We are currently making improvements to the Audible site. In an effort to enhance the accessibility experience for our customers, we have created a page to more easily navigate the new experience, available at the web address www.audible.com/access .
What Makes Love Last? Audiobook

What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal

Regular Price:$27.99
  • Membership Details:
    • First book free with 30-day trial
    • $14.95/month thereafter for your choice of 1 new book each month
    • Cancel easily anytime
    • Exchange books you don't like
    • All selected books are yours to keep, even if you cancel
  • - or -

Publisher's Summary

Dr. John Gottman, the country's preeminent researcher on marriage, is famous for his Love Lab at the University of Washington in Seattle where he deciphers the mysteries of human relationships through scientific research. His 35 years of exploration have earned him numerous awards, including from the National Institute of Mental Health, the American Psychological Association, and the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. Now, Dr. Gottman offers surprising findings and advice on the characteristic that is at the heart of all relationships: Trust. Dr. Gottman has developed a formula that precisely calculates any couple's loyalty level. The results determine a relationship's likely future, including the potential for one or both partners to stray.

What Makes Love Last? shows couples how to bolster their trust level and avoid what Dr. Gottman calls the "Roach Motel for Lovers". He describes how the outcome of "sliding door moments", small pivotal points between a couple, can lead either to more emotional connection or to discontent. He suggests a new approach to handling adultery and reveals the varied and unexpected non-sexual ways that couples often betray each other.

What Makes Love Last? guides couples through an empirically tested, trust-building program that will help them repair and maintain any long-term, intimate romantic relationship.

Download the accompanying reference guide.

©2012 John M Gottman, PhD, and Nan Silver (P)2012 Tantor

What the Critics Say

"The practical tools to evaluate current relationships and step-by-step methods for avoiding betrayal, repairing relationships heading toward crisis, or healing a relationship after a crisis will be useful to couples who want to look honestly at healing chronic hurts and improving the state of their relationship, and are ready for a system to help them." (Publishers Weekly)

What Members Say

Average Customer Rating

4.5 (287 )
5 star
 (185)
4 star
 (62)
3 star
 (29)
2 star
 (7)
1 star
 (4)
Overall
4.4 (234 )
5 star
 (146)
4 star
 (56)
3 star
 (25)
2 star
 (3)
1 star
 (4)
Story
4.3 (242 )
5 star
 (140)
4 star
 (55)
3 star
 (35)
2 star
 (9)
1 star
 (3)
Performance
Sort by:
  •  
    Ken Corbett 10-08-12
    Ken Corbett 10-08-12 Listener Since 2009
    HELPFUL VOTES
    14
    ratings
    REVIEWS
    1
    1
    FOLLOWERS
    FOLLOWING
    2
    0
    Overall
    Performance
    Story
    "Really Good."
    Where does What Makes Love Last? rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

    I think What Makes Love Last is one of the best Marriage books I've read, and I've read quite a few. It takes a very scientific, results based approach with several specific examples of things you can do to improve your relationship. Be sure to follow the directions at the beginning of the audiobook to get the pdf companion.


    14 of 14 people found this review helpful
  •  
    Anomoly United States 09-19-13
    Anomoly United States 09-19-13 Listener Since 2008
    HELPFUL VOTES
    343
    ratings
    REVIEWS
    49
    27
    FOLLOWERS
    FOLLOWING
    83
    4
    Overall
    Performance
    Story
    "Hand it out to every engaged couple"
    What did you love best about What Makes Love Last??

    This book is amazing - if you ever asked the question. This is the answer. Well written, well read - worth the buy. This book bundled with Hold me tight is all you need.

    If you are single i recommend 'attached' however this is also a great book to have. '


    What was one of the most memorable moments of What Makes Love Last??

    Know when you are 'flooding' during an argument, and understand the horsemen.


    What about Peter Berkrot’s performance did you like?

    Enjoyable


    Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?

    The whole book has a lot of useful info.


    Any additional comments?

    Has some great info on affairs - I would also recommend 'Just Friends'

    5 of 5 people found this review helpful
  •  
    David San Jose, CA United States 02-21-14
    David San Jose, CA United States 02-21-14 Member Since 2012
    HELPFUL VOTES
    218
    ratings
    REVIEWS
    524
    173
    FOLLOWERS
    FOLLOWING
    7
    0
    Overall
    Performance
    Story
    "Very practical"

    Really interesting. I appreciate his research based approach. I particularly enjoyed learning more relationship recovery techniques. I also saw areas where I need to be more careful with my relationships. This was a very readable book. Of this genre, he lacks the underlying grand theory that you find in Harville Hendrix and others, but this is a much more practical approach.

