No More Mr. Nice Guy

A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex and Life (Updated)

By: Dr Robert Glover

Narrated by: Dr Robert Glover

Length: 6 hrs and 49 mins

Publisher's summary

“One of the best books I’ve ever read on men’s emotional health and development.” Mark Manson, author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck and Models.

“I have read every self-help book out there, but this was the first that put everything together in a way that made perfect sense to me.”

“Every page of my copy of No More Mr. Nice Guy is highlighted in yellow. How did you know me so well?

A Nice Guy, according to Dr. Robert Glover, a pioneering expert on the Nice Guy Syndrome, is a man who believes he is not okay just as he is. He is convinced that he must become what he thinks others want him to be liked, loved, and get his needs met. He also believes that he must hide anything about himself that might trigger a negative response in others.

The Nice Guy Syndrome typically begins in infancy and childhood when a young boy inaccurately internalizes emotional messages about himself and the world. It is fueled by toxic shame and anxiety. Rapid social change in the late 20th century and early 21st century has contributed to a worldwide explosion of men struggling to find happiness, love, and purpose.

The paradigm of the Nice Guy Syndrome is driven by three faulty covert contracts. Nice Guys believe:

• If I am good, then I will be liked and loved.
• If I meet other people’s needs without them having to ask, then they will meet my needs without me having to ask.
• If I do everything right, then I will have a smooth, problem-free life.

The inauthentic and chameleon-like approach to life causes Nice Guys to often feel frustrated, confused, and resentful. Subsequently, these men are often anything but nice. Common Nice Guy patterns include giving to get, difficulty setting boundaries, dishonesty, caretaking, fixing, codependency, people-pleasing, conflict avoidance, passive-aggressiveness, unsatisfying relationships, issues with sexuality, and compulsive masturbation and pornography use.

Since the publication of No More Mr. Nice Guy in 2003, hundreds of thousands of men worldwide have learned how to release toxic shame, soothe their anxiety, face their fears, connect with men, embrace their passion and purpose, and experience success in work and career. These men have also learned to set boundaries, handle conflict, make their needs a priority, develop satisfying relationships, and experience great sex.

This process of recovery from the Nice Guy Syndrome allows men to move through:

• Depression
• Social anxiety and shyness
• Codependency
• Low self-esteem
• Loneliness and hopelessness
• Feelings of failure
• Lack of confidence and purpose
• Compulsive behaviors and addictions
• Feeling stuck in life

Contrary to what the title might seem to imply, No More Mr. Nice Guy does not teach men how to be not nice. Dr. Glover shows men how to become what he calls Integrated Males. Becoming integrated does not mean becoming different or better. It means being able to accept all aspects of oneself. An integrated male can embrace everything that makes him unique - his power, his assertiveness, his humor, his courage, and his mission, as well as his fears, his imperfections, his mistakes, his rough edges, and his dark side.

If you are ready to get what you want in love, sex, and life, No More Mr. Nice Guy will show you how.

©2000, 2003 Robert Glover (P)2017 Recorded Books

dissatisfied with life? buy the book

exellent book! it helps you see, how you in childhood from not getting your needs met, adapted to patterns of not making a lot of trouble, not asking for things and putting other people needs before your own (to deserve love, attention or whatever you need ), and how that's making it difficult getting your needs met as an adult.
it forces you to see your darker, disfunctional sides and how you sabotage for yourself. it's hard and felt heavy sometimes, but in the end I think it's worth it.
it encourages you to seek support and help from safe people, therapist or join a support group, to help you through your problems and help you get your needs met. there are 45 different exercises with questions to help you see and change your behavior. I will listen to this book again and do all of them. thanks for a great book!

A must read for all men

Really great content. I have reccomended this to all my friends and brothers. it's helped me tremendously.

Let go of the monsters!!!

What an amazing experience to hear all of this and perfect for my transformation never ever to late to repair oneself to peace!!

On point and right on time!

As a woman who knows many nice guys, I found this book gave me insight and cultivated compassion within me. I also learned a LOT that I am applying to my own life. I recommend this book to every man. It should be a required read for high school seniors and college freshmen.

Brilliant!!!

Everyone male or female, single or relationship, straight or gay should read this book! Brilliant!

TOP !

I wish I have read that book many years ago - it would prevent me from nany suffering.

Would have saved my marriage...

A very sobering book that would have likely saved my marriage had I listened to this two months ago.
Will save me from myself for the future now.

great book give me the answers to all my questions

before reading I thought a nice guy was just what it says a nice guy after reading I'm absolutely astonished of how much of a nice guy I am and how much I got to change luckily it gives the answers

New knew someone knew me so well

This book put an exclamation point, at the end of the definition of me. As I listened to this book I was given the tools to realize and understand exactly where I am, why I am here, and strategies for how to begin the process of recovery. Excellent book thank you.

Good man book

This was definitely one of the top books I have read about how to be a man. I recommend it to any man who's looking for answers to questions which you might not even fully understand himself.