"Don't You Know Who I Am?": How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility

De: Ramani S. Durvasula PhD

Narrado por: Ramani S. Durvasula PhD

It’s time to take our lives back from a world of narcissism, entitlement, and toxic relationships.

“Don’t you know who I am?” has become the mantra of the famous and infamous, the entitled and the insecure. It’s the tagline of the modern narcissist.

Health and wellness campaigns preach avoidance of unhealthy foods, sedentary lifestyles, tobacco, drugs, and alcohol, but rarely preach avoidance of unhealthy, difficult, or toxic people. Yet the health benefits of removing toxic people from your life may have far greater benefits to both physical and psychological health. We need to learn to be better gatekeepers for our minds, bodies, and souls.

Narcissism, entitlement, and incivility have become the new world order, and we are all in trouble. They are not only normalized but also increasingly incentivized. They are manifestations of pathological insecurity - insecurities that are experienced at both the individual and societal level. The paradox is that we value these patterns. We venerate them through social media, mainstream media, and consumerism, and they are endemic in political, corporate, academic, and media leaders.

There are few lives untouched by narcissists. These relationships infect those who are in them with self-doubt, despair, confusion, anxiety, depression, and the chronic feeling of being “not enough,” all of which make it so difficult to step away and set boundaries. The illusion of hope and the fantasy of redemption can result in years of second chances, and despondency when change never comes.

It’s time for a wake-up call. It’s time to stem the tide of narcissism, entitlement, and antagonism, and take our lives back.

©2019 Ramani S. Durvasula, PhD (P)2019 Post Hill Press

What a revelation!

I’m beginning this book all over again to listen a second time. As I listened, memories of my life came back to me, and I realized that the behavior of my family of origin was that of narcissists. This has shaped my life and affected that of my dear children. Things I had always wondered about were explained. Why on earth, as a woman of intelligence, had I ended up with the men I had? Dr Durvasala explained why. Why did my family dress me up as a little girl, send me to a private school yet treat me with such coldness and hate? Dr Durvasala explained why. Thank you so much Dr. Durvasala, and bless you

Wow

This is a comprehensive pep talk for those of us who need to move past a life time identity of “not enoughness” . It covers every damn thing you need to hear and understand to move on.

Clear guidance on recognizing needy, selfish people who believe they deserve the world!

This book gave me directions on knowing and avoiding self-righteous people who are demanding and un-caring of other people’s lives and needs. I recommend you read and absorb this book so you can avoid narcissistic people.

Excellent for those in narcissistic relationships and also helpful for self introspection.

I did not like the author choosing to single out President Trump over and over when there are many, many others in politics who fall into this category. Keep the political agenda out of an excellent, informative, and helpful book and guide.

The best book on mental sanity

Words fall very short for a proper description of this creation and compilation of knowledge. Doctor Ramani is the leader of a true north for our society, for strong desire to improve as sane, cultured, empathic and transcendent humans. She herself has walked the path of full recovery from the Narcissits legacy of mental turmoil. I myself confess this book is showing me in every possible way how to walk through life with her example and guidance. No other person, situation or mentor has been able to save my sanity as Dr Ramani has done. Thank you, sincerely your admirer S.N.

Most help healing yet!

tremendous book! Dr. Ramani is brilliant on this subject. those of us who have been victims are so very fortunate to have her leading us to and through this long, arduous journey out of hell. this book is thorough. she covers it all, and you will love it, too.

Narcissistic & Toxic People & Culture Explained

If you have a narcissist in your life, and chances are, you do, this will help you understand what's going on. Stop doubting yourself. Get clarity. Know how to live your own life peacefully. HIGHLY recommended.

This will jar your life back to reality.

Dr. Ramani had me pausing this and yelling out loud to how much she hit the nail on the head. She has mastered the gears that are in a narcissist. Incredible book. Like seeing the picture pop out in those 3D posters that just look like background noise.

Great read!

Entertaining, intelligent, and inspiring. Highly recommend this book for both those struggling with the issues examined within it and social "observers" of this epidemic.

Great book

I recommend this book to anyone who is interested in narcissism and other personality disorders.
It’s easy to understand and really relevant!