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No More Mr. Nice Guy

A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex and Life (Updated)
Narrated by: Dr Robert Glover
Length: 6 hrs and 49 mins
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Originally published as an eBook that became a controversial media phenomenon, No More Mr. Nice Guy! landed its author, a certified marriage and family therapist, on The O'Reilly Factor and the Rush Limbaugh radio show. 

Dr. Robert Glover has dubbed the "Nice Guy Syndrome" trying too hard to please others while neglecting one's own needs, thus causing unhappiness and resentfulness. It's no wonder that unfulfilled Nice Guys lash out in frustration at their loved ones, claims Dr. Glover. He explains how they can stop seeking approval and start getting what they want in life, by presenting the information and tools to help them ensure their needs are met, to express their emotions, to have a satisfying sex life, to embrace their masculinity and form meaningful relationships with other men, and to live up to their creative potential.  

©2000, 2003 Robert Glover (P)2017 Recorded Books

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Nailed me right between the eyes

As a 46 year old male, ex-Marine, and self professed “nice guy” I finally understand that all this time, I have been causing my own pain. It hasn’t been my career, my spouse, my friends, my environmental conditions. The common factor in all those things has been me. No more Mr. nice guy described many of my own internal feelings like someone was reading my mind. Things that I’ve never told anyone. Now that I have clarity on these issues, I now have a way to work through them to be set free. I’ve already applied some of the techniques with immediate results. Mainly because the change started with me, which then encouraged positive responses from others. So basically, now I’m in the process of reviewing all of my thoughts and actions to challenge and change the defaults. If you even think this book might help you, take a chance. I did and I’m so very thankful to the author.

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literally fixed me

I struggled to find the answer to why my marriage failed and my ex girlfriend cheated on me. the book cured me of my condition. real help inside. actionable and practical.

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amazing book

listened to it multiple times. cant say enough about how its helped me, in my personal and professional life. this contained innumerable revelations about why I do the things I do, and how to better myself in those situations.

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Life Changing

Every man needs to read this book. Period.
It's everything you missed growing up, and everything you need to be a happier and better man than you ever thought possible.
There's no clearer way to say this, do not skip this book. It literally saved my life, my relationships, and opened the door to a life I never dreamed was possible for me.

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Only for nice guys!

Overall, this book tries to explain the origin of the nice guy and why he acts like he does. Some good excercises to help overcome nice guy syndrome, but I only recommend this book if this is your first read on the topic.

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Very insightful...

Upon listening to the book, I listened the sample and from there it started describing certain things that made sense in describing the type of person I may be. So now I want to learn more in which I did, but it definitely takes another listen. So much information about what you can learn from being too passive and explains just enough for you to understand ways to control your niceness. I'm hoping to learn more the second time around, so I can better understand myself and how I treat others... thank you!

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Practical guide for people pleasers

This book really resonated with me. It details many of the reasons and solutions for overcoming toxic shame. This is the updated version of the book. I’m not sure if the previous version had a pdf, but this one doesn’t. Tough to practically implement the recommended exercises without that.

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dissatisfied with life? buy the book

exellent book! it helps you see, how you in childhood from not getting your needs met, adapted to patterns of not making a lot of trouble, not asking for things and putting other people needs before your own (to deserve love, attention or whatever you need ), and how that's making it difficult getting your needs met as an adult.
it forces you to see your darker, disfunctional sides and how you sabotage for yourself. it's hard and felt heavy sometimes, but in the end I think it's worth it.
it encourages you to seek support and help from safe people, therapist or join a support group, to help you through your problems and help you get your needs met. there are 45 different exercises with questions to help you see and change your behavior. I will listen to this book again and do all of them. thanks for a great book!

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This book changed my life

Absolutely the worst best thing to ever happen to me. Finding this book saved my life. If you have ever been called a nice guy too much or consider yourself a nice guy read this book!

The first chapter was a punch to the gut and a knee to the face. my world was turned upside down immediately for the better. don't take my word for it. Get this book!

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Almost returned it halfway through.. glad I didn't

"Self-help for Cucks" was my initial impression of this title early on, and in a way, it is. The first half basically introduces the beta personalities that will be used as references and examples later on. The author is obviously a talented psychologist, and his motivations for writing this book admittedly stem from helping himself, and eventually groups of others deal with loveless, sexless, toxic relationships and personalities. Personally, I was having a difficult time and a little bit of buyer's remorse when trying to relate to the cases featured, as many others may experience. His insights and way of dissecting human behavior resonated with me just enough though, so I kept going.

The second half was where I found gold. I would like to point out that although the title and narrative is aimed at men, the insights into subconscious human "hangups" and motivations scattered throughout the book transcend gender, class, race, and any other "ism" that you may come into this pre-loaded with. Personal growth as a human being requires understanding the side of yourself that you probably aren't aware of, and he does an excelent job of pointing you in the right direction. Do not let your ego distract you from really listening, I promise that it's worth it.

Many of the psychological tactics employed here are lost on myself, and probably a lot of other people that are familiar with them... letting go of mental baggage, affirmations, etc. However, there is merit to these exercises, and they will do a world of good for the core audience that the book is aimed at. For others that are further along on your path, there are more than enough gems here to justify the digging. All in all, a very valuable book in terms of personal growth and understanding, and I highly recommend it.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 08-30-18

for guys really struggling maybe... for others no.

this book is for guys who are really struggling in their relationship and life. I'm talking about guys who aren't allowed to go out, have the missus control the purse strings, have a dominant partner that treats then like shit etc. It endorses alot of support groups, 12 step groups etc

I bought this book to try and get some tips on how to say "no" to people at work and be a little more assertive... it focussed too much on a male being not too strong in his relationship at home and didn't really focus on work (although I'm sure transferable).

there is some good aspects of the book, but I felt 90% just wasn't applicable to my situation.