    3 of 3 people found this review helpful
  •  
    Aaron 03-20-14
    Aaron 03-20-14
    HELPFUL VOTES
    10
    ratings
    REVIEWS
    39
    5
    FOLLOWERS
    FOLLOWING
    0
    0
    Overall
    Performance
    Story
    "The Key"
    What made the experience of listening to What Makes Love Last? the most enjoyable?

    The insights - practical, profound - are marriage changing and life changing.


    What did you like best about this story?

    I immediately put to work the guidance on myself and with communicating with my wife, and there is a cloud of tension already lifting. We have hot spot topics that we typically avoid, to avoid arguing. But this book gave me a guide and the courage to open up that conversation, it happened lovingly and respectfully. It's a change I've been wishing for.


    Any additional comments?

    If you want to create more joy and connection in your marriage, regardless of being stuck in negative discontent or happy and content this book with bring you up. I give it my highest recommendation.

    2 of 2 people found this review helpful
  •  
    Ocean Portsmouth, NH, United States 11-11-12
    Ocean Portsmouth, NH, United States 11-11-12 Member Since 2011

    Love to read. Love to write.

    HELPFUL VOTES
    25
    ratings
    REVIEWS
    13
    9
    FOLLOWERS
    FOLLOWING
    1
    0
    Overall
    Performance
    Story
    "Worthwhile"

    Offers some great suggestions about how to keep your relationship healthy. I felt it was totall worth the time and money and would recommend it to anyone struggling with relationship issues or wanting to make a good relationship better. Even the best relationships can use advice about what to do to keep them that way.

    5 of 6 people found this review helpful
  •  
    Kai Ellis 04-27-13
    Kai Ellis 04-27-13
    HELPFUL VOTES
    6
    ratings
    REVIEWS
    28
    4
    FOLLOWERS
    FOLLOWING
    0
    0
    Overall
    Performance
    Story
    "Read by Quagmire from Family Guy..."
    What made the experience of listening to What Makes Love Last? the most enjoyable?

    Gottman is a seasoned expert on the subject of successful relationships.


    What was one of the most memorable moments of What Makes Love Last??

    The samples of dialogue between the therapist and various couples helped illustrate principles to me.


    Did Peter Berkrot do a good job differentiating all the characters? How?

    No :( His tone and inflection were the same for all samples of dialogue - but that's not really a big deal to me. What continually took me out of the book was how much he sounds like Quagmire from Family Guy.


    If you were to make a film of this book, what would be the tag line be?

    Want to know if you're going to get divorced? The answers are inside...


    6 of 9 people found this review helpful
  •  
    kalin 07-24-17
    kalin 07-24-17 Member Since 2015
    ratings
    REVIEWS
    2
    1
    Overall
    Performance
    "Life changing, saved my marriage"

    Offers terrific tips on how to keep, maintain, and regain trust. I would recommend this to anyone who is in, or plans to be in a long term commitment.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
  •  
    Bridget 07-01-17
    Bridget 07-01-17 Member Since 2017
    ratings
    REVIEWS
    4
    2
    Overall
    Performance
    Story
    "great stuff"

    I thoroughly enjoyed the content of the book. The narrator's voice did not really go with the stories very well. There were times that I actually started laughing because the narrator's voice sounded ridiculous saying some of the things that the couples were saying. I think a female would have been better at this. I am happy that this book reaffirmed that my hubby and I are on the right track. This book gives excrement tools and ideas for better communication. I loved it.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
  •  
    AgntHaleD 06-22-17
    AgntHaleD 06-22-17 Member Since 2016
    ratings
    REVIEWS
    11
    2
    Overall
    Performance
    Story
    "Best Relationship Advice"

    Gottman hits it right on the head every time. sound relationship advice for every couple

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
  •  
    rajan kumaran 03-20-17
    ratings
    REVIEWS
    2
    1
    Overall
    Performance
    Story
    "The key to keeping love"

    I found this book to be full of very valuable tools. I will be listening to it many times. It gives me hope for having a successful long term relationship. The narrator did a fine job.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful

Report Inappropriate Content

If you find this review inappropriate and think it should be removed from our site, let us know. This report will be reviewed by Audible and we will take appropriate action.

Cancel

Thank you.

Your report has been received. It will be reviewed by Audible and we will take appropriate action.