Is It You, Me, or Adult A.D.D.?

Stopping the Roller Coaster When Someone You Love Has Attention Deficit Disorder

By: Gina Pera

Narrated by: Pam Ward

Length: 14 hrs and 55 mins

Publisher's Summary

Is It You, Me, or Adult A.D.D.? is a meticulously researched, comprehensive guide to recognizing and dealing with Adult ADHD, offering a message of hope for the millions of people whose lives this disorder has impacted.

©2008 Gina Pera (P)2011 Tantor

Critic Reviews

"Insightful, helpful, witty, and very practical. This book can change your life." (Daniel G. Amen, M.D., author of Change Your Brain, Change Your Life)

The best book I've read on the subject yet!

Would you try another book from Gina Pera and/or Pam Ward?

Absolutely.

What could Gina Pera have done to make this a more enjoyable book for you?

As with all audio books, a pdf downloadable reference would be nice.

What didn’t you like about Pam Ward’s performance?

Pam is one of the best narrator's out there as she is clear to understand, uses appropriate intonation at the right times and keeps the material interesting and moving.

Any additional comments?

I've know for about 6 years that I have ADD. However, until now, I have never really understood the true significance of ADD throughout my life and the impact on others. Gina's book has helped me see that ADD is likely a significant piece if not the smoking gun underneath years and years of anxiety, depression, poor performance, great performance, outbursts, confusion, lack of direction. low self esteem, great ideas (according to me) and, well, you know the list. It's clear I haven't always been treating the appropriate issue.

Thank you Gina for all the research and effort it took to produce your book and thank you for providing a little clarity to a rather unfocused mind. Wow, what a difference it would have made 40 some years ago when us 40+ somethings were in grade school!

A must read for those with ADD, think they might have ADD or are living with someone who has ADD.

Very insightful!

14 hours?! My friend recommended I read this, but coming in at 14 hours long I couldn't make myself download it much less start it. Then after weeks of kindly suggesting and gentle reminders, one day she exasperatedly exclaimed, "Read the damn book!" Having just been diagnosed with ADD at age 41 this book was tremendously helpful in meeting myself for the first time. I laughed out loud several times in the first section as I saw myself so clearly in the case study stories. The middle section was a little discouraging (and humbling) realizing the effect my decisions and behavior have had on my family and relationships. The last section was a bit much to take in with all the drug names and treatment options, so I'll need to listen to it again. Overall, I'm so delighted I read it (at 1.45 speed :) ) and feel hopeful that with some behavior skills from a trained professional in my tool belt and a proper dosage of medication, I will be able to more fully utilize my best self more often. This feels so hopeful! Now, stop reading reviews and buy the damn book already!

Not a fluffy treatment of ADD/ADHD

Very difficult topic, well documented and expanded. However, after a few hours it felt like a hammer hitting me on the head, I was waiting for some "good" news, but I feel more discouraged about my condition the more I listen. I'm sure the author is not intending to do so, but to inform well so we know what we're dealing with. I'll be looking for encouragement in connected fields of therapy and personal development. Still, I recommend this book.

Negative VENT. Not helpful.

The author succeeds in normalizing the struggles, but does so in a vent sort of way. I can see it causing more disconnect in an already struggling relationship. There are lots of good books and therapists out there. Keep searching. Hallowell and Orlov are helpful and real.

Useful examples of the ADHD partnership challenges

I liked how the book had taken common and typical examples of scenarios that arise. The book helped me place my thumb on the situations I would see with my partner. Helping me know that his behavior was symptomatic and not intentional. Therefore, I felt that these situations can improve with proper treatment and medicine.

Is it You, Me, or Adult A.D.D.?

If you could sum up Is It You, Me, or Adult A.D.D.? in three words, what would they be?

Informative Read

Any additional comments?

This is for anyone that has Adult A.D.D. or is a significant other to that individual.

Must read.

This is a great book for anyone struggling with or trying to understand ADD. However, the long numbered lists embedded within other lists made me think I had ADD. Otherwise, it is full of useful information and a great introduction to the topic.

This book is mis-titled...

It should be "It's you and your Adult ADD: Divorce the bum before he ruins your life!" The author has an extremely negative and pessimistic attitude toward being married to an adult with ADHD. I recommend Melissa Orlov's and Dr. Edward Hallowell's books instead.

too little about how to support a partner

This book is 75% about how relationships can be difficult for couples where a partner has untreated ADHD. I would have preferred much less of this and much more about how to support your partner.

Don't read if you are looking for encouragement

This author has a unique way of delivering back handed insults to people with ADHD. I don't think I've ever been more discouraged. Looking to return this book.

Biased Narrator

I have ADHD and this book was suggested to my wife. It have a very true and helpful view point but the tone of the narrator is SO negative about ADHD which is a shame because my wife and I love ADHD!

A great introduction to ADHD

I would suggest starting with this book on the adventure of understanding ADHD for both partners in an affected relationship.
A solid grounding from which you can then go on to read the more scientific texts.