Mind Games

Emotionally Manipulative Tactics Partners Use to Control Relationships and Force the Upper Hand

By: Pamela Kole

Narrated by: Rebekah Amber Clark

Length: 1 hr and 41 mins

Publisher's summary

Do you feel like you have to walk on eggshells around your partner? Or that the wrong phrase might set them off? Are you unhappy in your relationship, but can't bear to pull yourself away from it? Do you feel inadequate and sometimes deserving of the treatment you get? Recognize that your partner is your manipulator and abuser - don't allow them to force the upper hand. Mind Games uncovers a host of underhanded, sneaky, and malicious emotional manipulation tactics that manipulators and abusers use to beat you down and control you. We might all be able to recognize blatant abuse, but when we're emotionally invested, it's tough to see the little signs that are in front of our faces sometimes. They'll lead to you feeling worthless and vulnerable, making it almost impossible to leave your situation.

In this book, I identify many common tactics that you may be intimately and sadly familiar with, complete with real life examples for each to help you identify them in your daily life. What emotionally manipulative tactics will you learn to identify and stop? *

• Gaslighting and telling you that your concern is an overreaction, or quite simply wrong
• How the silent treatment is used as punishment and forces compliance
• Playing the victim and how it transforms your issues into guilt and pity
• Your abuser's time machine and how they use it to their advantage

More importantly:

• An analysis of the psychology behind why your partner acts the way they do...and why you stay
• Guidelines for how to deal with a partner that is your manipulator and abuser
• Why your abuser loves controlling you, not necessarily you

Emotional manipulation tactics are still abuse, even if there are no physical signs. Gain the knowledge and subsequent courage you need to leave your situation and find true happiness, not someone else's definition of it. Learn to detect when your abuser is not acting in your best interest, and exactly how they make you believe that they are.

©2017 Pamela Kole (P)2017 Pamela Kole

Excellent

I really like this book. It was almost as if it were written about me. It touches on many different types of manipulation and as it's being read the similarities are very familiar and i identified with almost every one. The examples of each scenario are also very well described. It helped me to clarify that i am a victim of emotional abuse. The suggestions it offers at the end seem to be good advice.

Great book if you've got a narcissistic partner!

I learned a lot of things I wish I'd known 35 years ago. If you feel like your relationship's on the brink and you're about to go over with it, read or listen to this book! It's simple to understand and some parts are downright eye and mind opening.

great content and examples

narration was a bit monotonous. although, narrator did put some emotion and emphasis at times. otherwise good information.

Wow! The Truth Reveled.

A real eye opener. it's my third time listening to it and each time I learned about another area that I was taken advantage of by her. A real sneaky and manipulating smiling lying "lady" hustler. Thank God I listen to this book and friends and learned to stop making excuses for her.

I've been through a lot of what this books speaks

I can identify with a lot of what is written in this book. Knowledge really is power... and freedom from control freaks. Great read.

effective advise

This book will help you move forward effectively with abuse survivalship. The only way to grow is to research and understand the behaviors presented by this author! Brilliant!!

interesting

this audiobook was interesting. it made me think about my relationship and I was able to take pieces and apply them to my own relationship.

This is a good read

What made the experience of listening to Mind Games the most enjoyable?

I could relate to everything in this book. I have been married to a verbal abuser for years and this book just reconfirmed everything for me.

Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

Yes.

Eye opener

Eye opener, for those women who have become accustom to only meeting their partner's needs.

Direct & to the Point

What did you love best about Mind Games?

This is great for that self doubt thing we are so known to do. It validates that sinking knot in the pit of your stomach that doesn't seem to ever go away and is helpful as a distraction from engaging and giving hope yet again if/when no contact had begun or in preparation.

What did you like best about this story?

This will answer your questions quickly... Which is so needed when overwhelmed and in the fog.

What does Rebekah Amber Clark bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?

N/A

What’s an idea from the book that you will remember?

How confident Pamela Kole is in distinguishing ploys as manipulative abuse in no uncertain terms. Especially helpful perhaps for those of us involved with coverts.