Magic Words

How to Get What You Want from a Narcissist

By: Lindsey Ellison

Narrated by: Lindsey Ellison

Length: 1 hr and 12 mins

Publisher's summary

Power play: Outsmart, outmaneuver, and utterly confound a narcissist

If you are locked into a relationship with a narcissist, such as an employer, a high-conflict partner, an ex-spouse with shared custody, or perhaps a family member, this audiobook is for you.

Based upon years of research and experience coaching victims of narcissistic abuse, Lindsey Ellison has masterminded a communication strategy that will allow you to protect your interests without conflict or drama.

Lindsey has created a deft, intelligently crafted script you can use to neutralize the power struggle. Her practical, step-by-step guide offers simple yet life-changing strategies that inspire cooperation. This book provides templates for communication that deescalates and neutralizes previously combative and emotionally charged exchanges.

Whether you communicate via text or email or in-person, Magic Words will offer you the chance to influence the dynamic between you and your narcissist for the better.

©2018, 2019 Lindsey Ellison (P)2019 Lindsey Ellison

Quick, easy, helpful read!

I have two teens with an extreme narcissist who uses them at every turn and will not co-parent. The no contact rule is virtually impossible with children in general. You couple teenage drama, learning disabilities, sports, and still going through the legal divorce process after 2 1/2 years etc, it is a recipe for pure and utter madness with the narcissist in control.

Most books on self help period are dull are hard to apply to your situations. This book was fast paced, easy to follow and very helpful. Even though the workbook was extra I found it to be a helpful tool as well because I am more visual when trying to map something out.

I HIGHLY recommend this book to anyone who has children with a Narcissist divorced or otherwise.

Great Book

a great deal of relative information if you're dealing with a narcissist in your life. it's a quick read but it's not filled with a bunch of psychological fluff it gets straight to the point and you walk away with more knowledge than you had before. I recommend it 100%

Love this book!

If only I had this information 20 years ago! This is an effective, relatable way of teaching this new language. Communication is key to all relationships. Lindsey does an excellent job of teaching ways to speak to and negotiate with people that are difficult to do so with. I found it extremely beneficial to me as a woman healed from a narcissistic marriage. This is a must read guidebook for anyone struggling to be heard.

Needed this to rise above the narcissism he continues to throw at me

I’m struggling to co parent with a narcissist and set boundaries. This will be added to my tool box of research and practices to make it better for whom it really counts. My 13 year old son and 15 year old transgender son (ftm). As well as my 5 grown adult kids. Thank you

you will need this in your battle!

Most pragmatic book I ever read on how to handle narcissists. it's for the more advanced , who already understand the whole psychology of narcissism. brief but to the point, no nonsense. Love it. this 1 hr of listening gave me more practical tools than all the tens of hrs of YouTube videos I watched! thank you Lindsey for your work!

Insightful and helpful

Appreciate the perspective on how to deal with a relationship with a toxic malignant narcissist. The horrific abuse these people inflict is dehumanizing and de-identifying, and (in my case with my husband) filled with criminal activity. This book, paired with others, provides further insight into the fact that there are others out there who have endured the extreme suffering and pain. I will never get back my pregnancies that were lost because of his horrific abuse, but I am thankful to have escaped his physical abuse when I did. Unfortunately narcissists are enabled by bosses, employees, senior administrators and lurk like predators as professors, directors, scientists, researchers etc. in positions gained by fraudulent means. While little can be done right now - sharing information and knowledge to help others is most valuable.
- Mrs. RL Winslow

dead on.

if you are wondering if you are the victim of a narcissist, give this a listen. its like she peaked into my nightmare.

Author’s life story with examples

Hmm.. well I did appreciate that she offered other resources at the end;


CLINICAL RESOURCES
1. The Human Magnet Syndrome
****Co-dependent no more (Melody Beattie)
3. Narcissist exposed
4. The wizard of Oz and other Narcissists
5. Too good to leave, too bad to stay.
****Boundaries (Townsend)
7. How to break your addiction to a person.
8. Will I ever be free from you? (Carol McBride)

SPIRITUAL RESOURCES
1. You can heal your life.
2. Conversations with God.
3. Awaken the inner shaman
4. The vortex
5. The Law of Divine Compensation.
****The Four Agreements. (+ The Fifth Agreement)
7. Rising Strong
8. Anatomy of the Spirit.
9. Change your thoughts, Change your life (Wayne Dyer)

I stared the ones that I read and 100% recommend for everyone. I also found this book titled “exaholic” to be very eye-opening and providing evolutionary explanation to our modern behaviors.

great read

I would have loved to hear more from the author on this topic please

Very insightful!

I really enjoyed listening to this book. It touched on a lot of situations that I have had through my marriage with a narcissist. I truly believe this to be one of the best books about a narcissistic relationshipI personally had to listen to, or read. I found the suggestions the author gave to be very helpful and easy to understand. I have actually tried some of them with my narcissist and seriously they work, just don’t tell the narcissist what you’re doing, Or that you read this book that helps tell you how to get along with them! Consider this your little secret that helps you make life easier when dealing with your narcissist.