You're Not Crazy - It's Your Mother

Understanding and Healing for Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers, Book 1
Narrated by: Danu Morrigan
Length: 7 hrs and 3 mins
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If you have a difficult relationship with your mother, this audiobook might well hold the key as to why. If you feel torn, upset, or confused after contact with your mother, then you deserve to have the answers. And maybe that answer is that your mother has Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Find out if she does or not, and what it means for you in the rest of your life.

©2012 Darton Longman and Todd (P)2017 Danu Morrigan
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This book changed my life

I'm finally validated in my thoughts and feelings for years I was told I was selfish, self centered and vapid. For example, I was running errands for my mother on my wedding day! Any normal person would see this as wrong and unconscionable but to her, she was spending all this money on me, it's the least I could do... just reading this book is like going through 10 years of therapy! Highly recommend!!

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Spot on and very helpful for victims.

I generally like this book but the extensive and multiple chapters on EMP a technique that I’m not really sure about might’ve been a bit much. One maybe two examples would have been plenty but 4-5 chapters on just that one modality was too much. Everything else was spot on and so nice to get validation on some shared experiences of other victims.

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Heartbreaking but true

I felt like.the author was describing events taken directly from my childhood. If you are the daughter of a narcissistic mother, this book brings a new perspective to your entire life. It gives you the reasons why, and how to deal with her now that you are an adult. I am
still processing the information. Thank you Danu.

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Really helpful.

I have recently discovered that my mother has narcissistic personality disorder. I am trying to figure out how to deal with it. This book has given me confidence. I love the analogy of the flying monkeys! Fits my dad perfectly. Thanks for these insights.

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It’s my mother!

My sister recommended this book; we have known for a long time that our mother had many traits and behaviors of a Narcissist. If you even ‘think’ your mother could be narcissistic read/listen to this book. It’s crazy, but literally EVERY story and example Danu said, I could think of a similar experience with my mother. EVERY ONE. This book also helped me realize that my complacent father is also a narcissist. While I have forgiven both of them, there is no doubt this brought some memories back up that I have hidden for years. Highly recommend this book, it’s a great listen and was great for helping me process my
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Thank you Danu!

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Blew my mind!

A MUST READ! This book has changed my life... it explains so much. My only wish is that I had learned this information sooner... the heartaches that could have been prevented.

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Amazing book on narcissistic mothers and the damage they do!

This is such an amazing book on the subject of narcissistic mothers, it should be required reading. Danu Morrigan does a wonderful job as both author and narrator: it feels like sitting across from a friend who truly gets what you're going through and what you've been through. Her EFT scripts are FANTASTIC - and I say this as someone who has been practicing EFT for nearly 20 years.

For anyone who has survived a narcissistic mother, this book should absolutely be one to read and read again (or listen to over and over, for the audiobook). I also have the Kindle version so I could highlight especially notable parts, of which there are many.

Even if you've heard or read other books on the subject, get this one as well! It's truly wonderful and helpful more than words can say.

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It has a lot of great information!

It has a lot of great information, however it is a little repetitive at times.

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I FEEL FREE!!! MUST READ!!! THANK YOU!!!

This is one of the best books I've ever read!!! I finally feel like I'm understood and that I'm not too emotional!!! I plan to buy a hard back copy as well to help me with the homework portion!!!

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HealingBalmForInvisibleWoundsSurvivorsOfDONM

IF you are a daughter[err, survivor] of a narcissistic mother.... THIS BOOK IS A MUST HAVE!!!.... The book was of course absolutely great in every possible way..... If you are a D.O.N.M. (Daughter Of a Narcissistic Mother); as Ms./Mrs. Morrigan, (thankfully), simplifies into an acronym. For us fellow Daughters[survivors] Of Narcissistic Mothers.... I have found there is healing when we share our stories. I don't give a flippin flippity flip-flop dippity-tha-tha-doo-doo-doo all the flippin floppity flim flam all the dippity-doo day long... If you think I'm corny when I say I believe from my own experience and shared experience of others, there is such POWERFUL HEALING when we come together listen and share because we do form our own pack, tribe, sisterhood that no one else can fully understand. There's so much value in that. you will find that here. links to other resources. website all kinds of extra stuff.

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  • jane smyth
  • 05-05-19

Put back in my box no-more!!!

I would profusely like to commend and thank the author of this book written in a friendly and validating style. This book changed my life. The original and best on the subject of the chaos that is being a Daughter of A Narcissistic Mother(DONM). We were taught it was all about them and punished for thinking about or putting ourselves first. I felt like there was something inherently wrong with me until I read this book. Such a good job on making me her narcissistic feed, my mother had done that I was WORTH-LESS in every sense of the word. Even though outwardly I had everything. Being one of my mothers scapegoats and never-quite measuring up even though I have a good job, happy family and partner whom loves me I was very angry and felt like a failure no matter how hard I tried. I read this book and went ahhhhhhhhhh!!! I feel as though I knew that there might be something wrong with her as I noticed other mothers weren't like that. This book made my life make sense. I have gone No Contact now and this book gave me the permission to do that!! (not that I needed it really)But if you are a DONM, you will get it. If you feel crazy after spending time with your mother this book is for you.
BLESS YOU DANU FOR YOUR BRAVERY Namaste.

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  • Debbie Carnan
  • 10-31-18

Wow!

I’m so grateful to the author for this book. My life makes sense now. I’m looking forward to putting the scripts into practice. This book is a game changer!

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  • C&J.A18
  • 10-13-18

Got more out of the first half

I have listened to many books on this topic. This one has been my favourite so far. Only negative is the EFT program in the second half, I struggled to get through those sections as I don't feel that they will work for me. Otherwise first half of book was very helpful.

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  • susan wee
  • 01-19-20

So accurate.

It felt like it had been written for me. So validating to hear someone else say what you have known for years but struggled to fully accept.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 04-25-19

great audiable book

after having a mother and a stepmother both what i believed to be narcissists this book gave me light to my heartfelt feelings, i now have a clearer understanding of a healing path i can move towards
thankyou