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Women Who Think Too Much

How to Break Free of Overthinking and Reclaim Your Life
Narrated by: Sheryl Bernstein
Length: 2 hrs and 58 mins
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From one of the nation's preeminent experts in the study of women and emotion, here is a breakthrough new book based on the author's award-winning research.

It's not a surprise that our fast-paced, overly analytical culture is pushing people - especially women - to spend countless hours thinking about negative ideas, feelings, and experiences. Renowned psychologist Dr. Susan Nolen-Hoeksema calls this overthinking. Her groundbreaking research shows that an increasing number of women - more than half of those in her extensive study - are doing it too much and too often, hindering their ability to lead a satisfying life.

Overthinking can be anything from fretting about big questions such as "What am I doing with my life?" to losing sleep over a friend's innocent comment. It is causing women to feel sad, anxious, or seriously depressed, and she challenges the assumption that constantly expressing and analyzing our emotions is a good thing. In Women Who Think Too Much, Nolen-Hoeksema provides concrete strategies that can be used to escape these negative thoughts, move to higher ground, and avoid future traps.

©2003 Susan Nolen-Hoeksema (P)2003 Macmillan Audio

Critic Reviews

"A must read for any woman who has ever felt stuck in her life, and any man who has been confused by why the women they love get so 'caught up thinking' they can't enjoy life. Nolen-Hoeksema offers practical methods to self-diagnose and pathways toward greater emotional freedom." (William S. Pollack, Ph.D., Assistant Clinical Professor, Department of Psychiatry, Harvard University)

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  • Traci
  • Plainfield, IL, United States
  • 01-30-12

Ironically, thought provoking!

A helpful listen for women and men. Susan helps to explain in real words what women have known forever, but maybe haven't been able to understand as very normal mental behavior. For men, it will certainly give you a glimpse in to the complexity of the female mind and provide some direction (should you choose to accept it) for enriching your female relationships.

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Loved 1st chapter but not the long stories after..

Loved the first chapter. After that, long-drawn stories of hardship... I am a little disappointed.

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It will not play!

The only reason I signed up for the membership and it won’t play this book.

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Couldn't Finish

As I listened I thought how sad women were portrayed in this book. I thought women sounded whiney in an exaggerated way. Maybe the last chapter would have been redeeming, but I just couldn't risk it.

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Hit the nail right on the head!

I love that this book breaks down the different stages of overthinking because not every overthinking episode is the same! It is a great book that I would listen to more than once. I felt so empowered reading this book.

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wonderful book to find answer for constant worries

great easy to follow. advise
clarify or the confusion women have in their head about what if

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  • Irina
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  • 01-14-19

Depressing

Paid 14.95. Can only sample it for 5 minutes?? Super hard to use this App. Bullshit!

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Generic tools for overcoming overthinking

I approached this book with a hopes I would walk away with some real tools to overcome overthinking. Instead, I heard many stories that confirm I overthink (yes, I knew this) and that there are many people that do (also no surprise). I do not recommend this book for anyone single or in a miserable/unsupportive relationship. Many of the stories used involved women that had loving/supporting spouses that helped them get through their hardships. Great for them!!! For those that do not have that special person in their life, then...
I replayed many parts to make sure I didn’t accidentally miss any of the tools and all I came away with is that we must stop ourselves from thinking negatively (duh!)...and the common theme I recall in the stories is women yelling “STOP!” at themselves whenever they see themselves going down that path. I will try it but feel like I need something more. My search continues.

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I struggled all my life overthinking not only as who I am as a bit insecure woman but things my father has put in my head about other people as well as my mother but they are not to blame they also did not grow up with a good foundation of thinking. However, this book is short but enough to reread to remind me of my daily patterns that aren’t productive and hold me back. I’ve learned quite a bit of myself and society with examples she brought up on the book and points out tips on what not to and how not to overthink about certain situations. I recommend this book to pretty much everybody because I believe many of us struggle in some point with negative or overthinking.

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Could not hold my attention. Generic suggestions.

The stories provided as to why people tend to overthink did not result in ways to suggest behavior modifications that would reduce your tendency not to over think. Basically, get a hobby, distract yourself, be assertive with your needs and find people who are supportive toward you and nourish those relationships.