Boundaries, Updated and Expanded Edition

When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life

By: John Townsend, Henry Cloud

Narrated by: Henry O. Arnold

Length: 11 hrs and 18 mins

Publisher's summary

Boundaries is the book that's helped more than four million people learn when to say yes and know how to say no in order to take control of their lives.

Does your life feel like it's out of control? Perhaps you feel like you have to say yes to everyone's requests. Maybe you find yourself readily taking responsibility for others' feelings and problems. Or perhaps you focus so much on being loving and unselfish that you've forgotten your own limits and limitations. Or maybe it's all of the above.

In the New York Times best seller, Boundaries, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend help you learn when to say yes and know how to say no in order to take control of your life and set healthy, biblical boundaries with your spouse, children, friends, parents, co-workers, and even yourself.

Now updated and expanded for the digital age, this book continues to help millions of people around the world answer these tough questions:

• Can I set limits and still be a loving person?
• What are legitimate boundaries?
• How do I effectively manage my digital life so that it doesn't control me?
• What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries?
• How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money?
• Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries?
• How do boundaries relate to mutual submission within marriage?
• Aren’t boundaries selfish?

You don’t have to let your life spiral out of control. Discover how boundaries make life better today!

Plus, check out the Boundaries family collection of books dedicated to key areas of life - dating, marriage, raising kids, parenting teens, and leadership. Workbooks and Spanish editions are also available.

©2008 Henry Cloud (P)2017 Zondervan

Wonderful but should probably mention religion or the Bible in title

This is a great book. All the information, examples, and strategies related to boundaries was wonderful! I wish I learned this earlier! It’s helped me so much already, and will continue to help me be more responsible and healthier in my relationships, work, home life, and health. Psychologically sound, with lots of insight and practical wisdom. I’m not religious and at first was a little turned off by all the biblical references, but they were presented very well and from a rational and helpful perspective. No shaming, blaming, guilt, or judgment. I enjoyed learning about the Bible from this positive perspective.

Learned a lot - don’t know what you don’t know

Very encouraging and convicting read. Definitely have to have an open mind. We don’t know what we don’t know. This helps address bad thinking and personal boundary setting for oneself and with others. Opened my eyes to areas in my life that I thought were normal issues that I would just live with. Now I know I can address them and improve. This book provides tangible, step by step ways to address boundaries and setting new ones.

Life changing

There was nothing in this book that I didn’t like. It has opened my eyes and giving me insight and understanding of why my life is such a mess. I’ve been incorporating boundaries in my life and it is amazing how much better my life is becoming. Still a work in progress but this gives me so much hope for a better life.

God is good !

I thank the Lord for his persistence in making it so clear how much I NEEDED this book .
How he knows my heart and what I needed to do to learn to protect it as well as understanding and listening to others . To KNOW how to recognize what I NEED to recognize . God is so good!!
My prayers to him that he sends me someone that is ready for this book as he sent to me :)

Fantastic-Wise Counsel

I read reviews prior to starting this as an audio book. Many comments about preaching. This was fantastic wise counsel, pulling principals out of God’s word that He intended us to live by.

Amazing and helpful book!

This book helped me tremendously, and it was also interesting. So thankful for this book!
I would encourage anyone to read it - you will gain something valuable from this book!

Requirement for Life

So many more people would be living meaningful and fulfilling lives if they were taught and absorbed the principles of this book. It’s a must have for life.

Absolutely Excellent!

I wish I would have listened to this years ago when my wife bought it for me! It really would have changed my life for the better a long time ago

Awesome book

Life’s manual, everybody should read this! This book can change your life, read it twice.

Need to read this yearly

Wow! I read this book 20 years ago. Kind of forgot it until recently when I encountered major conflict with another person. I immediately went and bought this book. What a wealth of information did I find. I have gained confidence, have a plan, feel validated and was given tools that can lead to a healthy reconciliation. I will definitely read it every one to two years!!! Love this version for it has been updated to have relevant information with how much technology has changed.