For: guys who are having trouble getting what they want at home (their own time, speaking up etc)

Not for: guys who feel their relationship at home is good, but feel they could do with some more assertiveness.

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  • Saundg
  • 12-04-18

Conflicted

I have to say that I am somewhat conflicted about this book. On one hand I found some of the personal observations ‘spot on’, but I could not relate to any of the supposed causes of the ‘Nice Guy’ syndrome. I think the root cause analysis is far to simplistic and not really based on current scientific thinking on how our personalities are formed. That said, their are some nuggets to be found in the section ms on self sabotaging behaviour

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  • 05-23-18

Game Changer

I didn’t know what to expect from the book, but it helped me realise who I am and I can make big changes in my life now. A really helpful listen.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 03-17-18

A turning point in my life.

The same as what the author/narrator states, every chapter will resonate with the 'nice guy'.
The author has had enough experience dealing with nice guys to be able to hit on alot of signals associated with the issue to which i was not prepared for. To say he knows my deep seated issues is an understatement.
Quality of narration and subject knowledge is top class.
If you want to get the most out of this audio book, do not take this as a fleeting past time that you listen to on the way to work for 15minutes; dive into it head first, set a few hours aside regularly to do the activities and dig down deep to confront all the shit and sort out all that preprograming that is holding you back.

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  • Lyndsey
  • 01-31-19

every man needs to read

this is an amazing book for both men and women an eye opener and a new happy life

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  • Dreamer
  • 11-28-18

Sensible Observations

The book details a (male child's) defective self development at childhood and how it affect his choice of spouse and subsequently his conduct in the relationship by passing on the buck, when in reality the man uses pkeasing behaviour to cover up for his short coming , and sonehows sees the other person as the issue, despite the man (child) best effort ar deceptive an overt pleasing behaviour. The pleasing behaviour is includes but is not limited to the following. Buying his partner gifts, helping with house work and generally doing whats expected of a (beta male) or man child

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  • Dave Blundell
  • 09-08-18

The best book a man can read!

Where do I start? After trying to find a cure for struggling with life and love. Having read books on self help, spirituality and the meaning of life this book diagnosed me 100%. Yep I am a Nice Guy! This was like reading my own life story.... because it was! I read this book open mouthed and amazed, after 50 years of hell I now know the problem that has been my constant curse. I owe Robert Glover a debt of gratitude, because now I can hopefully become a "Man" and not a "Nice guy" anymore. If you're a male out there struggling in life and love and never getting to where you think you deserve to be you have to read this book. In fact I think every man needs to read this book to stop and to halt the nice guy/half man plague that has afflicted the male population. BUY THIS BOOK YOU WILL NOT BE SORRY 10/10

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  • Joe Bloom
  • 11-24-18

Probably the most important book I have ever read

See your relationships for what they are/were. This book shows you how you have a nice guy mentality that in fact causes more problems, insecurities and manipulation within you.

Just read this damn book, and then read it another 3 times.

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  • Sunil
  • 07-06-19

Good listen. Helped me a lot

The book was scarily accurate to what I experience in life and has helped me to think about actions I can take to overcome them. Well worth a listen for any man experiencing difficulties in life.

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  • M H BELL
  • 06-24-19

Life changing stuff in here

This book is probably the most important book I have ever listened to. If you exhibit any of the nice guy traits found on their website then this book will have something for you.

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  • Teddy
  • 07-02-18

Absolute Godsend!

I was one of those guys many years ago, 10 yrs in the same job too scared to start my own business. After listening to this I started training in Muay Thai at age 28. It was one of the best things I ever did for myself. My confidence exploded. Left my job, started my own business, married the girl of my dreams.

Sadly once married I slipped back into Nice guy / AFC / Beta guy tendencies. My business failed, marriage failed and here I am almost 10 years later starting over again.

The takeaway is once you break out, don’t stop doing the stuff recommended in this book that got you out. It’s so easy to slip back in.

Go time!!

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  • Antonino
  • 07-29-18

life changing.

I feel like the book was written based on my life. would definitely recommend to other people

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  • Anonymous User
  • 07-22-18

Life Changing

Initially, I wasn’t sure if this book was for me. If I could get something out of it that would be great, but instead it really hit me with some home truths that will transform my life in all areas

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  • Michael
  • 06-01-18

Thank you.

This book was a well deserved & overdue slip in the face. Thank you so much.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 02-22-18

a must read for all blokes

absolutely blew my mind
I never felt so understood before and it answered so many nagging feelings I've had within myself

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  • stuart hearn
  • 07-04-19

i thought for a moment he was writing about me!

insightful, accurate and entertaining , a definate re-read and a must read for any man regardless of your own perceived absence or presence of the nice guy traits.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 07-04-19

Great insight

This book has given me great insight into who I portrayed to be and what I needed to do to change to become the man I truly am and want to be.

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  • Jernej
  • 05-19-19

I believe this got to a new path of betterment

Most of the books talks about self betterment in a very generic way and doesn't feel like the right choice as it is not catered for different kind of problems people have. This book is for nice guys to help nice guys written by a recovering nice guys!

While this book focuses a lot on sex, the underlying issues are are almost the same for life in general when it comes to Mr. Nice Guy.

I also love how he used several different examples from real people to give you perspective and in some cases to identify yourself and see there is hope!

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  • Nathan
  • 05-09-19

Interesting

I found this book useful, even after reading a few hours in and realising that I don't really identify with the typical "nice guy". So some aspects were useful, but most weren't.

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  • Jason
  • 04-25-19

Great Audio book

Fantasic!

A real eye opener, rules to live by for the modern nice guy .