Burnout

The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle
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Publisher's Summary

This groundbreaking audiobook explains why women experience burnout differently than men - and provides a simple, science-based plan to help women minimize stress, manage emotions, and live a more joyful life.

"Essential reading." (Bustle

Named One of the Best Books of the Year by Book Riot 

Burnout. Many women in America have experienced it. What’s expected of women and what it’s really like to be a woman in today’s world are two very different things - and women exhaust themselves trying to close the gap between them. How can you “love your body” when every magazine cover has 10 diet tips for becoming “your best self”? How do you “lean in” at work when you’re already operating at 110 percent and aren’t recognized for it? How can you live happily and healthily in a sexist world that is constantly telling you you’re too fat, too needy, too noisy, and too selfish?

Sisters Emily Nagoski, PhD, and Amelia Nagoski, DMA, are here to help end the cycle of feeling overwhelmed and exhausted. Instead of asking us to ignore the very real obstacles and societal pressures that stand between women and well-being, they explain with compassion and optimism what we’re up against - and show us how to fight back. 

In this audiobook, you’ll learn:

  • What you can do to complete the biological stress cycle - and return your body to a state of relaxation
  • How to manage the “monitor” in your brain that regulates the emotion of frustration
  • How the Bikini Industrial Complex makes it difficult for women to love their bodies - and how to defend yourself against it
  • Why rest, human connection, and befriending your inner critic are keys to recovering and preventing burnout 

With the help of eye-opening science, prescriptive advice, and helpful exercises, all women will find something transformative in this audiobook - and will be empowered to create positive change. Emily and Amelia aren’t here to preach the broad platitudes of expensive self-care or insist that we strive for the impossible goal of “having it all”. Instead, they tell us that we are enough, just as we are - and that wellness, true wellness, is within our reach. 

"Burnout is the gold standard of self-help books, delivering cutting-edge science with energy, empathy, and wit. The authors know exactly what’s going on inside your frazzled brain and body, and exactly what you can do to fix it. Truly life-changing." (Sarah Knight, New York Times best-selling author of Calm the F--k Down

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2019 Emily Nagoski (P)2019 Random House Audio

Critic Reviews

“In Burnout, Emily and Amelia Nagoski deconstruct the stress we experience as women, and their compassionate, science-based advice on how to release it made me cry with gratitude and relief. Repeatedly. In public. The book is that revolutionary and its authors that wonderful and wise.” (Peggy Orenstein, author of Girls and Sex: Navigating the Complicated New Landscape)

“Reading Burnout, I knew this was not just another self-help book that keeps us trapped by the idea of female inadequacy. It turns our struggle with stress on its head and paves a meaningful path to what the authors call ‘growing mighty’ by bravely dropping in thoroughly contemporary and refreshing truth bombs, like, yeah, the patriarchal system is the issue, and goddamn it’s time we play by our own rules!" (Sarah Wilson, New York Times best-selling author of First, We Make the Beast Beautiful)

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Strong start, got a bit ranty. Couldn’t finish it.

The beginning of this book was promising and I really enjoyed the narration. In the beginning you could hear flecks if angry feminism and I get it, I’m a feminist and get angry too. The problem is when you pick up a book that sounds like something that is going to help you through something, in this case burnout, and it turns into you and the author just getting mad about the circumstances that led to the problem. Yeah, that was kinda how it got after the first chapter and just kept going. It is important to know how women get burnout but maybe having already known that stuff, it just was fuel to a fire for me and just made me angrier about things that are way beyond my control. I got to the last couple of hours and had to stop listening because it was taking me further down the disengagement with life than I was when I picked up the book.

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Refreshing

I’ve listened to many self help books and they can get repetitive. This one had a fresh voice and intriguing ideas I hadn’t heard before. About to start it over and listen again.

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Solid Book with a Single Exception

As a man who first listened to Come as You Are, and who then recommended it to his wife and 15 year-old son, I was excited to move on to Burnout. As many did, I found the stress response cycle to be an intriguing idea in Come as You Are. I also found the book to be more universally applicable to men and women than the title suggested, gaining valuable insights into my own sexuality, not just my partner's.

My lone exception to Burnout book is the introduction. The introduction lumps all men into The Patriarchy and then proceeds to label The Patriarchy as The Enemy. I kept waiting for some distinction to emerge between The Enemy and men who care about their wives and daughters and the cultural messages they receive about their lives and particularly how they SHOULD lead their lives. Yet no mention was ever made; in fact The Enemy, without distinction, was repeated multiple times throughout the introduction.

