Real Love

The Truth About Finding Unconditional Love & Fulfilling Relationships
By: Greg Baer
Narrated by: Greg Baer
Length: 7 hrs and 50 mins
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Publisher's Summary

"He rocked my foundation! Greg Baer touched me deeply. He's got the answer to finding happiness in life." (Tony Trupiano, Talk America)

Why do most of us search our entire lives for loving and happy relationships but rarely find them? What is the "secret something" that all relationships need in order to thrive? Dr. Greg Baer found the answers to these questions while working with thousands of individuals and couples. In Real Love, he shares his enlightening and practical blueprint for creating successful relationships and reveals the secret to finding and keeping what he calls "Real Love."

In Real Love, you'll discover:

  • The difference between Imitation Love and Real Love
  • How to eliminate conflicts with spouses, children, parents, friends, and colleagues
  • How to put an end to destructive "Getting" and "Protecting" behaviors
  • How Real Love can eliminate anger, resentment, and fear
  • The four steps to finding Real Love

With Real Love as your guide, you can begin to heal the wounds of your past and create rewarding and fulfilling relationships in every area of your life.

"I could not wait to turn each page. It was like stepping from the shadows into the sun! Dr. Baer has given us a monumental achievement in understanding love and relationships." (Metaphysical Reviews)

©2003 Penguin Publishing (P)2007 Greg Baer

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Great principles for living, BUT a word of caution

Overall I LOVED the principles of this book. In my lifetime of studying relationships, communication, and the like and this book really is the creme de la creme of getting to the underlying principles of it all in my opinion. BUT there is a few things I disagree highly with the author on. I do agree with his underlying premise - at the heart of it all REAL love is what we all need, and really is at the root of things. HOWEVER, I have issue with how he suggests applying that principle in sexual situations, marriage as the ultimate commitment, and staying in toxic and abusive relationships. In terms of how he deals with sexual situations: I feel the author was overly simplistic, had tones of religious views and did not address the complexities of how our biological and psychological sexual needs play into our need for real love. I completely understand the principle - people use sex as a means of imitation love. They offer themselves as objects to be used, and then when they feel how used they are, the devastation can be horrific. I've seen this up close and personal. The solution IS for the person to feel Real Love, which will deter them seeking for 'love in all the wrong places' so to speak. BUT, the author's solution of complete abstinence before marriage to solve that problem does not acknowledge that sex can be healthy when partners do feel Real Love, even in committed (or non-committed, but consensual) relationships outside of marriage. Sexual compatibility is something that should be discussed in a healthy way, and one can only talk so much without experiencing sexual communication in a sexual relationship. Real Love will of course help partners communicate without anger and disappointment, but it does a disservice to a couple to think that because they experience Real Love, sexual satisfaction will just 'poof' naturally happen. So my caution is to understand the principle, but learn how to use good principles of healthy consensual sexual communication, no matter if you are married or not. Personally I have experienced some VERY healthy sexual relationships outside of marriage that helped me to feel Real Love as well as learn about myself sexually and learn how to incorporate healthy sexual communication in relationships on a whole. Which also brings up the issue with marriage: Again, I understand the principle he is aiming to get across. Having a commitment to someone, and especially in the form of a legal marriage, is a strong tie that can bind a relationship together. And sometimes that commitment can pull a couple through hard times. However, it's okay to be on a spectrum of commitment as you learn and grow in a relationship. It doesn't have to be so black and white. You can be in a committed relationship and experience and show Real Love. Such black and white thinking leaves out many wonderful opportunities for relationships that people can (and do) experience. Marriage doesn't have to be the end-all be-all benchmark of a fully committed Real Love relationship. Do what is best for you. Lastly, the author's advice in terms of whether to leave toxic and abusive relationships was also overly simplistic and may encourage people to stay in situations that would cause real harm. The ironic thing is, most people stay in toxic and abusive (both physically AND emotionally) abusive relationships because they don't feel Real Love themselves. Once a person is able to feel Real Love, they have the self worth and confidence to leave. The author acknowledged physical and emotional abuse, BUT then ended that section saying that some people should stay in a non-loving relationship, even if the other person never loves you back -- EVER. THAT QUALIFIES AS EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE. And NO ONE should stay in any relationship where they have to constantly sacrifice their own happiness while trying to give love to another. That seems to be contrary to the author's own premise: our primary responsibility is to fill ourselves with Real Love. I still LOVED this book. And it has changed so much of how I view and act in my relationships. If you keep the principle in mind, but are cautious and aware of how that principle should be applied in your own life in the areas of sex, commitment/marriage, and whether to stay or leave harmful situations, then I believe this book will be a wonderful addition to your self-help library.

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Remembering the truest of true

Definitely the book I needed to help me remember that I find Real Live in Al-Anon meetings. So, it helped me regain my balance & stability through knowing where to get my need met. Great book. Lots of wisdom.

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Life Changing

This author has the insights I have been looking for. Finally the counsel I need!

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Great Book!

This is a good book. Some of the information in this book I found hard to listen to and even diagreeing. But what this book did was reveal my weaknesses to me. Some I did not know I had. This book is good for marriages, couples, parent/child relationships and loving oneself.

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Amazing, insightful, very helpful

I found this book to be very thoughtful insightful and helpful. It provided a very deep understanding of love to help one understand what love it is and should be.

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Everyone has something to gain from this book.

This is a wonderful book that every person should read or listen too. It would make the world a better place if you chose to learn from it. I will listen to it a few more times, so I don't forget what I learned.

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Truth

You know truth when you hear it. Although difficult to put real love into action, I know reading this book will start the journey. It emphasizes the importance of being honest with yourself and others as the first step to receiving real love, and that concept has stuck with me.

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great learning

informational and very informative. definitely worth a listen to and you will learn a lot how to take yourself and your relationship to the next level

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Do your research online

Do some deep digging on reviews on real love program online outside of reviews on audible.

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One of the Most Impactful Books of the Decade

This book is a rare gem in the world of self-help books. There aren't too many books that nail the problem and the solution right on the head while at the same time presenting a solution that isn't a regurgitation of Think and Grow Rich. Many books tell you that if you want to change your life you must change your thoughts. But this book will change your thoughts. Get ready to discover the cause of all your problems: You. Get ready to find out how to be more loving: Stop lying. Especially to yourself.

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  • 04-17-20

greatest lifestyle lessons. you really feel loved

powerfull message profound yet simply put across. with lots of real situations to demonstrate. well narrated calm consistently guided through each step to a greater awareness of acheiving a much more rewarding way of life

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  • Martin Zeman
  • 12-09-19

Life changing book

Brilliant insights and many excellent real-life examples. I have never thought about my and other people's behaviour from this angle... It resonated a lot.

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  • RB
  • 04-25-19

Impactful

The principals in this book should be learned and applied by everyone. It is easier said than done but worth a try for sure!

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  • 04-10-16

Seems simple

Greg makes it seem simple. at its core is honesty and truth otherwise you are presenting a false self. To genuinely care about others first ... It's like the foundations to build upon. Really good book