how it was affecting me and my son. After listening to most of this book I made a plan to leave.

Sheded light

I am very glad i heard this book and now i can spot when my husband says something abusive and can sense how it make me feel and give my feelings trust. my feelings dont lie. I recommend it!

Extremely informative

I was able to relate to the examples given and use the language with my partner as well as show him what he was doing. It is an excellent resource.

Great resource!

A must read for anyone struggling with this confusing topic! Very easy to understand r and helpful resource !

Great Insight

Very eye-opening and relatable. The book makes you think and evaluate/reevaluate life. I feel more aware of my actions and the actions of others.

listen to it again

good book insightful and helpful. read a few times. there is some big ideas that need to be comprehended.

Validating for the partner in a verbally abusive relationship

Patricia Evans articulates and witnesses the truth of damage caused by a verbally abusive partner. I felt validated and empowered reading this. Also, very sad. Definitely recommend.

An awakening with answers

I always knew something was wrong with my marriage. I am a strong woman so it made sense to me that our relationship had to endure power struggle. My feelings saved me and this book gave me the why. The abuse at first was reasonable to me and mostly he had me convinced that I lack the skills for a good marriage. I had turned into a pleaser walking on egg shells and avoiding certain subjects and worst of all, I taught my daughter to do the same. There were times I thought I was crazy and there was a time when I asked God to take me from this earth. This being my second marriage I was embarrassed to admit failure yet again, every anniversary felt fake not joyous. It took 24 years to find my strength but I finally know what to do. If you are dating or engaged, read this book. If you are single, read this book. If like me something was always ‘off’ in your marriage, I beg you to read this book. Don’t let the attitude of your marriage destroy the future relationships your children will have. Abuse stops now.

The book is awesome. Navigation poor

The content is 100% awesome. Very informative.

However the chapters are not labeled in audible. It would be nice to jump to a chapter of interest.

Saved me!

This book was what I needed. I never understood abuse for what it is. This book explained it and gave me the tools that I needed to self protect. “Abusive statements are lies about you told to you. They violate your boundaries. The abuser invades your mind makes up a story about your motives and then tells it to you. Accusing and blaming involves lies about your intentions, attitude, motives. Makes you want to explain yourself. “

“Judgments and criticism are lies about ones qualities and performance. They are blows to self-esteem. Defining you violates your personal boundaries. “