The ADHD Effect on Marriage

Understand and Rebuild Your Relationship in Six Steps

By: Melissa Orlov

Narrated by: Laura Jennings

Length: 8 hrs and 3 mins

Publisher's summary

An invaluable resource for couples in which one of the partners suffers from attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), this authoritative book guides troubled marriages toward an understanding of and appreciation for the struggles and triumphs of a relationship affected by it and to look at the disorder in a more positive and less disruptive way. Going beyond traditional marriage counseling, this discussion offers advice from the author's personal experience and years of research and identifies patterns of behavior that can hurt marriages - such as nagging, intimacy problems, sudden anger, and memory issues - through the use of vignettes and descriptions of actual couples and their ADHD struggles and solutions. This resource encourages both spouses to become active partners in improving their relationship and healing the fissures that ADHD can cause.

©2010 Melissa Orlov (P)2017 Tantor

Nail and hammer meet

This book is actually the life I'm living now. I am the non-adhd spouse. It's been something I've been looking for a long time. 1/2 way through. So far it's had some good suggestions I knew I needed to follow but needed to hear it from an authority.

Amazing

Just like my life it doesn’t fix anything but at least understand that is something that I didn’t ask for

Book is SO helpful!

The book is extremely helpful for those who are seeking more information on how ADHD affects relationships. It is spot on. The one thing I did NOT care for is the narrator's Jody Foster-esque voice. It gritted on my nerves at first, but I got used to it.

Very enjoyable audiobook

I found this book to be very helpful and had some very interesting concepts. While I couldn’t relate to many of the stereotypical ADHD traits there was still enough useful information in the book to make it worthwhile.

Very Insightful and Easy to Read

This book helped me feel seen. It put words to the patterns that we have been living in our relationship, providing me the language to begin the hard conversations and giving us manageable actions to take. It was also very easy to read and understand the concepts proposed.

Also, contrary to other reviews I thought author was very thoughtful with interchanging the genders between the perspectives. Seems widely applicable to all being impacted by ADHD.

It also gave me hope!

Great resource to improve marriage!

I’m a non-ADHD spouse looking to learn more about my husbands ADHD and how it influences our marriage. This book gives practical recommendations for BOTH spouses. It was very well balanced and suggested healthy ways to involve professional help, seek treatment for BOTH spouses, and made a clear boundary where ADHD stops and abuse begins. She is very clear on what is unacceptable, even for someone with ADHD. I finally feel like we aren’t crazy, we aren’t suffering alone, and the work that’s put in to treating symptoms and their effects with benefit BOTH of us greatly. Very worth the read!

Fantastic resource

Filled cover to cover with PRACTICAL strategies and ways to grow as a couple when you or your partner have ADHD. Helps to both understand your partner AND yourself!

Changed my life - I now have awareness

I turned to this book after my wife of 9 years had multiple affairs over the last year. When I started listening to the book, it was a mirror of my marriage. I had thought I was ADHD most of my life but never addressed it. I asked my dr about adderrall 3 years ago which he wrote a script and although it helped for some time, well as I said I recently found out about affairs. When I realized that ADHD symptoms could be the cause for the space between us (multiple examples) I seemed out help from an adhd specialist. I was formerly diagnose with ADHD and a serious case of it. For the last two months I have been working on myself and I have a new awareness that my first path of thinking is my ADHD and through the tools in this book and journaling my thoughts, I now now how to get to my second path of thinking. If you think you have ADHD or your partner does, read this book! I wish I could get my wife to read it but I haven’t been able to get her to. Although were working on our marriage through counseling, this book was was unlocked my mind and provided me with awareness. I can never go back to my old way of not being aware. This book may have changed my awareness forever... now to make change. Thank you.

Amazing book

she really described my entire life dealing with a spouse with ADHD (,not yet diagnosed). I feel more comfortable now on how to approach him and how to handle different situations. I highly recommend it.

Very insightful and eye opening.

This has inspired me to get help and make a change. I need to be better and this book gives me hope.