As a college educated, white male and the sole income earner in a 1950's-style nuclear family, I understand the privileged position I'm in. And I don't take it for granted. Yet that privilege doesn't impart a carefree, stress-free life. My gender and my role carry their own embedded and misguided cultural messages, their own stressors, and I do actually have my own stress-response cycle to complete. But above all else, I care about how my wife and young daughter are expected to move through and respond to the world.

I kept waiting for the introduction to make the leap to the conceptual Enemy - The Should. I can except The Patriarchy as having established and continuing to perpetuate the myth of Should. It is the idea that any of us Should live our lives conforming to outdated and detrimental cultural norms about gender, religious, and racial equality, and more importantly true, individual freedoms, that is The Enemy. Failing to make room for a single man who actually cares is itself a perpetuation of outdated and detrimental cultural stereotypes.

It hasn't ruined the book for me. The book is, as expected, insightful, helpful and universally applicable to women and to men (who also actually have emotions). I'll still ask that my wife listen to it, and even recommend it to both my 15yo son and 12yo daughter. And I'd recommend it to whomever has taken the time to read this.

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Timely and insightful

The authors do a great job of breaking down the causes of burnout and what we can do in response. While geared toward women, the learnings and tools are applicable to all, and I would go as far to say that most managers and parents irrespective of gender should give this a read to help better society overall. Another massively insightful, science backed book. I’d trust these authors with anything.

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Great content, couldn’t finish it

The tips and advice in this book are fantastic, but I couldn’t get past all the trying to be cool references. The narration was awful too. I couldn’t finish listening and returned it, but plan to get a hard copy because the strategies really are great.

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revelatory!

I honestly CAN. NOT. Say enough good things about this book! This is us! It is how our brains work! It is how and why our friendships work! This book is nourishment! It's vegetables for the soul! It explains SO much of the stress response, and why the things that make us feel better work! It's written by twins, they read it and are fun. This book is especially intended for women and talks about some of the systematic stresses we experience. It includes people of color and LGBTQ etc, makes disclaimers about the science (who did the science, who paid for it, who was and wasn't studied). It talks about stress from body issues, and the patriarchy and politics. Please add this to your must read list. This would be an excellent book for allies, men who want to improve diversity in the workplace, or wherever. Please encourage them to understand us better. I've literally had aha after aha about stress, coping methods, and even normalizing reassurance about the slightly woo-feeling of Knowing how other people feel. This book is helpful, normalizing, and encouraging. I want you all to read it and know that you are the new Hotness!. 😘💌

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A Lot of Great Insight

This book had a lot of great insight. Some of the examples can get a little distracting with how they present it. Overall however, there was a lot of good ideas every woman should know.

I disagree with some of the views stating the book had a feminist propaganda. Woman for the most part have been raised and treated differently then males. Although I do not know if I agree to some of the extent to which it was presented, it is important to respect the social and culture differences attributing to burn out.

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Not a burnout book, mostly a feminist rant.

The first chapter or two sounded so promising! But it's as if the authors ran out of science and helpful ideas after that and decided to just tell us (women) how unfair the world is that we live in. I'm pretty sure most women already know this and hearing it spelled out to us (complete with the narrators making a gross gagging / throat-spit noise every time they said the word "patriarchy" (every single time!) The sound alone quickly became beyond annoying and kept pulling me out of the book. The rest of the book was all over the place, talking about shopping trips and fat shaming and how the authors (and their friends) stuck up for them. I'm sorry, that's not burnout. Needs a new title, like "A Female Rant About Patriarchy." I am a professional woman, working in the corporate world, and was really hoping for some advice on how to lower stress in my daily life. This is not that book.

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Great science if you push past the agenda

This book has seriously transformed the way I work with clients as their mental health therapist. It has reframed the way I view stress and has reinforced the message of self care in an evidence based no BS way. I LOVE that.

I would have rated this title 5 stars if there had been less man bashing and political messages being delivered. I certainly did not purchase this book to hear about how oppressed I am as a women. Was getting quite tired of the phrase "patriarch...eck" We get it, you hate masculinity and everything it stands for.

I have recommended this book to other women but have warned them...as long as you can stick to the science and real life tools to deal with stress and ignore the underlying agenda, you will gain great knowledge.

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Leftist and very whiny.

There are some helpful ideas for coping with burnout; but the important stuff is buried in extreme leftist politics. And, I just don't care for whiny. This was in the self-help section. It should be in the whiny, crybaby, I hate men section. And it needs a warning label that it's more politics than help. I'm a 60 year old woman. I know many women all colors and all sorts of political leanings. Everyone of them are strong, mature women. They don't whine; and they like men just fine. I'm burned out from trying to get thru this book.

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