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I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t) Audiobook

I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t): Telling the Truth about Perfectionism, Inadequacy, and Power

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Publisher's Summary

The quest for perfection is exhausting and unrelenting. We spend too much precious time and energy managing perception and creating carefully edited versions of ourselves to show to the world. As hard as we try, we can't seem to turn off the tapes that fill our heads with messages like, Never good enough! and What will people think?

Why? What fuels this unattainable need to look like we always have it all together? At first glance, we might think its because we admire perfection, but that's not the case. We are actually the most attracted to people we consider to be authentic and down-to-earth. We love people who are real; we're drawn to those who both embrace their imperfections and radiate self-acceptance.

There is a constant barrage of social expectations that teach us that being imperfect is synonymous with being inadequate. Everywhere we turn, there are messages that tell us who, what, and how were supposed to be. So, we learn to hide our struggles and protect ourselves from shame, judgment, criticism, and blame by seeking safety in pretending and perfection.

Based on seven years of ground-breaking research and hundreds of interviews, I Thought It Was Just Me shines a long-overdue light on an important truth: Our imperfections are what connect us to each other and to our humanity. Our vulnerabilities are not weaknesses; they are powerful reminders to keep our hearts and minds open to the reality that we're all in this together.

As Dr. Brown writes, "We need our lives back. It's time to reclaim the gifts of imperfection - the courage to be real, the compassion we need to love ourselves and others, and the connection that gives true purpose and meaning to life. These are the gifts that bring love, laughter, gratitude, empathy and joy into our lives."

©2007 Brené Brown (P)2010 Audible, Inc.

What the Critics Say

"Brené Brown’s ability to explore shame and resilience with humor, vulnerability and honesty is both uplifting and liberating. If we want to change our lives, our relationships or even the world, we must start by understanding and overcoming the shame that keeps us silent. This important and hopeful book offers a bold new perspective on the power of telling our stories." (Professor Jody Williams, 1997 Nobel Peace Prize Recipient; Campaign Ambassador, International Campaign to Ban Landmines)

"Grounded in exceptional scholarship and filled with inspiring stories, this is one of those rare books that has the potential to turn lives around." (Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., author of The Dance of Anger)

"I Thought It Was Just Me can be a doorway to freedom and self-esteem for many, many readers. (Martha Beck, Ph.D., columnist, O, The Oprah Magazine, and author of Finding Your Own North Star)

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    E. McNair 02-12-17
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    "Every time I think she's shown me at all…"

    I have read three of Brene Brown's other books before I read this one. I had no idea how much this one would change how I felt. In some ways I wish I had read this one first, but at the same time having already dabbled in her theories I was more familiar with what she was talking about. I will forever be changed from reading this book.

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    Justyna 01-02-17
    Justyna 01-02-17
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    "Interesting but not for me"

    Definitely there were parts that I appreciated for being insightful and explaining things, soon the book became pretty boring and repetitive as it constantly circled around the issues of parenting and family.
    I'm in my mid 20s, I'm still a student, and I have no interest in creating a family, let alone having children. A lot of the examples and discussions in the book simply weren't for me. I might re-visit it in 10-15 years when it becomes more relevant. That's really the only thing about this book that dissatisfied me, and of course that's a very subjective reason.

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    William Mouradian 11-19-16 Member Since 2016
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    "For men as well as women"

    Although mostly geared towards women, men will find much in this regarding the women in their lives, and also regarding their own lives.

    For any man who ever felt he didn't understand any important woman in his life, and wanted to be of help.

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    Nanurala 09-07-16
    Nanurala 09-07-16
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    "Such great material"

    I really enjoyed this book. The narrator was good however I prefer when read by Brene herself. There is so much helpful information in this book to help understand shame in our own lives and others. I will relisten to this book again soon because the material is so rich and I have so much to implement in my own life and work. Thanks Brene and support team!

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    Tracy Redondo 08-09-16 Member Since 2016
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    "Fantastic"

    I am a clinical social worker and found this book to be pertinent to both my professional and personal growth. Wonderful!

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    Doralee Quintero 07-31-16
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    "Great book!"

    This book helped me so much to remember to Practice mindfulness. I also learned the difference between shaming and feeling guilty.

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    Pamela H. 04-09-16
    Pamela H. 04-09-16
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    "Author Brenee Brown studies 'Her insight's and research to the role of vulnerability"

    This is an enjoyable read with access to web site down loads for hands on look at what keeps persons from being unable to change negative assessment and behaviors, judgement and engaged suffering related to how we are treated by other's. Speaks truly to those who need to break cycles in life that at times leave them feeling helpless or disparagingly sad or discouraged, as to where they fit or how they are influenced by different types of interpersonal relationships that cause different styles of hvulnerability in our lives. This book is both in-depth with research related studies, based off of best seller list of 'The Power of Vulnerability in our daily lives. Slant is based some what more related to women and self esteem yet applies to any gender reader.

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    "Important points, anemic delivery"
    What was most disappointing about Brené Brown’s story?

    This book makes a number of interesting and relevant points. Unfortunately it’s not a smooth read/listen – it is much longer and more repetitive than it needs to be. The book has the appearance of something that was adapted from a thesis, but wasn’t rearranged to be reader friendly. I think that Brown’s evaluation of shame vs. humiliation vs. embarrassment is very important. I just wish it had been more clearly conveyed.


    Did Lauren Fortgang do a good job differentiating all the characters? How?

    Fortgang did a good job narrating this book. She sounded compassionate and sincere, and conveyed the emotion that I think Brown intended.


    Any additional comments?

    I believe the book could have been streamlined. Sharpening the points and examples and making the book about half the length would have made it far stronger.

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    Alshana 07-30-15
    Alshana 07-30-15 Member Since 2015
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    "valid points worth reading"

    it took me awhile to finish mostly because there were so many good points and areas of revelation that I had to go back and re-listen to make sure I was internalizing the info correctly.

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    S. Kornweibel Seattle, WA 07-24-15
    S. Kornweibel Seattle, WA 07-24-15 Member Since 2015

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    "A transformative journey through ordinary encourage, connection, compassion, shame and resilience"

    This book was transformative for me personally, professionally, and in my parenting. I am so grateful to Brene Brown for her research, writing, storytelling and perspective. I will be sharing this book with my friends and family for many years to come.

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    5/20/17
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    "I Think it is Just Me…."
    Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

    I think it might just be me, but this is not as good as the other audiobooks narrated by Brene Brown as she has her own style and delivers the stories with great humour.

    Nevertheless this is a good audiobook, that discusses Brene's research on shame and in so doing helps us to have a greater understanding of shame.


    How would you have changed the story to make it more enjoyable?

    If the book were read by the author.


    What three words best describe Lauren Fortgang’s voice?

    There was nothing wrong with the narration, but Brene Brown is more upbeat and really funny. The problem with the narration is that at times I could not work out if the narrator was referring to Brene or to someone in the research group.


    Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

    This is not a book that I could listen to in one sitting and some of the work takes time to reflect on.


    Any additional comments?

    A good audiobook filled with lots of interesting stories, but this would be better still if delivered by the author herself.

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  • Gray Wilton
    5/17/17
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    "not entirely universal"

    i really like the theme of this book. That said this book is clearly aimed at women. Many of the overall themes are universal and in that respect i found this book very useful, however, the case studies she uses to illustrate her points are very feminine and not relateable to my personal experiences and not experiences i can relate to. i would like to see Brene do something similar but with men and women in mind.

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